Kuyini uthando? Uma ukholwa ukuthi uthando luyisibhakabhaka esingenasibhakabhaka, akukhocala kanye nethuba lokungalokothi licele intethelelo komunye nomunye, khona-ke uphutha kakhulu.
Uthando nokuthethelelwa akuzona ukuhlukana. Kodwa, uma umyeni wakho noma insizwa, ukhohlwe ukuhalalisela umama wakho ngosuku lokuzalwa kwakhe, noma akakuzithengi ibhakhodi le-chocolate, owake wabuza usuku lonke, lokhu kuyinto eyodwa. Ngezinto ezinjalo, kuyisono sokungaxoleli.
Kodwa, kanjani ukuthethelela ukukhawulwa komfana noma umyeni? Ukuphinga kungukukhohlisa. Ngokwemvelo, kunemicabango yokuthi ukwethembela kulo muntu ngeke kubuyele; ukuthi amathuba okuphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiwe engxenyeni yakhe ngeke aphele.
Ukwehlisa umuntu isisombululo sakhe kule nkinga akusho ukuqonda. Kodwa, ukuze ulondoloze ubudlelwane, futhi, mhlawumbe, ngisho nokuthuthukisa, emva kweqiniso lokuhlubuka - ungakwenza.
Ukuze uthethelele ukukhawulwa komfana, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yisiphi isizathu salesi senzo.
Uma insizwa yakho ingeyona isigaba "samakati kaKhisimusi", khona-ke ukuzithoba kuveza ukutholakala kwezinkinga ebuhlotsheni. Njengoba kunjalo, umuntu othanda wena futhi akuhlonipha, ngeke akulimaze.
Uma ungenandaba nomfana osemusha, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuqonda izizathu zokungathengi kwakhe, ukuze alondoloze ubuhlobo.
Udinga ingxoxo, lapho ungaqonda ukuthi yini engafanelekeli indoda yakho. Ungamsoli, ungabi nkulu isimo. Khumbula ukuthi iphutha lakhe liyiqiniso. Kodwa, nawe, unecala lale, ngoba awuzange uzwisise ngesikhathi lapho ukuphahlazeka kuvele phakathi kwakho.
Abashadile abaye babhekana nokuhlukunyezwa, kodwa bathole amandla okuthethelela nokugcina ubuhlobo, bavame ukuvuma ukuthi ukuphila kwabo ndawonye kuye kwaba ngcono kakhulu. Phela, kwaziwa ukuthi izinkinga nezinkinga esizihlangene ndawonye, ezisekelana, zisondele nakakhulu. Ukuthethelela lo mfana ohlubukayo, kodwa, okwenza kube sobala ukuthi okwesibini ukulimala angeke usinde, uzoqala ukukuqonda nakakhulu nokuthanda ukuthembela kuye.
Ukuthethelela ukukhashelwa komfana, khumbula isikhathi lapho ubujabule kakhulu. Hlaziya yonke into, ngoba umthande lo muntu, ubelokhu ethanda kakhulu futhi ethanda kakhulu.
Ungathethelela ukuphinga, kepha uzodinga amandla futhi usebenze imizwa yakho nemizwelo yakho ngalokhu. Uma iqiniso lakho liyaziwa, into yokuqala ozizwa ngayo intukuthelo kanye nesifiso sokuphonsela yonke imizwelo evuthayo. Kodwa ukuze ungazisoli, kufanele uzinikeze isikhathi sokuvumela izintshisekelo emphefumulweni wakho zilale.
Uma uzolile futhi ulungele ukukhuluma nensizwa, akufanele ufunde imininingwane yokuhlukumezeka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthakazelisa kangakanani. "Uyazi kancane, ulala kangcono."
Zama ukwenza umfana avele kuwe futhi akutshele ukuthi kungani ekushintshe wena.
Ngemuva kwengxoxo nokuphenduka komuntu wakho, uzobe usenamandla futhi ungathembi umlingani wakho. Lokhu kuyaqondakala, kodwa, khumbulani ukuthi waphenduka futhi waqonda zonke izono zakhe. Futhi, njengoba unqume ukwakha nokudala ubuhlobo bakho kusukela ekuqaleni, khona-ke zigcine ezandleni.
Ukukhumbuza okuqhubekayo kokungathengi kwakhe nokusho kwentukuthelo yakho kuyoholela ekuxabaneni okukhulu. Kunzima ukukhohlwa, kodwa ukuthethelela ukukhawulwa komfana, uma, phakathi kwakho, kukhona umuzwa wothando, mhlawumbe unikezwe ukuthi uzosiza omunye nomunye.
Omunye umzuzwana onzima wengqondo owesifazane ohlangenwe nakho emva kokungathembeki kuyinkinga yezocansi. Njalo uma ulala nomuntu wakho, uzokhumbula ukuthi omunye wesifazane. Lokhu kungaholela eqinisweni lokuthi uvalelwe kuwe, futhi, ukukhululeka nokuqiniseka kwakho, kuzolahleka.
Kodwa, cha, hhayi izinkinga ezixazululwe, ukusekelwa nokunakekelwa komlingani wakho kuzosiza ukubhekana nazo zonke izinkinga. Futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubuhlobo bakho, obusanda kuvela emigodini, buyokhula ngamandla futhi kuzokuletha kokubili injabulo nenjabulo.