Ukungqubuzana "izingane - abazali" kuze kube phakade. Abanye abasiqondi abanye, laba bazama ukufundisa owokuqala ... Futhi cishe njalo akukho okuhle okuvela kulo. Futhi zombili izinhlangothi bacabanga, ngokuzwakalayo ukuqonda indlela yokuqondana, isikhalazo esikhulu ukuthi abazali basebenza, futhi izingane zijabulela ukuphila ...
Izingane zidinga izigqoko kuqala, bese zidlala amathoyizi abizayo, futhi emva kokudlala kwazo kanye nokuzijabulisa zibe yizinga elikhulu ngempela. Isibonelo, ingane engaphezu komzimba ingase ifune ukudlala "emndenini" noma "ebhizinisini." Abazali, ngenkathi benomthwalo wemfanelo, baphoqeleka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba "basize" ingane. Ngakho-ke uthola inselele yokuthi awukwazi ukuyiqonda - abazali basebenze, futhi izingane zijabulela ukuphila okuhleli entanyeni kayise.
Kunzima ukuthi izingane zizwe ukuthi abazali bazo ziyini - kuyiqiniso. Ubuntwana nokuzikhukhumeza kwentsha kukhulu. Futhi uma kuphela izingane ziba abazali, zingazizwa zibophelelekile. Bangakwazi ukulinganisa ukuthi bangakanani abazali babo nemali yabo, isikhathi namakhono abole kuzo. Kodwa ingabe abantwana banecala lokhu, noma baqondakala yini ukuthi bayakujabulela ukuphila ngokugcwele ngenkathi abazali babo besebenza?
Akekho okufanele abekwe icala
Okokuqala, izingane zifunda ukuhamba, ke-ukuqonda impilo kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zayo. Konke lokhu, babazali. Eminyakeni yokuqala, umama nobaba - cishe yonke indawo. Futhi ingane ixhomeke ku-100% kuyo. Induduzo nokuhlanzeka, ukuthuthukiswa nokukhulumisana ngisho nangonyaka wokuqala wokuphila - konke lokho kumele kudingeke kubazali.
Izingane zikhula, futhi abazali bafuna ukubona kuzo "izingane ezifanayo", abaye bakhula iminyaka eminingi, abajwayele ukuzithola. Kodwa izingane zinombono wazo wezwe, izingxube ezihlukene, ezingafinyeleleki ukunakekelwa okuvamile kwabazali, futhi ngisho nangokwengeziwe - izifiso zabo siqu (ngokuphambene nemithetho yabazali "indlela yokuphila kahle"). Ngakho-ke, izingxabano, ukuxabana nokuxabana akukwazi ukugwema.
Futhi into esabekayo kunazo zonke kule nkathi "enzima" yinkinga ukuthi umntwana usukhulile kakade ngengqondo yakhe futhi uzimele ngokuphelele, kodwa akanayo inkululeko yezinto ezibonakalayo. Ngakho-ke yonke into ayifunayo, uphinde ufune yonke indawo - kubazali bakhe abaye bazama ukumondla, banikeze futhi baqaphele kuze kube yi-18.
Futhi manje, kubonakala sengathi, umngcele wokugcina. Ingane ithola isitifiketi sokuvuthwa, iwele umugqa ... kodwa cha! Linda, sisenza. Ihlelwe "ukungena" (futhi, ngokucindezela kwabazali - emnyangweni wesikhathi esigcwele) - sifunda. Futhi ngokuqinisekile "thina". Kade kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi "esidla" noma "thina pokakali" ...
Ngakho-ke, iminyaka emihlanu yokuqeqesha, futhi ingane isivele isimdala ... Nakuba ulinde! Waya emsebenzini - futhi ekugcineni akazange "sihambe." Emahlathini e-office jungle, "i-kid" yakho kufanele ihlangabezane nayo. Lapha kuphela umholo oye waphazamisa - ngenkokhelo enjalo nganoma iyiphi indlela ongayitholi okungenani endaweni yokuhlala. Umama, Baba, usizo! Noma okungenani, ungakhathazeki. Lapha une-$ 50. ekudleni kwami, nakuzo zomphakathi - ngakho ungazicimi ukukhanya, ngakho kuyashisa!
Futhi ngezimpelasonto ingane iya entombazaneni noma ishiya nabangani, ichitha umholo wakhe ophansi kakade. Umama (ngezinye izikhathi usuvele usempesheni) uyabubula, futhi unikezela indodakazi imali engekho "yezimonyo" noma "for pantyhose". Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi umuntu akaqondi ukuthi kungani abazali (ngisho nobudala bomhlalaphansi) besasebenza, futhi izingane zijabulela ukuphila ngezindleko zabo ...
Ngakho, umholo usukhulile, lo msebenzi utholakala futhi uqinisekisiwe. Sekuyisikhathi sokuba abazali baphumule emakhayeni abo ... Kodwa izingane zishada futhi zishade, futhi ngisho nakakhulu kusukela kumakoti (ngisho noma umkhwenyana akwazi ukukhokha zonke izindleko zomshado), abazali "bazosiza". Akunjalo nje intombazane yakhe empofu yedwa ukudonsa umthwalo wakhe wezezimali kakhulu kumholo wayo ojwayelekile!
Khona-ke abantwana, bese behlala khona, imoto ayanele ... Abazali abanikeli nje konke - banikeza okugcina, uma kuphela abantwana babo bebaningi futhi bengadingeki. Ngisho noma lesi sidingo sinengqondo, okusho ukuthi, "okwamanje"
Ngesinye isikhathi, futhi ngokushesha kunokuba kamuva, udinga ukwazi ukusho ukuthi "Yeka, Kwanele . " Ukwenza lokhu ngokunembile nangokwemvelo, uchaza ukuthi imindeni ihluke manje, ibhajethi - futhi. Yiqiniso, kunesihluku ukuza nezimbali nekhekhe ngosuku lokuzalwa lwendodakazi yakho ethandekayo noma indodana, hhayi ukuhalalisela ngento engathà sina. Kodwa-ke, uma amathuba ezezimali aqhubekile, kungenzeka futhi kanjalo. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, umzuzu kufanele uze lapho abantwana beqonda ukuthi abazali abasebenzi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi kufanele bajabulele ukuphila. Ukuthi abazali bangaba nezinhlelo zabo kanye nokulondolozwa kwabo, abangahambisani nezinhlelo zezingane ...