Indlela izingane eziwela ngayo emgibeni wokulutha
Namuhla akulula ukuthola isidakamizwa esiyingozi. Abahwebi bakhona kuyi-intanethi noma ngisho nase-disco school. Abantu abasha bafuna okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, bafuna ukubona ukuthi banamandla kangakanani futhi bangabi nesaba kanjani emaminithini ambalwa nje. Ukujula kwenkinga kubangelwa ukuthi izingane zanamuhla azisekho "ukuzwakalisa" ukucwilisa noma ukhula - ziqala izidakamizwa ezinamandla ngokushesha. Okuvamile kulezi zi-amphetamine noma i-LSD ne-heroin. Ukuthembela kuzo kwenzeka emva kokuqala kwesicelo, futhi ukudlula ngokweqile okuholela ekufeni.
Kungani izingane zithatha lesi sinyathelo? Phela, abaningi babo bayazi ukuthi kungenzeka yini imiphumela kodwa, kodwa akayibavimbeli. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantwana beqala ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa. Phakathi kwabo:
1. Ukucindezeleka. Ingane ifuna nje ukukhohlwa ngezinkinga zakhe ekhaya noma esikoleni, ifuna ukuzwa amandla okubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukuhlupheka.
2. Isibongo. Ngokuvamile izingane ezivela emindenini eyenza kahle zihlupheka ngalokhu, lapho abazali "bethengisa khona" ingane ngamathoyizi abizayo, imali ephaketheni kanye nezipho. Ingane inakho konke, kodwa ayinaki nokunakwa.
3. Ukungabi nesizungu. Ingane ibhekene nezinkinga zayo, engenakho ukuxhumana. Ukungqubuzana nabazali kungenzeka, lapho ingane ifuna ukuvunyelwa phakathi kontanga yakhe.
4. Isifiso. Ihlanganisa izingane ezincane (iminyaka engu-7-10) ezikude kakhulu nokwazi ngezingozi zezidakamizwa.
5. Ifomu lokumbhikisana. Uthola esimweni lapho ingane 'ichotshozwa' ngokuvinjelwa nokugxeka. Ngakho uzama ukuhlukana "nokwesaba" komzali.
6. Isifiso sokuvela sivuthiwe ngokwengeziwe. Lesi yisizathu esivame kakhulu kuzo zonke izintsha "ezingenangqondo". Kuvela ngenxa yokunganaki kwangaphakathi nokuziphendulela kwangaphakathi.
Eziningi zalezi zizathu zingase zibonakale zingenasisekelo, kodwa intsha iyithatha ngokungathí sina. Nokho, kufanele ucabange ukuthi phakathi kwezizathu eziyinhloko futhi uyisibonelo esihle sabantu abadala. Uma abazali bengumlutha wotshwala nogwayi, izingane zixhomeke kalula kwenye into. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuba nzima kangakanani abazali ukuba bamukele ukuthi izingane zabo zisebenzisa izidakamizwa. Kodwa isimo sabo sengqondo ngokuqondene nengane, uma esebenzisa izidakamizwa, akufanele kubekwe icala. Uma kungenjalo, ingane ihamba kude, futhi ukuziphatha kwakhe kuyodlula nakakhulu.
Indlela yokuvimbela ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa izingane
Sondela, khuluma ngengozi
Ngokusho kochwepheshe bezokwelapha izidakamizwa, ukuvikelwa okuphumelelayo kwezidakamizwa kungenxa yengane ikhaya elifudumele nelithembekile. Indlu lapho abazali bengakhuluma ngokukhululekile ngakho konke, bezwe uthando lwabo nokunakekelwa kwabo. Noma yimuphi umfana kufanele alungiselele umhlangano ongenzeka nabantu abanikeza izidakamizwa. Ungabalungiselela kanjani ngokufanele?
- Funda kanye nezincwadi zamantombazane kanye nezihloko ezibonisa ukuthi lokhu kudlalwa kungaholela kuphi.
- Xoxa ngezinkinga. Buza ingane ukuthi inikeza izidakamizwa esikoleni noma emgwaqweni. Buza ukuthi ucabangani ngalokhu, ngabe uyazi ukuthi ububi bendaba buyini.
- Chaza. Tshela ingane ngemigomo yomuthi. Chaza izizathu ezenza abantu babe izidakamizwa. Ungagxili, kepha cacisa ngempela inkinga.
- Fundisa ingane ukuthi ithi "cha." Chaza ukuthi unelungelo lokunqaba noma nini. Akekho ongamphoqa ukuba enze noma yini. Lokhu kungukuphila kwakhe futhi kuphela ongakwazi ukunquma ukuthi kuzoba njani.
Xhumana nomntwana!
Wonke umuntu unesidingo sokukhuluma ngezinto ezithandayo futhi zizwakale. Ngokuvamile abazali abaqapheli ukuthi izingane zabo zinesidingo esikhulu sokukhuluma nabo. Uma ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho nezingane zakho kuphukile, kukhona ingozi yezinkinga nokungaqondi kahle okungase kube nemiphumela ehlukile. Ukuhlukaniswa okulandelayo kuyoholela ingane ukuba ifune othintana nabo abakhulu nalabo abangaphandle. Ngakho bazofuna ukuxhumana embuthanweni wabangane - abaqashiwe nezihlobo ezingaqondakali.
Lalela ingane ngokucophelela!
Ukuba umlaleli omuhle kuyimfuneko yokukhulumisana enomsebenzi. Ekukhulumisaneni nezingane ikhono lokuzizwa lilula. Eqinisweni, igama elithi "ulalele" lisho:
- bonisa intshisekelo yakho empilweni yengane;
- Zama ukuqonda imicabango nemizwa yakhe;
- kumsiza ukuba achaze kangcono imizwa yakhe kanye nokulindela;
- ukwazi ukuveza ukuzibophezela okuvamile enkingeni yakho;
- bonisa izingane ukuthi usukulungele ukubalalela njalo ngokuqonda nganoma yisiphi isizathu.
Zibeke endaweni yengane
Zama ukubheka umhlaba ngamehlo akhe! Abantu abasha bavame ukugqamisa izinkinga zabo, bebonisa ukuthi akekho omunye oye waba nezinkinga ezifanayo. Mtshele ukuthi akayedwa yinkinga yakhe. Zizwa ingane, ube nesithakazelo ezinkingeni zakhe. Akufanele unikeze izixazululo ezilungiselelwe futhi ucasule ingane yakho ngezindaba ezithandekayo mayelana nokudlula kwakho. Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane izwe ukuzimisela kwakho ukumsiza, uma kunesidingo.
Sichitha isikhathi nengane yakho
Yenza okuthile okuyoba okuthakazelisayo ngokufanayo kuzo zombili izinhlangothi. Ukuxhumana kuyathandeka ngaso sonke isikhathi uma kudalwe kungadlali, lapho bobabili abahlanganyeli behlanganyela ngokujabula kokuba ndawonye. Akudingekile ukuthi uhlele into ekhethekile. Ungakwazi nje ukuya kuma-movie, ubukele ibhola noma ubukele i-TV. Akubalulekile njengoba uchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Into esemqoka. Ukuthi kwaletha injabulo futhi kwenzeka njalo.
Yenza abangane nabangani bantfwana bakho!
Njengomthetho, abantu abasha bazama izidakamizwa endaweni yabo enobungane. Kungenzeka ukuthi labo abasebenzisa izidakamizwa, abacindezela kwengqondo kwabanye, baphoqeleka ukuba balandele isibonelo sabo. Zama ukuthola futhi uhlangane nabangani bakho, ngisho noma kungewona ongazikhethela. Mema ekhaya, bona indawo lapho bangaba khona ndawonye. Ngale ndlela, uzoqhubeka nokuthonya lokho abakwenzayo.
Ukusekela izithakazelo zomntanakho
Ukuzibamba nokungaqiniseki ngalokho okumele ukwenze wena ngokwakho kuyindlela eqondile yezidakamizwa. Siza izingane ukuthi zithole ukuthi ziyini izithandwa zabo. Bakhuthaze ekuzilibazisekeni kwabo, benze izimo zokuthuthukisa izithakazelo zabo.
