U-Onan wayengafuni ukuthi akhulelwe, ngoba umntwana owazalwa wayeyindlalifa yomzalwane, ngakho-ke wathululela imbewu emhlabathini. Ngalesi sici seBhayibheli kwavela umqondo wokuthi "ukushaya indlwabu", okubizwa ngokuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngokungafanele.
Okuyisisekelo salokhu, indlela yokuvimbela ukuziphatha komzimba okuphazanyiswayo, yukuthi ukuvimbela imbewu ukuthi ingangeni, noma isilwane sangaphakathi lesiswini sowesifazane, okungabangela ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, indoda iyayeka ukulala ngaphambi kokuphuma kwesidoda, ithathe ilungu eliphuma emkhathini.
Inqubo yokuphazamiseka ngokobulili idinga ukunakekelwa okukhethekile kulo muntu. Indoda enobuchwepheshe kufanele ibambe izibonakaliso zokuqala ze-orgasm kanye nokuqala kokuqhuma kwenzalo.
Ngalendlela yokuvimbela ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, isimiso sezinzwa sishuba kakhulu emadodeni. Ebuchosheni bakhe, kukhona okuthiwa "i-skibe". Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngesikhathi sokulala ngokobulili, kunokwanda kwenjabulo futhi ubuchopho buzwa ukwanda kwentokozo futhi kuhloswe ukuba luqhubeke isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, indoda enokwanda kwenjabulo kufanele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inqume indlela yokukhipha ukwelashwa futhi isuse i-penis kusukela kwesifazane wesifazane ngesikhathi i-sperm ayizange ingene emzimbeni.
Ngokuvamile, ukuziphatha kocansi okuphazanyiswa kunomthelela omubi esimweni esijwayelekile somuntu wesifazane, noma kunjalo, nesimo somuntu. Kodwa le nethonya iyedwa futhi incike ezimweni zesidingo sezesifazane. Kulokhu, okukhethwa kukho okulandelayo kungenzeka:
1) Owesifazane unomsoco, akakwazi nje ukuzwa ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, kodwa futhi ucansi uqobo lwakhe. Akanayo ukwanda kokuvuthwa ngokocansi, futhi akanalo umzila wegazi ezithombeni zobulili nokuvuvukala kwawo. Owesifazane onjalo akanandaba nhlobo uma ukulala komzimba kuphazamiseka. Kulokhu, ukulala ngokobulili akuthinti kabi isimo sesifazane.
2) Owesifazane ukhululekile futhi angathola i-orgasm ngaphambi kokuphazamisa ubulili. Kule ndaba, ukulala ngokobulili okuphazanyiswayo akusho neze ukuphazamisa isimo esijwayelekile sowesifazane.
3) Icala elivame kakhulu, lapho ukuvuswa kocansi kowesifazane nowendoda kukhula ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa i-orgasm owesifazane ivela kancane kancane kunomuntu. Ukuqeda ukulala ngokocansi ekuqaleni kwalesi simo kanye nokukhipha ipeni kusuka ebiswini kuholela ekutheni owesifazane akatholi ukwaneliseka ngokobulili. Izitho zangasese zomzimba zihlala zivuvukala, igazi aliphuzi kuzo ngokushesha, owesifazane uvame ukubhekana nokuzwa okungathandeki, ngezinye izikhathi ubuhlungu esiswini nasezicilini, kuze kube yilapho ukugcwala igazi ngegazi lakhe kungavali. Kwenzekani ngezinye izikhathi isikhathi eside.
Ukuphazamiseka ngokocansi, njengokuvamile, kuqala ngokusungulwa kwepenisi ngaphakathi kwesiswini, bese kuthi kusukela ekungezansi, ekungeneni kokuqala okuhamba kancane (ukunyakaza kwepenisi). Kulesi simo, owesifazane ulindele ukungena okujulile. Le ndlela yokunyakaza kwepenisini emzimbeni wesifazane umvusa kakhulu, imenza asebenze ekusebenzelaneni ngokocansi. Lesi simiso sokunyakaza kwepenisi kungashintsha ngokushesha, ngokungena okujulile nokubuyela kwisigqi sangaphambilini. Ngesikhathi sokulala ngokobulili, izinga lokunyakaza kwe-penis emzimbeni lihamba ngokushesha, ukujula kokungena kwepenisi kwanda, ukunyakaza kwayo kuyajula, ngokushintshanisa ngaphakathi kwesifazane. Engxenyeni yokugcina yokulala ngokobulili, ukuphazamiseka kwenziwa ngezinga elisheshayo, kodwa kungenzeka nokuphuza ukuhlukunyezwa, okwandisa umsebenzi wesifazane, okwandisa ukubekezela nokuthokoza, uma lokhu kungaphazamisi i-orgasm eqale kowesifazane. Ubhekana ne-orgasm uma i-penis ihlala emlonyeni wayo. Le ndlela yokulala ngokobulili inokwenzeka uma umuntu engahlupheki ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi futhi angakwazi ukulawula ukuqala kwe-orgasm.
Uma indoda noma owesifazane engakaze aneliseke ngokocansi ngesikhathi sokuphazamiseka ngokocansi, angayifinyelela ngenye indlela eyamukelekayo kubo. Isibonelo, ngosizo lomlomo noma amanye ama-caresses. Abesifazane bavame ukusebenzisa i-blowjob - i-caresses yomlomo ye-penis - esigabeni sokugcina sokulala ngokocansi ukuze kuvinjelwe ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, lapho umuntu ethululela isidoda sakhe emlonyeni wesifazane.
Indoda ingakwazi futhi ukuletha ukwaneliseka ngokocansi kumuntu wesifazane ngemuva kokulala ngokocansi ngomlomo kanye nezinye izidakamizwa zezinsikazi zakhe uma engakaze azibonele i-orgasm ngesizathu esisodwa noma esinye ngesikhathi. Indawo enhle kakhulu enobungozi ewesifazane yi-clitoris. Amadoda anakekelayo anika lona wesifazane ithuba lokuthola i-orgasm ngokucasula i-clitoris ngesandla sakhe noma emlonyeni (kisses of the genitals, licking and sucking the clitoris).
Ubufakazi bombhalo bubonisa ukuthi ukuphazamiseka ngokobulili, njengendlela yokuvimbela ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, akuphumelelanga ngoba ingozi yokukhulelwa okungadingeki iphezulu kakhulu. Lokhu kungenxa yezici eziningi. Ngokuyinhloko, ngekhono lomuntu ukulawula ukujula. Ngakho-ke, akufanelekile uku-ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Izici ezimbi zokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa eziphazamisekile ngezibili zibuye ziphawulwe. Okuthiwa: ukulimala ezithombeni zofuzo kanye nezitho zesikhumba esincane uma kungenakuthola ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, okungaholela ezifweni ezivuthayo ezithombeni zangasese zomzimba zendoda nowesifazane.
Ukufingqa imiphumela yokuthi zivikelwe kanjani ngokobulili obuphazamisekile, kungashiwo ukuthi le ndlela ayiyona indlela ephumelelayo yokuvimbela ukukhulelwa okungadingeki. Ukusetshenziswa kwayo okuhlelekile kungaholela ezifweni zesigaba socansi, kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa.