Izazi zengqondo zaseMelika zikholelwa ukuthi namuhla cishe ingxenye yeshintsho - "kunembeza" we-intanethi. Babuzwa futhi ngabameli, bethi eminyakeni yamuva nje i-cyberstrikes iye yaba imbangela enkulu yokuhlukaniswa kwemindeni. EYurophu, futhi, phula i-alamu: eNgilandi, ingxenye yesithathu yamadoda amasha futhi cishe inani elifanayo labesifazane abangenazo zobulili zangempela, ezinomlando we-novel virtual - ukukhwabanisa kwi-Intanethi nokuxhumana ngamasayithi okuphola, amanethiwekhi omphakathi, i-ICQ namagumbi okuxoxa, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthandana - kwi-Intanethi. AmaDanes: cishe abantu abangamaphesenti angama-65 abantu abadala bakhuluma nge-inthanethi ye-inthanethi. Abathengisi bethu nabalandeli be-strawberries ebonakalayo abakabala, kepha izazi ze-psychologists zithi omunye kwabahlanu unenkinga ehlobene nokuxhumana kwiWebhu, kufaka phakathi izihloko zocansi. Kungani abantu ngokuzithandela bebambelele kule webhubhu futhi kungabonwa amanoveli angabonakali?
Okwesithathu kokuzijwayeza
Ngokusho kwabanye abasebenzisi be-intanethi abahamba phambili, iveliveli eyi-virtual - ukukhwabanisa ku-Inthanethi kunezinzuzo eziningi uma kuqhathaniswa nezifiso zangempela. Ukukhetha okungenamkhawulo wabalingani. Noma ubani ongakwazi ukuhlukanisa ikhompyutha ensimbi angenza inoveli kwesikhala se-cyber. Ngaphambi kwakho - umhlaba wonke: ama-blondes, ama-brunettes, amafutha, amancane, ama-romantics, aphikisayo ... Ufuna edolobheni lakho, ufuna - kwelinye izwekazi. Ngokushesha, elula futhi elula. Njengoba uBeatrice Mylham, umcwaningi waseYunivesithi yaseFlorida, wathi, "Ngokuthuthukiswa kwe-inthanethi ye-inthanethi, akusasekho isidingo sokuhamba ngemfihlo kanye nama-motels ashibhile: umhlangano wenethiwekhi ungaba khona ekamelweni elifanayo nomlingani noma oshade naye." Yingakho abanye abasebenzisi bakwazi ukudlala ngothando ngesikhathi esisodwa (!) Abantu.
Ukungabikho kwezibopho
Uma lo mlingani oxhumana naye edumazekile noma enesithukuthezi, kwanele nje ukumbeka ohlwini lwabantu abamnyama, futhi ngeke "aphinde athole" ngemilayezo yakhe. Futhi awunazo izingxabano, ama-hysterics kanye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane - okungukuthi, konke okungenakwenzeka uma uphula empilweni yangempela.
Ungazama kunoma yisiphi isithombe. Zizwa ungaphephile ngenxa yokugcwala noma yobudala? Akubalulekile, ku-virtual wethula i-blonde sexy iminyaka engu-25. Futhi ngokuthembeka, sizobeka isithombe somdlali we-American owaziwa kancane. Noma thatha isithombe esethu ukuze indoda yendabuko ingaboni. Noma kunjalo, i-interlocutor ngakolunye uhlangothi kwesikrini ingenza okufanayo. Kwakukhona amacala lapho "ukuthandwa kwe-brunettes" kwaba khona abahola impesheni abaneminyaka engu-70 ubudala. Akukho ukubhoboza okunjalo okuvimbela kunoma yiliphi fan of adventureures virtual.
Ukuzinza . Ukuxhumana nge-intanethi kudala ukukhohlisa kokungaziwa, ngakho-ke abasebenzisi bazivumela kuwebhu ukuthi bangasoze bavunyelwa empilweni yangempela. Lapha ungakwazi ukuchaza ukuzwa kwakho kocansi: kokubili ama-panties anamanzi, nokukhishwa emzimbeni, ukuletha umlingani we-virtual togasm.
Izingozi ezibonakalayo
Uthando olungokoqobo olunomdlandla olufanayo luyinto ephikisanayo nabesilisa nabesifazane, futhi kaningi umndeni "obunzima". Omunye uxabana nesigamu, omunye umuntu omele ukuzwa okusha, omunye umuntu akanakho ukuxhumana ... Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izintshisekelo ze-cyber zijabulisa kakhulu amadoda angaphezu kuka-40 ... nabendlukazi beminyaka yonke, kubandakanya omama abancane.
Ngokuqondene nantombazane, nanjengoba ku-anecdote, lapho insizwa eshisayo ishukumisa amadoda aneminyaka engamashumi amane ukuba agibele esiqhingini esigcwele amantombazane ahambahamba, kodwa ama-comrade asebekhulile ayiphendula athi: "Kungani, kungani? Futhi kusuka lapha kuhle kakhulu!" Abanikazi bezindlu bacindezelwa isimiso sokuziqhenya nokungazinaki komuntu oshade naye (noma kunjalo, kaningi ukungahlonishwa kwabesifazane kuthatha ukukhathala okuyisisekelo ngemuva kokusebenza ngosuku). Ngakho bagijimela ku-Intanethi - "vula." Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi amanoveli ase-intanethi ayizijabulisa ezingenacala, cishe ukudlala kwengane. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zinombono ohlukile.