Ungakhathaleli izingane zethu!
Zonke izingane zinamakhono ambalwa, kodwa akubona bonke abazali abamukela leli qiniso. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuthola abazali abasekela izingane zabo ekufuneni intuthuko. Lapho izingane zibona ukuthi zifeze okuthile futhi zithola ukuqashelwa kahle kwalokhu, zithola ukuzethemba okukhulu nokuzethemba ngamakhono abo. Ngalokho, lokhu kubakhuthaza ekutholeni okusha nokusha kwamathuba abo. Umkhuba wokuthi izingane ezinjalo zizobhekana nezidakamizwa ziphansi kakhulu.
Izimpawu zokuxhomeka kwezidakamizwa ezinganeni
Ungazitholi nje ukuthi ingane yakho iyathatha izidakamizwa, ikakhulukazi uma sekuyisikhathi sokuqala, noma isetshenziswe kuphela ngezikhathi ezithile. Izimpawu eziningi zijwayele ukuthuthukiswa komuntu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ungadluli kwiziphetho uma ubona noma iyiphi yalezi zimpawu:
- izinguquko ngokungazelelwe kwemizwa: kusuka ekukhanyeni kwenjabulo kuya ekukhathazeni nasekucindezelekeni;
- ukucasula okungavamile noma ukuhlukunyezwa;
- ukulahlekelwa ukudla;
- Ukungabi nentshisekelo ekuzilibazisa, ezemidlalo, esikoleni noma kubangane;
- izinkathazo zokulala nokuzithemba;
- ukulahleka okungenakuqhathaniswa kwemali noma impahla kusuka ekhaya lakho;
- iphunga elingavamile, izibazi kanye nezibazi emzimbeni noma ezembatho;
- ama-powders angavamile, amaphilisi, ama-capsules, u-foil noma izinaliti ezithandwayo ezivela emaseleni.
- imidwebo ye-punctures ezandleni, ama-blood stains ezembatho;
- kancane kancane (engaphansi kuka-3 mm ububanzi) noma ekhulisiwe (amamitha angaphezu kuka-6 mm) abafundi;
- izingcingo ezingavamile, izinkampani zabangane abangajwayelekile.
Khumbula ukuthi zonke lezi zimpawu zigcinwa kuphela ngesikhathi sokuqala, lapho abazali benethuba langempela lokusiza ingane yabo ukuyeka izidakamizwa. Uma umzimba uvumelanisa nezidakamizwa, izimpawu zizophela. Khona-ke ochwepheshe kuphela uzokwazi ukubona izimpawu zangaphandle ukuthi ingane ingumlutha wezidakamizwa. Khuluma nabantu abasebenzisana ngokuningi nabangani bakho - abangane, othisha.
Yenzani ngokushesha!
Wonke umzali kufanele azi ukuthi angayisiza kanjani ingane uma ukusetshenziswa kwakhe kwezidakamizwa kuqinisekisiwe. Uma unenkinga enkulu yokuthi indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ithatha izidakamizwa - yenza ukuhlolwa okulula komchamo wengane. Ukuhlolwa okunjalo sekuvele kutholakala kuma-pharmacy ngaphandle kwemithi. Khumbula, uma izinsolo zakho ziqinisekiswa, kufanele usebenze ngokushesha!
- Xhumana nomtholampilo ngensizwa engumlutha wezidakamizwa bese ukhuluma nodokotela. Lokhu kubalulekile! Ukungenelela nokusiza kwabachwepheshe kuzosebenza kangcono kunokuba uma uzama ukuxazulula izinkinga wena. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ingane yakho isivele ixhomekile, ukwelashwa emtholampilo kungasiza ekwelapheni isikhathi eside kusuka ekulweni kwezidakamizwa.
- Nakuba kunzima, zama ukugcina imizwa yakho. Ungamhlaseli ingane - lokhu kuzokukwenza kube nzima nakakhulu. Intombazane ingavimba ngaphakathi kwayo futhi inqabe ukubambisana nesazi sengqondo. Futhi-ke inqubo yokwelapha iyoba nzima nakakhulu.