Akunandaba ukuthi uqale yini ubuhlobo noma usuvele unesibalo esinesipiliyoni, ngokusho koProfesa we-Psychology Alfred Hebert waseMunster, ukuthi uthando lwakho luqiniswa, ukuvumelana kufanele kube ezindaweni ezinhlanu: ngocansi, ngokuphathelene nemali, ekukhulumisaneni, ekubalukeni kokuphila , ezinhlelweni zekusasa.
Ingabe inyunyana yakho inhle? Qinisekisa
Ngenhloso yokuqinisa amaphuzu obuthakathaka obuhlotsheni bakho!
"Uma isisekelo sakhiwe ngokwengeziwe, kuyoba namandla okubambisana," kusho uProfesa Gebert. Ngakho-ke, qala ukugxila ezindaweni ezintathu. Zama ukwandisa izakhi eziyinhloko zomshado wakho!
"Ingxenye yonyaka yisikhathi lapho uthando luphenduka uthando," kuchaza u-Alfred Hebert. "Ukulala ngokobulili nokukhulumisana okuhle kungu-70% wobuhlobo obunamandla, futhi imibono ejwayelekile ngokubaluleka kokuphila, imali kanye nezinhlelo zekusasa yizingxenye ezingu-30 ezisele, kusho izinqumo." Uma ufuna ukuvula ukuphefumula kwesibili kothando lwakho, qaphela izindawo zobulili nokuxhumana.
Uthando lwakho alukude
Ukuze lokhu kwenzeke, ngaphambi kwezindleko ezinkulu, gcwalisa isabelomali sonke ukuqinisekisa ukubambisana okuqotho.
Ukungqubuzana okuqhubekayo ngenxa yemali kuyinkinga evamile emibhangqwaneni eqala ubudlelwane obukhulu. Inkinga ukuthi unemibono ehlukene ngezimali. Isibonelo, usindisa usuku lwemvula, futhi uqoqa amadiski noma ukuhamba. Omunye udinga imali ukuze azizwe evikelekile, umuntu - ngomqondo wenkululeko, okungenani, isibonelo, ngokuziqhenya. Zama ukukhuluma ngemali, ngokweqile ingxenye ewusizo. Esikhundleni sokuthi "Kungani udinga amafoni amathathu?" Buza: "Ingabe lokhu kukujabulisa ngempela?" Ngakho uzothola nxazonke, amacembe abukhali futhi umtshele ukuthi uyakhathalela impilo yakhe kuqala.
Ngenxa yokungavumelani kwakho ezindabeni zemali, kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona ukuphikisana. "Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka uma omunye umlingani eqala ukuthola okungaphezu kwesinye," kusho isikhulu sezezimali uKatrin Zundermayer. - Akafuni ukwabelana ibhonasi yakhe futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa ugcina isabelomali sakho sonke silawulwa. Esimweni esinjalo, umlingani onomholo ophansi unomuzwa wokunciphisa kancane futhi awudingekile. Indlela elula futhi ephumelelayo kakhulu yokwabelana ngemali yizinhlamvu zemali ezimbili, inani kanye nezomuntu siqu: inani elithile liya ezindlini ezihlanganyelwe, futhi umuntu ngamunye ukhokha imali yakhe ngokuzikhethela.
Ubulili
Ngokwezifundo ze-University of GцTttingen, imibhangqwana engu-30% yemibhangqwana ejabule ingathuthukisa impilo yabo yocansi uma ihlanganyela ngemicabango yabo nomlingani. I fantasy ethandwa kakhulu yizocansi lapho ungabonwa: emotweni noma ophahleni lendlu.
Ukuze uzizwe unelisekile ngokuphelele, awunayo ngokwanele! "Ngezinye izikhathi ocansini udinga ukukhombisa isifiso sokuhlola, kodwa u-80% kufanele ube nemikhuba evamile," weluleka uHebert. Ungazama izingubo ezintsha noma zama "amathoyizi" nezinsimbi zokugcoba.
Uma usendleleni yokuya ocansini, uzosizwa ngxoxo evulekile. Phakathi kwemibhangqwana, kunombono wokuthi ngefantastic kuphela ukukhangwa okufanayo, kuyindabakwane! "Mad passion yonke impilo - umphumela umsebenzi oqhubekayo". Iseluleko sika-Alfred: khuluma ngocansi njengomfazi ophoqelelwe, njengokuya kuma-movie. Mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha i-comedy ye-thriller?
Ukuxhumana
Ungakhuluma ngakho konke, futhi kuhle! Leli gunya lenza ubuhlobo bakho bube bukhulu kunakho konke. Omunye "kodwa": ungayeki yonke into, izinkinga ezinjengokuphawula okudingekayo kufanele zibekwe uphawu olufushane futhi zikhohliwe.