Okokuqala , ungathandana nomlingani wakho we-intanethi, ngoba abantu abaningi bexhumana nabo, lapho bethemba khona. Kukhona ukunxusa okungokomzwelo, okungahle kubonakale kunokubhubhisa ngaphezu kobulili obunqunu. Umlobi unomuzwa wokuthi ngakolunye uhlangothi lwesibonakaliso uqondwa kangcono kunomndeni wakhe: uzobuzwa ngempilo, nangomzwelo, ngisho nezimbali ziyokwenziwa (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziyini ngempela). Futhi ngomcabango ocebile, umlingani we-pen-and-pen uzobonakala ingelosi, engenakho ngokuphelele amaphutha.
Okwesibili , ukudlala ngothando akufani neze nokukhishwa kwangempela. Izakhamuzi zezokwelapha zaseBrithani zafika kulesi siphetho ngemva kochungechunge lwengxoxo, okwathi lapho kutholakala khona ukuthi abantu abangu-51% babheka izintandokazi zenethiwekhi njengokungathengi, kanti u-84% uyaqiniseka ukuthi umlingani okhohlisayo uyozizwa ezwa ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, ukudumazeka nokulahlekelwa ithemba, okungukuthi, konke okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu , esefundile mayelana nokukhishwa kwengxenye yakhe. Futhi ukusuka lapha kuya ekuhlukanisweni akude kakhulu.
Okwesithathu , ngezocansi ezingokoqobo, "ungazithola", njengokusebenzisa izidakamizwa noma utshwala, ucabangela ubudlelwane bothando lwangempela njengomshayeli, futhi "umlingani wezwe" njengento enomzimba futhi enesizotha. Futhi ukulutha kwe-inthanethi, njengokunye okunye, kunzima ukuphatha.
Viva kuyinto yothando!
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuphendula isikhalo sezocansi somunye u-Andrey waseKiev noma ukuxhaphaza izandla ngokushaya impendulo kuDan ongaqondakali wase-Uzhgorod, ulinganisa izikhathi eziyinkulungwane. Mhlawumbe kungcono ukuvala ikhompuyutha, uye kumlingani wakho bese wenza "it" njengokwemvelo njengesikhatsi sezinkanyezi? Akusikho indawo yokulalela izakhamuzi zengqondo:
Yonke inkulumo yesithathu yesithathu ikhula ibe yinto yangempela. Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi usulungele ukuya lapha?
Uma umlutha wakho we-intanethi ubangelwa ukuzithemba futhi ukuzithoba okuphansi, shintsha impilo yakho ngokuphuthumayo: bhalisa ukuze uhlele, ukudansa, uqale ukulungisa. Izintshisekelo ezibonakalayo azixazululisi izinkinga zakho, futhi uzixosha ngisho nakakhulu!
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubuyela ebuhlotsheni yi-romance endala - ngezikhathi ezithile uhlela amavikikiki ezocansi (ngisho nakakhulu - sebenzisa ingxenye yamaholide ndawonye, ngaphandle kwezingane, ugogo nomkhulu). Hamba okungenani eMaldives, ngisho nase-dacha (nje ungakheli ikhefu lapho, ungawubhedi imibhede bese uthatha ukhukhamba) futhi ujabulele inkampani yomunye nomunye!
Uma ukuxhumana okungokwemvelo kungaphandle kuwe, kodwa usolisa umlingani kubo, lokhu akusona isizathu sokuphula ikhibhodi ekhanda lakhe. Mhlawumbe waya endaweni yokuphola noma uxoxe nje ngekhanda. Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi unento yangempela ye-virtual? Yenza ngokuhlakanipha, ngoba amanoveli enethiwekhi akwenzeki nje kuphela - kungenxa yezinkinga nomlingani ohlala njalo.
Ungayihloli, uzama ukuthola ukuthi ubani okhuluma naye, futhi ungamniki "izinkulumo zenhliziyo kuya enhliziyweni." Ngokusho kwezazi zengqondo, owesifazane ohlakaniphile esimweni esinjalo uyozenza sengathi akukho lutho olwenzekayo, ukudlala indima yomfazi omuhle. Uma umfazi okhubazekile eqala ukuhlela amahlaya,
ukuxosha umkhohlisi ongekhaya, uzoshiya: "Wena ngokwakho wawufuna." Ngendlela, uma kwenzeka lokhu, linda ukuphelelwa ithemba. Cishe, okhethiweyo wakho uzobuya maduzane. Ubungqayizivele bamanoveli angempela - ukukhwabanisa kwi-intanethi ukuthi bayashintsha ngokushesha, kodwa futhi bahamba ngokushesha nje: isithombe esihle kulesi sibonakaliso asihambisani kahle neqiniso. Okokuqala, umuntu osangayo uzothola ukuthi isifuba sothando lwakhe lwangempela lufana nokubola kwesisu, khona-ke uzoqala ukucasulwa izitsha ezingcolile ekhishini (futhi umkakhe unobungcweti obuphelele!), Khona-ke uzokuqoqa ngokushesha i-suitcase. Ukuphila kuyabuhlungu ngokushesha!
