Ubudlelwano phakathi komyeni nomthandi womfazi

Uma owesifazane eshada, uyazikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi othandekayo nguye owukuphela kokuphila, ukuthi uzobe ethembekile kuye futhi angacabangi nganoma yimuphi umthandi ngisho. Kodwa-ke isikhathi sidlula, into ethile empilweni ayihlanganisiwe: ayikho ukwaneliseka ngocansi, noma umyeni uyamhlonipha, noma uhamba ngezinkambo zebhizinisi isikhathi eside, futhi azikho izizathu ezanele zokukhashelwa kowesifazane. Ufuna umthandi ukubuyisela uxhumano lwakhe olungokomoya oluphukile nomyeni wakhe, noma ukuthola ukwaneliseka ngocansi, noma, ngokubalulekile ukuba owesifazane, azakhele ekuzihloneleni kwakhe, okunciphisa umyeni wakhe. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuvela komthandi owesifazane. Lobuhlobo, yiqiniso, lo wesifazane uzama ukufihla ngokucophelela, kodwa hhayi njalo kuvela. Khona-ke umyeni uthola ngephutha ukuthi umkakhe unomthandi. Ubuhlobo bomyeni bukhula kanjani nomlingani womkakhe? Futhi omakhelwane bayathokozisa ukutshela umyeni wakhe lapho bebona khona umfazi ongathembeki, lapho, obani okufanele abone ubuhlobo bomyeni wakhe kumthandi womkakhe.

1. Amadoda abaluleka kakhulu emndenini wabo, bathande kakhulu umkakhe, baqale ukuvikela amalungelo abo emndenini, bahlangabezane nomthandi wabo womfazi, bathole ubuhlobo babo namandla noma ezinye izindlela zokuqinisekisa ukuthi lo muntu akasondelene nomkakhe kuphela, kodwa ngisho nasezindaweni ezinikeziwe. Ngemuva kwalokho, abafazi bayabonga kakhulu amadoda afanele ukugcina umndeni nabantwana nabazukulu.

2. Esinye isigaba samadoda, ukufunda ngokukhishwa komkakhe, ukholelwa ukuthi wadelela inhlonipho yendoda yakhe. Kulabo bayeni, ubuhlobo nomthandi womkakhe busobala ngokucacile - ukumbulala. Futhi ezinye zazo zifeza le njongo. Kulesi simo, umndeni uvame ukuhlakazeka. Indoda iphela ejele, umkakhe uthola omunye umuntu.

3. Kunamadoda enza konke ukuze angalokothi ahlangabezane nomthandi womkakhe, kodwa athole ubuhlobo nomkakhe, ngokuvamile ephethe izintambo, esebenzisa amagama angamahloni, umlingani. Ubudlelwane nomyeni onjalo emndenini bunqotshwa ekugcineni, kepha akupheli ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi sokuphumula, ngoba ngokwesaba umyeni, umkakhe, ngaphansi kokusongelwa kokusongelwa kwakhe, uqala ukwesaba ukufa kwakhe futhi ngokuthobeka uyaqhubeka ehudula ukuphila okubuhlungu, ecabanga ukuthi akajabuli kakhulu ngabesifazane. Ukuphazamiseka phakathi kwendoda nomkayo kuleso simo akukaze kukhishwe.

4. Isigaba sesine samadoda, njengoba efunde ngokukhashelwa komfazi (ikakhulukazi uma sibhekwa ngumhloli wamaphoyisa wangasese), akalokothi abhekane nomkakho noma nomthandi wakhe, kodwa ngokushesha uyasolwa ngokuqhafaza, enqatshelwe umfazi wokweseka, ngisho nakakhulu ngokuthatha umfazi ongalungile izingane. Yiqiniso, owesifazane uzama ukubiza unembeza wothando futhi akhe ubuhlobo besikhathi eside naye. Kodwa umthandi womfazi akathandanga, njengomthetho, ukwakha umndeni. Owesifazane uhlala "emgodini ophukile"

5. Ngesimo sobudlelwane bokuthandana nomunye umuntu, uma kungenzeka, kungcono ukuthi umyeni akwazi ngakho, ukuze angazizwa ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka emcabangweni wokuthi umkakhe akamthandi.

6. Ebudlelwaneni nomthandi, umfazi kufanele azi ukuthi kaningi lapho ehlukanisa nomyeni wakhe, lo mthandi uzosheshe avele empilweni yakhe, njengoba engenaso ukuthatha izibopho ezingathí sina, udinga kuphela ukudlala ngothando, ukuthanda nobudlelwano obulula.

7. Indoda ngemuva kokuhlukanisa nomkayo, ikakhulukazi uma umndeni unabantwana, njalo ayikwazi ukudala umndeni omusha, kepha uma uphumelela, umshado omusha ngeke ube ngcono kunalowo owedlule.

8.Amakhosi kaningi kunomyeni akakwazi ukudala umshado omusha, futhi uhlala enesizungu futhi ezisola ukuthi kwenzekani.

9. Ngokuvamile, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isimo sengqondo somfazi kumyeni wakhe wangaphambili, oye wahlala yedwa iminyaka eminingi, izinguquko zibe ngcono, uyazi ukuthi wenze iphutha, angathanda ukubuyela kuye, kodwa, ngeshwa, ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka, ngakho-ke unakekele ubuhlobo nomunye nomunye kusukela ebusheni.