Amaphesenti ayisishiyagalombili kwabayishumi aphule ngoba abalingani bebekhulume kancane: ngokwesilinganiso ngaphansi kwesigamu sehora ngehora - kuxwayisa u-Alfred Hebert. - Kuningi kuxhomeke esihlokweni senkulumo. Abesifazane ikakhulukazi abajwayele ukuxoxa nabo, futhi amadoda ahlobene nomsebenzi, ezemidlalo kanye nobuchwepheshe. Iseluleko sochwepheshe: inkulumo engenalutho nokunye okuningi! Ngokusho kocwaningo, ukukhuluma ngamaphupho noma izinkumbulo kwenza imibhangqwana ijabule.
Ukukhulumisana kwakho akuthuthuki ngenxa yokungaboni kahle. Ngaphambi komlingani wakho, i-alas, ingxenye kuphela yalokho okushoyo ikuza kuwe, futhi wena ngokwakho uhumusha ngokungaqondile imisho yakhe emifushane, ematasa. "Yiya kuye," weluleka isazi sezokwelapha. - Zama ukwakha imicabango ngokufishane nangokucacile, njengokungathi yi-CMC: "Masihambe namhlanje ku-eight kuya cinema?" Noma "Ngifuna lamacici ngosuku lokuzalwa!". Futhi uma ulalele, zama ukulalela futhi ungesabi ukubuza futhi: kuzoxhomeka kulokhu, lo mbhangqwana uzoba ngowakho. "
Izimiso Zokuphila
Wena usezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu! "Kodwa kusadingeka ukuba ushiye abambalwa abashayeli," weluleka isazi sezokwelapha. Izenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa zizokwenza impilo yakho ibe nobunye futhi ihluke kakhulu.
Into esemqoka - gwema ukuphikisana phezu kwezicathulo. Kunombono wokuthi abantu abanothando abalinganisa nsuku zonke baphila kusukela ekubukeni kwezinto ezincane zansuku zonke. Singabantu besifazane, sihlola ubudlelwane "obuvela ngaphakathi", sigcizelela ukunakekelwa nokunakwa, namadoda - "ngaphandle", ukulalela ukuziphatha nokugcina isikhathi. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuhlola okuhlukile kobudlelwane kubangela izingxabano. Vumelana nakho konke kusengaphambili, uxoxisane nesikhathi sokubambezeleka, futhi ngubani osiza ukuthi ngubani ekhishini.
"Iqiniso lokuthi abalingani kufanele babe nokulingana ngokomzwelo futhi baphathe izinto ezifanayo ngendlela efanayo," kusho uHebert. -50% efana no-50% umehluko - ibhalansi elungile. " Kodwa isimo sengqondo sokuthembeka, ukwethembeka nokwethemba yiwona amaphuzu okudingeka ufanane nawo. Kuyinto isisekelo kwanoma iyiphi inhlangano eqinile.
Izinhlelo zekusasa
"Amalungiselelo ahlangene enza inyunyana yakho ibe namandla kakhulu," esho. Kodwa zama ukutshala amandla akho kwezinye izinto zansuku zonke, izinto ezilula, njengokuhamba ngeviki noma epikinikini otshanini.
Uzinikezela amaphupho ngekusasa, kodwa akawahlukanisi. "Kungenzeka ukuthi sekuyisikhathi," kusho ochwepheshe. - Abesifazane bavame ukuhlela konke ukuphila kwabo okunye futhi babe nezimpendulo zemibuzo ebalulekile, njengezindlu, umshado, izingane. Kodwa ukuba nezinhlelo ezicacile zomuntu kusho ukuyeka konke okunye. " Ngokusho kwamavoti, wonke umuntu wesithathu omele ucansi oqinile uyesaba. Mnike isikhathi. Ngokujwayelekile ngesikhathi sobudlelwane, izinhlelo zekusasa zivele ngokwazo.
Awufuni ukuhlela ikusasa lakho nhlobo! Esikhathini sokuqala sonyaka wobuhlobo lokhu kungokwemvelo: abathandi banomatasa kakhulu kangangokuthi abakwazi ukucabanga nganoma yini enye. Kodwa uma uhlala ndawonye isikhathi eside, khona-ke ukungabi namapulani kuvamile. Isazi sezokwelapha sichaza: "Mhlawumbe kuwe kungokwesaba ukwesaba ukukhohliswa." Isikhathi sokuthatha isinqumo, ngoba ngubani ongengozini - akaphuzi i-champagne! Akukona nakanjani ukushada ngokushesha ukukhulisa izingane: Okubalulekile ukuthi ufuna ukuba ndawonye futhi usebenze ngobuhlobo bakho.