Cabanga imfihlakalo. Lokhu akukhathazi nje kuphela isithombe esisha, nakuba kungakufanelekeli ukuyikulahla, kodwa futhi nokushintsha endleleni yokuphila. Uthande imibala ezolile? Gqoka elikhanyayo! Awuthandanga ukupheka? Wamangala umyeni wakho enezitsha ezinhle. Ngabe bebethande futhi bahlanza? Funda indima yesiphambano samantombazane - ikakhulukazi ukuguqulwa kwesithombe, intshisekelo yomlingani.
Buyisa umbhede!
Izincomo ziyasebenza kwabesifazane abayeni babo abathanda ama-strawberries kuphela. Abantu abaningi bacabangela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezitholakala kuyi-intanethi uhlobo olushintshashintshayo, kodwa abakwa-sexologists bathi akukho lutho olwesabekayo kulokhu - ubulili obuqinile budinga ukugqugquzelwa ngokocansi okubukwayo.
Ikakhulukazi ngoba iningi labahloniphekile, njengomthetho, i-swagger kumasayithi e-porn, isifiso, futhi iningi futhi injabulo "idla" kakade ekhaya nomfazi ovumelekile.
Kodwa-ke, kubi, uma izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithatha indawo yocansi evamile-yilapho i-hubby ethandekayo idinga ukukhishwa ngokuphuthumayo emithonjeni yobuhle be-silicone. Okungcono - ngosizo lomuntu wesifo socansi.
Futhi njengoba i-prophylactic engeza ubuciko empilweni esondelene nayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ungabuka ndawonye "ama-movie omdala" - lokhu, njengoba kuphawuliwe ochwepheshe, kuzojabulisa umlingani ngaphezu kokubukela yedwa. Yebo, futhi kuyoba nethuba lokusebenzisa le mbono ngokusebenza. Futhi ungakhohlwa izindlela ezifakazelwe - izimbangela ezintsha, amathoyizi ezitho zobulili kanye, nakanjani, zangaphansi kwezingubo zangaphansi.
Izimpikiswano zocansi lomndeni
Ukucasula okungahambi kahle kuyisignali embi. Okuyingozi kakhulu uma inkinga ihlangana nabashadile ... ngonyaka wesithathu womshado. Izifiso ezinzima zigcina, mahora, kusukela ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kuya eminyakeni emibili. Ukuze ungalahlekelwa intshisekelo, kufanele uhlotshaniswe nenye into ngaphandle kwezocansi, njengokuzalwa kwengane.
... Seventh - kokubili amadoda nabesifazane bakhathele ukukhathazeka kwempilo yomndeni. Kumyeni wakhe akahambanga ukufuna ukuqhuma kwemifucumfucu ehlangothini, kuzodingeka ... ube yi-volcano ngokwakho.
... Unyaka wamashumi amabili. Abantu bahlanganyela nengxenye yokuphila. Isizathu sizungu sisodwa. Izingane sezikhulile, njengento engekho kakade ehlangene. Izinto zokuzilibazisa ezijwayelekile zizokusiza lapha: ukwakha indlu, ukuhamba. Futhi ucansi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhumbuzana ngothando!
Izimpawu ezinhlanu zokuhlukunyezwa (zangempela noma ezingokoqobo)
Ukuba yingxenye yomfazi okhohlisiwe akuyona into emnandi kakhulu. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukunaka izimpawu ezingekho ngqo ezibonisa ukuhlukumezeka okungenzeka.
1. Umkhuba wokuhlala emva komsebenzi, ikakhulukazi uma kungakafiki; ukuvakashelwa njalo kubangani ongabaziyo.
Ukuziphatha okumangalisayo phakathi kwengxoxo yocingo: umlingani ufuna
indawo ethile yokuhamba nefoni, ungasho ukuthi ubani obizayo, usula i-SMS, njll. Okufanayo kusebenza kumakhompiyutha: oshade naye uvala i-laptop endlini yokugezela, akakuvumeli ukuba ubuke i-mail yakhe, usondele eduze kwesikrini, uma esebenza, asuse unomphela umlando wayo we-Intanethi. 3. Ukulenga njalo ezingxoxweni nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana nabantu, abangane abaningi kakhulu bobulili obuhlukile ekhasini lakhe.
4. Ukuziphatha okungavamile kocansi: oshade naye noma yizo zonke izindlela ugwema ukusondelana nawe, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, unxusa zonke izimo ezilula futhi ezingathandeki, ezingakaze zibonwe ngaphambilini.
5. Isimo sengqondo sokuziqhenya ngokuzenzekelayo ngokubonakala kwakhe: ukukhethwa ngokucophelela kwe-suit, i-perfume, ukuthenga ilineni elibizayo, njll.