Ngasekuqaleni kwawo-1070 eMelika, basebenzisa amaselula elele. Umuntu osanda kuvuka futhi akhumbule iphupho lakhe angabiza le foni futhi athole incazelo yokulala ezingeni likaSigmund Freud, kanye neminye imiyalelo kanye namathiphu ekulawuleni iphupho lakhe.
Ngemuva kwalokho, izingqungquthela eziningi eziqhutshwa ezisekelweni zezikhungo ezithandwayo nezigunyazayo zaqala ukusiza. Isibonelo, izingqungquthela zombono kanye nokuzikhandla kwamaphupho amancane e-Stanford University zaziwa futhi zifunwa. Khona-ke izifundo ezingu-10 zibiza ama-dollar angu-1500. Kwabe sekufika i-American Association, eyafunda amaphupho, ngenxa yalokhu kwavela izincwadi eziningi ezikhethekile kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zamakhosi kule ndaba.
AmaMelika ayengeyona amaphayona emkhakheni wemibono eyaziwayo. Leli gama alisungulwe yibo, kodwa ngu-psychologist waseDenmark uFrederick Van Eden. Wanyathelisa incwadi yokuqondisa izincwadi, umuntfu ongenamandla angaphatha amaphupho akhe ngekhulu le-19. Encwadini, u-Idrenasskazival ukuthi yena ngokwakhe wayezifundele amaphupho akhe kangangokuthi wayezokwazi ngisho nokuphupha iphupho (amaphupho amaningi okubhukuda ephusheni), ukuhlangana nabantu abashonile abaseningizimu futhi bahambe ngezinyawo.
Umprofesa waseMelika uStanford University uSteven Lauberge waba umphathi wanamuhla wokuphatha amaphupho. Uyazi ukuthi angazilawula kanjani yena, futhi wabhala uchungechunge lwezincwadi ezisebenzayo ezenza abantu bahlanganyele kwezobuciko bokuphupha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, wadala idivayisi ekhethekile efana kakhulu nezibuko ezibonakalayo ezikwazi ukuphendula ekuhambeni kwe-eyeball futhi zingabangela umuntu ukuba angene ephusheni futhi azibone endaweni elele. Ukuqalwa okunjalo kudinga cishe ama-dollar angu-200.
Kodwa kungenzeka yini ukwazi amaphupho akho ngokwakho futhi wenze izilungiso kubo? Konke kuxhomeke emizamweni yakho. Ngokusekelwe emisebenzini yase-Edeni, i-LaBerge ne-Castaneda, kukhona uhlelo lwezenzo zesinyathelo ngezinyathelo ezizokusiza kulokhu. Bonke laba bantu bathi noma yimuphi umuntu olala ebusuku angaqonda ubuciko bephupho elihle.
Ungafunda kanjani ukuphatha amaphupho akho?
Isinyathelo # 1
Ukuze ufunde indlela yokuphatha ukulala kwakho, udinga ukufika ezinhliziyweni zakho kuwo. Ngamanye amazwi, okokuqala kudingeka ufunde ukuzibona ephusheni futhi ungafundi ukwenza, khona-ke awukwazi ukuphatha ukulala. Ngokuqondile, udinga ukufunda ukuzilawula ephusheni.
Umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu: kanjani ukwenza lokhu? Ukwenza lokhu, udinga ukuza nokuthile okuzokunika isimemo. Isibonelo, usuku lonke, bheka izandla zakho, esibukweni ebusweni bakho uzibuze umbuzo: Ingabe ngilale noma cha? Ngelinye ilanga, uma uwela ezintendeni zezamehlo akho, ukucabanga kuzosebenza futhi imibuzo izofika engqondweni yakho: Ngiphupha noma cha? Ngakho-ke, wena ngokwakho ucabanga ngokuphendula lo mbuzo: Yebo, ngiphupha.
Isinyathelo # 2
Ngokuqhubekayo incazelo, udinga ukugxila kubantu nasezintweni eziwela ebuthongweni bakho. Kubonakala sengathi ugibela ukugijima futhi uzama ukugcina amehlo akho ezintweni ezithile ezidlulile. Futhi, gxila ezandleni zakho. Ngokushesha lapho isithombe sishaya, izazi zincoma ukuthi ziphinde zibuke nendaba ojwayele ukuyijwayela (izandla zakho). Eminye imininingwane nezinto ezisephusheni kudingeka zibhekwe ngokukhululekile, ngokubukeka okusheshayo, kodwa isikhathi ngasinye kubuyisa umbono wakho entweni ejwayelekile - izandla zakho.
Ezincwadini zakhe, uLaberge uthi yilolu lwazi ukuthi izingane zifunda ukubamba ikhanda futhi zijwayele ukwenza iqiniso. Ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kwabo abakwazi ukugxila ezintweni ezifanayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukugxila kokuqapha kuyaqina futhi isithombe esiphusheni siba ngokoqobo njengoba empeleni sisempilo.
Isinyathelo # 3
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina umagazini wakho wephupho. Bhala phansi konke okushiwo amaphupho nemizwa oye waba nakho kubo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukurekhoda konke okwenzekayo ngaphandle kokuphuma embhedeni, cishe ephusheni. Ngolunye usuku uzobona ukuthi konke akunjalo njengoba ubhala phansi, uzobona ukungavumelani. Isibonelo, wena ephusheni lakho uzobona isihloko se-vegas sendlela yokwenza imaski yokwehliswa kwamajwabu amehlo ekhaya, futhi uma ubheka okwesibili ephephandabeni, uzobe usuvele ubone esinye isihloko-ukuthi, ukwakha kanjani indlu. Yiyo amarekhodi akho azokusiza ukuba ulandelele konke okushiwo futhi uzokwenza kucace ukuthi awukho nje ephusheni lakho, kodwa wenze (kulokhu, funda). Futhi uma isakhiwo sephupho sizoshintsha kakhulu, kuyoba uphawu olucacile lokuthi ushintsha indodana yakho yedwa.
Isinyathelo # 4
Zonke izinto ezingavamile ezenzeka ephusheni ziyisibonakaliso esihle kuwe. Lokhu kuyisizathu esicacile sokuthi injongo yakho yokushintsha ukulala iqiniswa. Akukwesabi nakancane ukuthi awusakakwazi ukwenza lokhu ngokugcwele, into esemqoka ukuthi inqubo iqalile. Kuwe, kufanele kube umgomo oyinhloko, ngoba ngenhloso yazo zonke izenzakalo ezenzekayo: imihlangano, izingxoxo, ukuhamba, izindiza nezinye izimangaliso. Abaphangi abafaki imithetho ephathelene nokukhwabanisa (imithetho yemvelo, amathoni enkolo, ubuningi bomzimba, ukuziphatha nabanye). Ungakwazi ukwakha impilo yamaphupho akho kuphela ngosizo lwesifiso sakho, okulula ukukusho njengenhloso eqinile. Kumelwe uthathe isinqumo sokuthi ufuna ukukhuluma nomuntu noma uhambe endaweni ethile, futhi kuzokwenzeka ngokushesha. Yilokho ukuphila kwamaphupho okuphupho kuzalwa, uma kunjalo, vumela uqobo lwakho ukukholelwa.
Lena yimiqondo. Ukuzijwayeza kudinga ukubekezela, isikhathi nokubekezela. Uma ngobusuku bokuqala awuphumelelanga futhi wanquma ukushiya leli bhizinisi, khona-ke ngeke ukwazi ukuthola imiphumela. Thatha konke ezandleni zakho futhi wenze okuthile. Ngisho noma ungakwazi ukufunda ukuphatha amaphupho akho, okungenani uqale ukuvuka, okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu.
Ingabe ufuna ukufunda ukuphatha amaphupho akho? Noma mhlawumbe uswazi kakade ukwenza lokhu?