Iseluleko se-1. Yeka ukunikeza iseluleko . Yilokho uma omunye wezintombi, ecabanga ukuthi uhlakaniphile njalo noma ulungile, uhlale enikeza iseluleko, afundise enye. Ngokuyinhloko, kuhloswe ukuthi yini nokuthi ungayenza kanjani kulokhu noma kuleso simo, into okumele uthathe isinqumo mayelana nento ethile, ukuthenga noma kungenjalo into, njll. Ngokuvamile, okwesibini kwezintombi kuzozizwa ungalondekile futhi uzovinjelwa , njengoba kubonakala sengathi ngaphandle kosizo lomngane wakhe, akakwazi ukunquma noma yini. Lapha kukhona ukuthembela okuthile komunye umuntu, okungeke kubekezeleleke nakancane. Nakuba kungase kube nesinye isimo lapho intombazane izobe isicasuliwe nganoma isiphi iseluleko esivela kwabanye, ngoba uzokwazi ukuxazulula lokhu noma leyo nkinga ngokwayo. Ekugcineni, kunoma yikuphi, kunomqondo wokuqeda intombi enjalo, ephikisana nomgomo wokuba abangane abangcono kakhulu.
2 iseluleko. Zibonise wena kuzo zonke izinhlangothi . Esimweni lapho unabangane abaningi phakathi kwamantombazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangabangani kusukela ngezikhathi zesihlabathi noma osanda kutholakala, ungabutha lezi zinkampani endaweni eyodwa. Imihlangano enjalo ingakusiza ukuba uzibonakalise ngaphesheya kokubili. Emva kwakho konke, uzoba nesimo sengqondo esiphathelene nomunye wabo. Njengoba unomngane wesikhathi eside uzizwa uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe, ukuthi yini ongayisho mayelana nalabo abasanda kuthola, abangakwazi ngisho nokuba nomngane nomsebenzi. Ukuze ube abangane abangcono kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi imihlangano engavamile, izenzo, ukubuka okusha nemizwelo kuyadingeka.
3 iseluleko. Zama ukuthembeka. Intombi, yebo, sidinga ngesikhathi esilukhuni: khala, uhlale phansi, ufike ezinhliziyweni zakho. Futhi lokhu kuyinto evamile. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukulalela ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukusiza nokusize, okumele kufike ngokubuya. Ungalali, ngisho noma ufuna ngempela ukukwenza. Ngempela, sonke singabantu futhi senza okungajwayelekile ukwenza umphakathi, izenzo ezingalungile. Kungcono ukunikeza iseluleko, ukuthi ungalungisa kanjani konke futhi uyilungise. Ukuba yizintombi ezingcono kakhulu, kufanelekile futhi ukwazi ukujabulela impumelelo yomngane wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unomhawu kangakanani. Futhi ngokujwayelekile, ukuze ube abangane abakhulu, kufanele uvame ukukhipha le mfanelo embi. Zama ukuzifundisa ukuba ujabule nganoma yikuphi ukujabula nentuthuko yentombi yakho.
4 iseluleko. Nikeza ukunakwa kwentombi yakho . Ngisho noma umatasa kakhulu, awunawo umzuzu wamahhala ngisho nomndeni. Umuntu ohlakaniphile, owanele, othokozayo, othembekile, onomusa, ohloniphekile angahlala ehlela isikhathi sakhe ngendlela yokuthi anganaki intombi noma umndeni. Phela, ukuze unake umngane wakho omkhulu, akudingeki ukuba unike izipho ezibiza kakhulu. Ungakwazi nje ukwenza isimangalo esingalindelekile, yenzani umngane lokho angakwazi ukukwenza isikhathi eside, isibonelo, umsebenzi othile olula nezinto. Ngisho ne-sms-ka elula ehlekisayo ingahle imangaze umngane wakho omkhulu.
5 iseluleko. Yibani esikoleni . Kulezo zikhathi ezinomqondo oseduze noma ode isikhathi eside, esikoleni noma ekolishi, wahlangana njalo, wahlangana, wakhuluma, wahlambalaza, wamemeza futhi wahleka. Awudingi ukuphuma lezo zikhathi lapho usondelene komunye nomunye. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuhlela izinsuku ezinjalo ezihlangene, ngisho noma kanye kuphela ezinyangeni eziyisithupha. Phela, kucacile ukuthi nsuku zonke awukwazi ukubona omunye nje, ngamunye unomndeni wakhe, impilo kanye nokuphila. Futhi uma ujwayele kungekudala, kuyadingeka ukuthatha imihlangano enjalo imihlangano, imibuthano, ukuxhumana nabantu. Lokhu kuziphatha kungaqinisa ubuhlobo obusanda kuqalwa futhi buzokuvumela ukuba ube abangane isikhathi eside.
6 iseluleko. Thola izithakazelo ezivamile . Izintombi ezihlangenwe nakho okukhulu akufanele zibe nenkinga mayelana nezithakazelo ezijwayelekile, sezivele zikhona isikhathi eside nazo zichazwe. Phela, kuyinto engavamile ukuhlangabezana nabangane abanjalo, abangenalo isithakazelo esivamile. Ukuze uthole abangane abasha phakathi kwamantombazane, udinga ukubheka nxazonke, uma uqale ukucinga okuthandayo. Ngokuqinisekile uthanda okuthile okubandakanyekayo, kungaba nemidlalo, ukubhukuda noma enye into, akunandaba. Kunoma iyiphi indawo ungathola umngane othakazelisayo, ozobe engumngane ongcono. Akumangalisi ukuba nentombazane emsebenzini, udinga nje ukuthatha isinyathelo futhi umemele endaweni ethile endaweni enhle kokubili. Kumama omncane futhi akufanele kube nobunzima ekutholeni abangane abasha, emgwaqweni ungakwazi njalo ukuhlangabezana nowesifazane onesimo esifanayo. Yebo, futhi uzohlala unesihloko esithakazelisayo sezingxoxo nengxoxo. Ngenxa yokuthi impilo yethu ayimi, yonke into ishintsha njalo. Abantu abakuzungezile bashintsha, futhi phakathi kwabo ungahlangana nomngane wakho omusha, ongamqala nobungane obude nobuqine.
7 iseluleko. Yazisa intombi . Ngisho noma usuvele unomngane omdala futhi uthembekile, ungazami ukuthola indawo esikhundleni sakhe. Awunakwenzeka ukuthi uwuthole kangcono. Futhi ngisho noma engakuvumelani ngempela ngesizathu esithile, wayehlale eseduze, wasiza futhi usekelwa. Funda ukuqonda lokho onakho manje. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungaba kanjani izintombi, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungamphatha kanjani, njengakho. Hlola noma yikuphi isimo esiye saqala ngombono wentombi yakho, uzama ukuqonda futhi uqaphele ukuthi uzoziphatha kanjani kulokhu noma kuleso simo. Khona-ke ungakwazi yini ukucaca mayelana nezinhloso zakhe nezenzo zakhe. Zama ukumphatha njengodade, othandekayo nomuntu oseduze nawe. Khona-ke, mhlawumbe, uzothola umngane wangempela kakhulu.
Noma yiyiphi intombazane ingazithola ibe ngumngane omkhulu, kufanele nje uzibheke ohlangothini bese ubona abanye abazungezile okufanayo, okufana nanoma yiziphi izici zezintombikazi.