Ake sibheke impande yenkinga yokukhaphela umyeni wakhe.
Ngokuvamile, ukungathembeki komyeni wakhe kuphela yizwi lokuqala leminye izinkinga zomndeni. Njengoba bethi, izinkinga aziveli emoyeni futhi zihlale zikhona izizathu ezinhle zokubonakala kwazo. Uma ufuna ukusindisa umshado wakho, udinga ukuqonda izimbangela eziyinhloko zokungathembeki komyeni wakhe.
Thatha ngesandla ukuze uxoxe nomyeni wakho ukukhashelwa kwakhe. Lalela ngokucophelela izingxabano zakhe. Lapho, ekuchazeni "isono sakhe", ungathola izizathu ezenza ukuba ashintshe. Zibuze umbuzo mayelana nokuthi ungenzani kulesi simo. Nanka amagama omfazi oyedwa, indoda eyashintsha nomngani wakhe:
"Lapho umshado wethu ulinganiselwe ekulahlekelweni kokulinganisela, mina nomyeni wami ngemva kokukhuluma ngokukhwabanisa kwakhe, sisengakwazi ukuthola igolide elisho ukuthi sizungeze ubudlelwane bethu, sigcwele uthando nokuqonda."
Ungakhohlwa zonke izinto ezinhle ezihlobene nomyeni wakho ngaphambi kokukukhaphela. Njengoba izibalo zibonisa, imibhangqwana ephila ngokuphinga iba namandla kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unzima kangakanani, zama ukungazikhohlwa ngalezi zikhathi eziqhakazile zokuphila nomyeni wakho, owayebusa ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho naye. Lezi zinkumbulo zizokusiza ukuba ubhekane nezinkinga zomndeni eziye zavela futhi zonakalisa isimo. Okunye okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi udinga ukunqoba wena futhi ulahle imizwa yakho necala futhi uhlaziye isimo.
Ngendlela, isipiliyoni sokuphinga, ngenxa yonke imibala emibi nemiphumela yabo bobabili bomshado, ingazuza omunye wenu. Mhlawumbe, emva kwengxoxo ebalulekile, uzofunda amaqiniso amaningi athakazelisayo ongawazanga ngaphambili. Into eyodwa icacile, umbono wakho ngomyeni wakhe uzotjhuguluka ngendlela eyodwa noma enye. Njengoba bethi, ubeka wonke amaphuzu angaphezu kwe "I".
Zama ukuzigcina ungesandla futhi ungalahla intukuthelo yakho kumyeni wakhe. Lokhu kuzokwenyusa kuphela inhlamba futhi ngeke uzuze noma yini. Vumela ukuba "uphole phansi" futhi ulinganise konke. Ngezinye izikhathi kungcono kakhulu ukunikeza umyeni okwesikhashana ukusabalalisa, ukuze intukuthelo ekukhoneni ingabi nakhula nakakhulu.
Ngesikhathi sokucaciswa kobudlelwane, umuntu akufanele ahambe ngaphezu kwenkohlakalo kanye nezimbangela zayo. Iseluleko sami kuwe, ungaceli imininingwane yokuphinga - ingaba yisiphambano esinzima ukuthi kuzodingeka uthwale iminyaka eminingi.
Ukuthethelela noma ukushayela? Eqinisweni, noma yikuphi owesifazane ngeke akwazi ukuthethelela ngokuphelele umyeni wakhe ngenkani. Ukuziqhenya kuyisihlungu enhliziyweni yimuphi wesifazane, futhi isikhathi singenza kuphela isibazi. Kodwa-ke, uma usenquma ukuthethelela umyeni wakho ngenxa yokuhlubuka, ungakhumbuli ngaso sonke isifiso sokumtshela lokhu. Ngezenzo ezinjalo, uzongcwaba umshado wakho izinyanga ezimbalwa zokuhlambalaza okunenkani komyeni wakho ngokukukhaphela.
Ngemuva kokubuyisana nomyeni wakhe, ungamgcini umfutho omfushane. Uma efuna ukuguqula futhi, khona-ke kholwa kimi, uzokwenza ngesikhumba esifushane futhi. Isibonelo, okungenani endlini yangasese ehhovisi lakhe unobhala.
Ingabe unombuzo: ungaba ngcono kunalokho? Lo ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu: ungenza uthando nomyeni owakhetha kuwe kwenye. Yiba nesineke futhi ungazami ukufakazela kumyeni wakho ukuthi ungcono kunaye. Kuyoba kuphela ukuziphatha ukugqoka wena out. Masikuqinisekise ukuthi kufanelekile kuwe.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhohlwa ukuthi uthando luhlanganisa futhi iqiniso lokubuyisana nokuvumelana nomuntu othandekayo wakho. Wonke umuntu unethuba lesibili. Nikeza. Mhlawumbe, othandekayo wakho, wayephutha ngempela, futhi uzizisola ngobuqotho ngakho. Thandanani.