Eminye imindeni isebenzisa indlela yokwenza umdlalo eguquguqukayo kakhulu, okungukuthi, abazali bomkhwenyana bavakashela abazali bomalokazana omusha futhi bazijwayele. Kuphi lapho wonke amakhono ohlelweni lokuncintisana ahamba khona? Ingabe amasiko amadala ayalala phakade?
Kusenjalo mnandi kwimemori yomlando wabakhulukazi bethu ababeshade. Lapha e-Ukraine inqubo yokwenza umdlalo yayihlale inezingoma nemidanso. Abakwa-matchmakers babegqoke futhi bejabule, becula izingoma kanye nokubiza abantu. Bahlabelela izingoma zokudumisa mayelana nomkhwenyana wesikhathi esizayo, ngamandla akhe, ubuciko nobuhle, ngoba kuphela isinqumo sabazali bomakoti sincike ekupheleni kwesithandani esithandweni. Uma umyeni engathandi abazali bomakoti, bafaka ithanga ngaphambi kombundu wabo.
Lapho insizwa ethile isho isifiso sokushada, kwakukhona umhlangano endlini yakhe, lapho ubaba nonina nabazali bakaNkulunkulu bekhona khona. Le ndodana yatshela ngomfelokazi wayo owayefisa futhi yacela imvume. Uma le ntombazane yayithande abazali bayo, khona-ke lo mfana onkulunkulu wahamba waya kumakoti. Ukuhambela emshadweni womakoti kwakuthandekayo futhi kujabulise. Abakwa-matchmakers baqala ingxoxo besuka kude, noma yini engayethusa "inyoni yegolide", ngokucophelela yathinta imizwa yomyeni nokuthi inganikeza umlobokazi. Uma ingxoxo ibonisa ukuthi abazali bomlobokazi bahle, khona-ke ukuphakanyiswa kwesandla nenhliziyo kwenzeka. Mhlawumbe nonke inkulumo eyaziwa kahle nge-matchmaking: "Unezimpahla, futhi sinomthengisi". Uma umkhwenyana ethanda abazali bomakoti, abakwa-matchmakers bakhetha usuku lomshado nomakoti womakoti.
Abashadile babheka bekuhlale bejabulisa intombazane yokushada kanye nabazali babo. Ngomyeni, abazali bomyeni babonisa umlobokazi, izici zakhe zadunyiswa, futhi amaphutha ayefihlekile ngokucophelela. Umkhwenyana kanye nabazali nje baboniswa umthamo womlobokazi, izithelo zomsebenzi wentombazane encane. Uma abazali bomkhwenyana benelisekile ngabashadile, khona-ke imibuzo yaphakanyiswa ngomshado ozayo. Njengomthetho, ngaphambi komshado, abazali bomabili bobabili kufanele babe abangane, ngoba esikhathini esizayo esiseduze bayoba izihlobo.
Futhi abaseRussia abadlali abalingana isikhathi eside babengumlingisi abangewona izihlobo zomkhwenyana. Le nqubo yayisesimweni esinobungane, abakwa-matchmakers abazange bahlale isikhathi eside, ngoba kwakudingeka bazise abazali bomkhwenyana. Kube khona amacala lapho umakoti nomkhwenyana behlala emadolobheni nasezindaweni ezihlukene. Kwakunzima futhi kuqeda ukufika lapho. Bese kubazali bomakoti beza ngqo emshadweni womlobokazi ukuze bazijwayele futhi baxazulule zonke izinkinga hhayi ngezandla zesithathu.
Yeka isihawu ukuthi namuhla inqubo yokumaketha ayiyona ebaluleke kakhulu. Amadoda amaningi asele anquma ukushada nomfazi othandekayo. Kuyamukeleka emhlabeni wonke ukuba uhlale emshadweni womphakathi, laba bantu abasha abahlala ndawonye bashukunyiswa isidingo sokuthola ukuthi isigamu sakhe siphila ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kodwa-ke, impilo yansuku zonke ihlukanisa imibhangqwana kaningi, ngoba ukuchitha isikhathi nomuntu othandekayo amahora angu-24 ngelanga kunomthelela ekubonakalweni kwezimfanelo ezinhle, njengokukhuthaza, amakhono okupheka, kodwa futhi nezingahle, isibonelo, imikhuba emibi, ukungahloniphi, njll. Kodwa uma indoda yanamuhla isenquma ukubopha owesifazane, akuboni ukuthi kuyadingeka ukucela imvume kubazali beqembu ngalinye. Ukunikezwa kwesandla nenhliziyo kuzwakala kuphela kumakoti, futhi indandatho, njengombuso, inikezwa ngomzuzwana ofanayo. Lapho abazali bethola ngomshado ozayo, kufanele nje bajabulele izingane zabo futhi balinde abazukulu abasalindelwe isikhathi eside.