Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi "imbuzi" yethu ithola umngane "wembuzi" ohlangothini. Lokhu-ke, akunakukwazi ukufanelana nathi. Yini okufanele uyenze kulolu cala nomyeni wakhe, lokhu kuyinkinga ehlukile, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ungakwenza ngokwakho, kodwa ungayiphatha kanjani inkosikazi yomyeni wakho? Ekuboneni kokuqala, konke kulula, ukushisa endaweni, kodwa, okokuqala, kuphikisana nomthetho, futhi, okwesibili, akusebenzi. Ngakho-ke, ngingahle ngiphakamise izinketho eziningana zokuphatha, indlela yokuziphathelanisa nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze nenkosikazi yomyeni wakhe, ngakho-ke kusukela ngaleso sikhathi akukho zinkinga ezinjalo eziphakama. Futhi akunandaba nalomyeni noma omunye.
Okokuqala, masisho masinyane ukuthi umndeni waseSweden ngeke ube abangane futhi uphile. Lokhu kungabhekwa njengokungamukeleki, ngakho-ke sicabangela lesi simo uma singamazi inkosikazi yomyeni wakhe (okungukuthi, akusiyo umngane wakho noma uNkulunkulu angavumeli umngane wakho omkhulu) ngumfazi ongabonakali. Ngakho-ke, ake sibone ukuthi lihlobene kanjani nenkosikazi nokuthi kufanele yenzeni ukuze ugweme izimo ezinjalo kusukela manje.
Lesi yisitha sethu! Bhubhise!
Inzondo yomphikisi, lena yimizwa yokuqala futhi mhlawumbe inemvelo kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi kuqala kuqala, ngemva kokufunda ukuthi umyeni unenkosikazi. Futhi uma umyeni okwamanje ekwazi ukuthethelela, khona-ke u-razluchnitsu akalokothi akhulume! Ngokushesha ngemva kokufika kokuphikisana okubukhali, kunesifiso sokushaya inkosikazi yakho, into enzima futhi engcono ngomphumela obulalayo! Lesi sifiso kufanele sithinteke, empeleni, kubalulekile ukuba sikwazi ukubhubhisa lo wesifazane emehlweni endoda yakhe, kubalulekile ukumbonakalisa ngokucacile ukungaphumeleli kwakhe, nokuthi ayikho neze into. Kulesi simo, njengoba bethi, "empini, njengempi" konke kungadlala, abangani, osebenza nabo, izihlobo, into esemqoka ukuyiphonsa emaphikweni omyeni bese uyiphatha ngendlela efanele.
Hlaziya lokhu! Funda emaphutheni!
Njengoba kungathandeki ukuvuma, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi iqiniso lokubonakala kwenkosikazi kuyiphutha lokuziphatha kwethu kanye nomphumela wokungaphumeleli kwethu. Owesifazane onamandla angavuma njalo kuye, ekupheleleni kwakhe. Kulesi simo, aphathe inkosikazi yakho njengegundane lokuhlola noma njengendlela yokuhlola. Hlola isimo kanye namandla akhe, kunokuba akwazi ukuheha umyeni wakhe, yini ongayifunda kuye. Ngokuvamile, uthatha izifundo futhi ungaphindi amaphutha endala, bese ukuphila kwakho kuzoba ngcono!
Ukushisa nokudelela njenge-iceberg!
Amacebo walesi simo sengqondo kunkosikazi yinkimbinkimbi, akusiyo into engathandi kakhulu, kodwa ukuqonda okubandayo kwamandla omuntu. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi ungcono kuzo zonke izici! Lokhu ngempela kudinga ukuthi ube ngu-100% oqinisekisayo kuwe, ngalezi zixazululo ozivimbela umphikisi wakho ngokuziphatha, ngokungaqapheli, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo enikeza umyeni wakho ukuthi aqonde ukuthi ungcono kakhulu. Futhi uma uzibonakalisa ube ngcono, khona-ke lo muntu uqobo uzoqonda amaphutha akhe ahambe futhi axolise ngamadolo akhe, kodwa ngiyaphinda, kufanele ubala ngokucacile amandla akho futhi uqonde amandla akho. Phela, iphutha ngaleli qhinga lingabangela imiphumela ebulalayo! Kodwa uma uphumelela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, uzokhula ngamandla emehlweni akho namehlo omyeni wakho.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zesimo sengqondo nokuziphatha nenkosikazi yomyeni wakhe. Bangakwazi ukuhlanganiswa ngokukhululekile, engeza into yabo, ngokusho ukunambitheka nezimo. Into esemqoka ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi ufuna ukufezekisa.
Ekugcineni, ngifuna ukungeza lokho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi akuthandi kangakanani inkosikazi, kufanele abonge ngokuthi uvula amehlo akho ekushiyweni komyeni wakhe. Futhi emva kokuba "uthola", kufanele unqume ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze eduze nomyeni wakho nalapho ubuhlobo bakho buya khona. Ngakho-ke, ngifuna ukukufisela amandla amakhulu angokomoya, abesifazane abathandekayo.