Indlela yokuthola indoda

Abesifazane abaningi bayazibuza "indlela yokuthola indoda" ngobuhlobo obunzima, ngobusuku obulodwa, ngomphefumulo noma ngomzimba, kanye nokukhulelwa kanye nokufundiswa kwezingane, noma imfundo kakade ikhulelwe (eyazalwa).

Okokuqala, cabangela ukuthi wenzani lokhu. Ngenza ikhanda lezemfashini, ngigqoke ingubo ngokusheshisa, ngiphunga ngamafutha abizayo, ngenza i-makeup esheshayo. Izenzo ezinjalo zanyamalala.
Ngokungangabazeki, owesifazane kufanele abuke kahle futhi iphunga elimnandi kufanele livela kuye, kodwa lokhu akwanele, ngoba cishe bonke abesifazane benza okufanayo.

Pho uthola kanjani indoda? Amadoda amaningi adinga ukucindezela ukuze athole owesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma emthanda.

Izizathu zingahluka.

Akuyona indawo efanele - Wonke umuntu unobandlululo lokuziphatha okuhlukile, isibonelo, omunye ucabanga ukuthi abesifazane abahloniphekile abazijwayele emgwaqeni, futhi impela umzamo onjalo uzophela ekuhlulekeni noma uzocabanga kabi ngaye.

Mhlawumbe umatasa, futhi uma ubuhle obunjalo abuqashiwe, khona-ke unomlingisi ongenakubekezeleleka. Mina ngokwami ​​ngacabanga kanjalo ngaphambili, kodwa emva kokumba ngezinkundla ezahlukene, amanethiwekhi omphakathi, izindawo zokuphola, ngaphetha ngokuthi ngangiphutha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, "umfazi wami womphakathi" wayesanda ukuthola umsebenzi omusha, lapho ithimba labesifazane, omunye wabo kuphela ohlala nomfana (nami), kanti omunye ushada, amanye asesha. Futhi iningi lalabo besifazane abahle kakhulu.

Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu, kepha ikakhulukazi ukwesaba nje, yebo, thina besilisa siyakwesaba. Futhi, uma ubheka kuwo, cishe zonke izizathu ziyisizathu sokuzikhethela wena, futhi ukucinga ngezimbangela ezinjalo kuqala ngokumesaba, ukwesaba ukulahlwa, kubonakala sengathi i-idiot, njll.

Ngokuvamile, amadoda asaba ukusondela kwabesifazane, kanti labo abangesabi, abasilahleli abesifazane futhi babophe lowo muntu kuyoba nzima noma kungenakwenzeka.

Owesifazane kufanele abe ngowokuqala ukunikeza izimpawu zokunakekela umuntu othobekile, isibonelo, ukudubula amehlo, ukumomotheka, ukumbuka.

Lokhu kuzothuthukisa amathuba, ukuthi uzozama ukusondela. Futhi kungcono ukuqala ingxoxo wena ngokwakho, umbuzo othize, ungacela isikhathi noma uye emgwaqweni kaKarl Liebknecht, kanti ngenkathi ephendula, ubheke amehlo akhe futhi amomotheka (hhayi nje amanga).

Bese nje uqhubeke ingxoxo, ungazijwayele. Umfana uzobona ngokushesha ukuthi unesithakazelo kuwe noma cha, uqala ukuhlazeka, ukumomotheka, kukhona inhlansi emehlweni akhe, khona-ke unesithakazelo.

Lokhu kufanele kube ngokwanele ukuba asebenze, ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, kungenzeka ukuthi, ngokusemthethweni ukuhlangana naye ngendlela engelinye ilanga. Kodwa ungawudluli, ngoba udinga ukuthi anqobe.

Futhi-ke, ngakho-ke ukumlandela, akudingi muntu. Uma lo mfana ebona ukuthi ufuna ukumhlangabeza ngokuqondile, ngeke anqobe wena, ngaphezu kwalokho, angakwazi ngisho nokushaya amaphuzu kuwe.

Ngamanye amazwi, udinga ukunaka futhi ukhiphe ukwesaba okuncane, bese umvumela ukuba enze konke okusemandleni akhe, ungamshayela nje isoka ukuthi likwazi ukuzenzela ngenxa yenkosikazi enhle.

Konke lokhu kwenziwa? Yebo, noma kuphi, emgwaqweni, esitolo, ezokuthutha zomphakathi, ku-cafe, ku-club. Ngizobona kuphela ukuthi kungcono ukwazi ukuthi bukhoma kunokuba ku-intanethi. Amadoda ahlakaniphile awaveleli enetheni. Vele ungahlehlisi kusasa, lezi zikhathi zokudla zingaphila kuze kube phakade futhi ngokuqinisekile kuyoba.

Vala isiphequluli, vala ikhompyutha bese uthola abafana abathintekayo!