Njengengane, wayenezithakazelo zakhe ezithandayo, impilo yayijabule futhi ingakhathazeki, kwakungenzeka ukugijima nje nabangani emgwaqweni, ukudlala futhi ungacabangi ngalutho. Kodwa sekudlule iminyaka, futhi ngokuzumayo kukhona okuthile okushintshayo, intombazane ayizizwa sengathi yonke into ilahlekile, unezinye izithakazelo, uthola abangane abasha, uyathandana, futhi izwe liye lahluke ngokuphelele. Intombazane ayisaseyona encane, kodwa ingakabi umuntu omdala, umuntu ongafundile. Kulesi sikhathi, intsha idinga ukwesekwa kokuziphatha kubantu abadala: abazali, izihlobo, othisha, abaholi bendilinga kanye nabajwayele nje. Umfana kufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi umbono wakhe kanye nemicabango yakhe iphathwa ngenhlonipho, kuphela lapho ezoba nenhlonipho ephakeme ngokwaneleyo angayifeza ngayo imigomo yakhe.
Ngingathanda ukucabangela ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi yini nokuthi ithinta kanjani impilo yengane yentsha, kokubili kwengqondo nengokwenyama. Inkinga yempilo yengqondo yasencane ingenye yezinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu futhi ezinzima zomphakathi. Ukuhlukunyezwa empilweni yengqondo yezingane ezisencane kungabangela imiphumela embi: ukuhlukaniswa, ukulwa nomphakathi, ukuziphatha okunganele, ukucindezeleka, ukuhlukumeza oontanga nabazali, ukuhlukumeza izilwane, ukuzibulala nezinye izinkinga eziningi. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali banakekele kakhulu izingane zabo ezisencane, ukuxhumana nabo, ukuthatha isithakazelo ezenzweni zabo zokuzilibazisa, amaphupho nezifiso. Ithonya elikhulu engqondweni yomuntu osemusha ngokungathandabuzeki kuthonywe imvelo: ubudlelwane nabangane, ekilasini, abalingani, othisha nezihlobo. Lapho esekhulile, izingane zivame ukuba nomoya omubi, zilimale kabi. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ingane, ukuhlonipha izifiso zakhe futhi abe umngane wakhe.
Esinye isici esithinta impilo yentsha kuyinto ukubuka amabhayisikobho, ukusakaza, imidlalo yokuzilibazisa yevidiyo, umculo. Izimo ezimbi kakhulu zesimiso sezinzwa zomuntu osemusha zingabangela izigameko zobudlova, ubuhlukumezi, izigcawu zobuntu obuseduze. Futhi kuyadingeka ukulandelela, uhlobo luni lomculo osemusha oyithandayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona amazwi angcolile namagama ahlambalaza. Kubalulekile ukubona ukuthi imuphi umdlalo wevidiyo omusha oyithandayo, nokuthi ngabe uzoholela engqondweni yakhe.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi nokuthi kuzosithinta kanjani impilo yengane entsha kule nkathi enzima kuye.
Okokuqala, kuthinta impilo yesondlo somntwana. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, umzimba okhulayo udinga ukuthola inani elithile lamavithamini, kanye namafutha amaprotheni, ama-carbohydrate namaminerali. Uma kunesidingo noma ngokweqile kwanoma iyiphi into emzimbeni womusha osemusha, izinkinga ezehlukene zezempilo zingavela. Ngokuvamile, intsha ilahlekelwa isisindo, ukuntuleka kwe-calcium noma i-vithamini (eholela esikhuneni esomile, izipikili ezinamahloni kanye nokulahleka kwezinwele), ukuphazamiseka kokudla, izigqoko nezikhumba nezinye izifo eziningi. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufaka ekudleni kwentsha zonke izithamini ezidingekayo kanye nezinto zokuthuthukiswa kwayo.
Imikhuba emihle inethonya elikhulu empilweni yangempela yonke intsha, okuyinto evame kakhulu ukubhema, ukuxhomeka kotshwala, ukulutha izidakamizwa nokusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa. Ukungena endaweni engavumelekile noma inkampani lapho umuntu ngamunye abathintekayo ephuza, ephuza noma esebenzisa izidakamizwa, intombazane ayifuni ukuba "izimvu ezimnyama" futhi ezama izinto eziyingozi emzimbeni wakhe. Khona-ke ihudula futhi iphenduke umkhuba, okuholela emiphumeleni edabukisayo. Umfana usemlutha, okungabangela izinkinga zempilo ezimbi, futhi nakakhulu, ukufa. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuqhuba izingxoxo ezikhethekile nezingane ezisenganeni mayelana nezingozi zokubhema, utshwala nezidakamizwa, zinike izibonelo ezivela ekuphileni, futhi ziqaphe imvelo yazo, lapho inkampani abachitha khona isikhathi sabo samahhala. Ezimweni eziningi, imikhuba emibi itholakele kulabo abasha abangenzi lutho ngesikhathi sabo samahhala. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi banesithakazelo, kuzosiza abasha ukuthi bavakashele imibuthano. Ngokuvamile, intombazane idinga ukuthola umsebenzi ozoyithakazelisa, ithwale futhi iveze wonke amakhono akhe.
Enye iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu imfundo yobulili yabaselula. Ubuhlobo obuseduze nobulili obuhlukile, kanye nobuhlobo obuseduze, bunomthelela omkhulu empilweni yomntwana osemusha. Kubalulekile ukufaka kuye isimo sengqondo esihle sokuphila ngendlela enempilo, ukukhuluma ngokuvikela impilo yokuzala, futhi ukwabelana nolwazi olusha mayelana nokushintsha emzimbeni ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kanye nokuhlela komndeni. Intsha nayo idinga ukuqaphela izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, ezifana ne-AIDS, syphilis kanye nabanye abaningi. Kubalulekile ukuxwayisa ingane yentsha yokulala ngokocansi, futhi ukhulume ngezindlela zokwelapha.
Futhi ekugcineni ngingathanda ukuphawula ukuthi intsha izama ukuzimela futhi ayibekezelelanga lapho inesithakazelo ekuphileni kwabo. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuba umngane omuhle "wengane enkulu", ungamcindezeli futhi kungenjalo ungeke uzame ukubeka umbono wakho kuye. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuxhumana okulula. Ukuxhumana nomuntu osemusha endaweni enokuthula, ngaphandle kokuphakamisa izwi lakhe, uzozizwa ethembele kuwe futhi ngeke asabe ukwabelana nawe kakhulu. Futhi nawe, uzokwazi ukuqondisa intsha engxenyeni efanele, unikele iseluleko, utshele indaba kusuka empilweni noma nje ukhulume inhliziyo ngenhliziyo.