Yiqiniso, intombazane enhle kahle futhi enhle ihlale iheha abantu. Ngakho-ke abantu bethu bahlelwe - bathanda amehlo. Noma yimuphi umfana indima ebalulekile idlalwe umbono wabanye. Ngemuva kwalokho, amadoda avame ukuhlela uhlobo lwe "ukubonisana", lapho banquma khona ukuthi kufanele yini ukuhlangana nentombazane ethile. Yiqiniso, lokhu akukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi isenzo esihlakaniphile kakhulu, kodwa ukuthembela kubangani ngezinye izikhathi kumangalisa. Yingakho udinga ukuziphatha ngendlela yokuthi indoda ayinandaba nokuthi abangane bakhe bayakuphatha kanjani. Kodwa kungcono ukwenza okuthile ukuze nabo bajabule nawe. Kodwa indlela yokuziphathisa ukuze umfana ahlale ehlanya ngami? Ukuze angaboni muntu futhi anginakekele kuphela. Ngakho-ke angizange ngikubone ubuso bakhe oblique buqondise intombazane ethile.
Amantombazane athukuthela kakhulu lapho amantombazane ekhuluma kabi ngezinkampani zabo. Futhi uma wenza okuphambene na? Uma wenza ubungane nabantu bakhe abaseduze futhi ungazicabangi imihlangano yamadoda abo? Into eyinhloko akukhona ukugqithisa induku futhi ungabi "umfowenu" isoka lakho. Abangane bakhe kufanele bahlale bekhumbula ukuthi uyintombazane, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uyaphatha njengoba bekhuluma nomngani. Ngokushesha kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi uma umfana engumuntu ongeyona into emnandi, akudingeki ukuba uziphoqe futhi ube ngumngane nabo. Kodwa esimweni lapho amantombazane ethanda wena, ungathula ukuxhumana nabo ngokuthula.
Kulesi simo, kulula kakhulu kulabo besifazane abasebenzisa izinkampani zabantu futhi bajoyine ngokushesha. Lawa mantombazane angakwazi ukuxhumana nabantu abasha emahoreni ambalwa nje futhi ekugcineni abe umngane weqiniso. Into esemqoka akukona ukugoba induku ukuze isoka lakho lingabi nomhawu. Futhi angaba nomona ngamacala amabili: wena kubangani nabangani kuwe. Kungase kubonakale kuwe ukuthi uzwela kakhulu kumunye wabafana, noma, ngokuphambene, ukuthi abafana baqala ukukucabangela umngane kangcono kunabo. Ngakho-ke, kuleso simo, qiniseka ukuthi uzama ukunamathela kwi-golden mean futhi ugweme ngokweqile. Uma wenza konke okulungile, inkampani yomsilisa izokuphatha kahle futhi uma kwenzeka ukuthi yini eyomkhumbuza ukuthi ungumuntu ongcono futhi ucasule intombazane enjalo ayifanele.
Bonke abafana bathanda labo besifazane abakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo, futhi hhayi njalo bathembele ekusizeni kwakhe. Yiqiniso, akufanele ube ngowesifazane, ohlala ekhetha yonke into futhi ebheka umfana ophansi. Kodwa uma insizwa ikukhombisa ukuthi ungashintsha kanjani isondo emshinini noma ufake uhlelo lokusebenza kukhompyutha, zama ukukhumbula lokhu futhi uzenze ngokwakho esikhathini esizayo. Amantombazane ayajabula ukuqonda nokutshela abanye ukuthi intombi yakhe iyazi ukuthi angenzani kahle umsebenzi wesifazane. Ngenhliziyo, iningi labantu abanobuningi bezinkinga zobuchwepheshe abadelela abesifazane abancane abahlala benesimo sengqondo sokusiza abantu futhi banomuzwa wokuthi ukungakwazi ukwenza okuthile kwezobuciko kuyisabeka. Yingakho lapho wenza lo msebenzi ngokwakho, indoda iyaziqhenya ngawe, iyazibuza ukuthi eceleni kwakhe kukhona owesifazane ohlakaniphile.
Uma ufuna umfana ukuba akuqonde, funda ukupheka. Kumuntu, ikhono lakho lokondla ngento enhle kakhulu kubaluleke kakhulu. Abafana bangaziqhayisa nabangane emsebenzini ukuze abathandekayo bakhe bakwazi ukumondla ekhaya futhi bafake okuthile okumnandi nokwanelisayo ukusebenza. Yiqiniso, kunamadoda afisa ukupheka ngokwabo, kodwa ahlukile kumithetho. Futhi ngisho nangomfana onjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukumjabulisa ngenhlobo ethile yokuzijabulisa. Noma kunjalo, ungakhohlwa ukuthi "indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ilele esiswini." Futhi lokhu kuhambelana ne-genotype. Ngiyavuma, eqinisweni, ngisho nasezikhathini zasendulo, umshayeli osheshayo wayengumzingeli ophethwe kahle. Nguye owayengabamba futhi athole izilwane eziningi, okusho ukuthi uthole ukudla okwanele nokudla umndeni.
Owesifazane wangempela ungowesifazane owazi kuqala ukuthi uzithanda kanjani. Yingakho, uma ufuna umfana ukuba adideke ngawe, awukwazi ukukhononda njalo ngawe, impilo yakho, umsebenzi, ukubukeka, nokunye okuningi. Kuyinto eyodwa yokwabelana ngezinkinga futhi okunye - ukugcoba njalo ukuthi impilo ihlulekile, awukho futhi ikubiza nganoma iyiphi indlela. Yiqiniso, amantombazane afuna ukuvikela abesifazane bawo abakhulu, kodwa ungaxazululi zonke izinkinga zabo futhi ududuze nganoma yisiphi isizathu. Ungaba yinkimbinkimbi ngaphandle, kodwa, ngenkathi usenenduku ngaphakathi. Kuphela nentombazane enamandla neyomoya engenamuntu umuntu angakwazi futhi afune ukubopha ukuphila kwakhe futhi uzofuna ukubopha. Yiba njalo njalo othandweni nawe. Zikwazi ukuzenzela izinjabulo ezincane futhi ungavumeli izinkinga zonakalise impilo yakho nemizwelo yakho. Uma umuntu ezwa okuhle, okuvela encekwini yakhe yenhliziyo. Yena ngokwakhe uzizwa amandla nesifiso sokwenza okuthile ekuphileni. Isibi esingapheli siphenduka futhi sikwenze ucabange: kungani sidinga lokhu?
Noma yimuphi umuntu udinga okuhle nokusekela okuhle. Ungakhohlwa ukumkhumbuza ukuthi uyamthanda, uyamhlonipha futhi uyamthanda. Kufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi indlu yakhe iseduze nawe. Amadoda anamandla kuphela emzimbeni kunabesifazane. Kodwa ngokuziphatha bavame ukubuthakathaka kakhulu. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi othandekayo wakho angalifihli kangakanani izinkinga, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangezinyembezi, kudingeka aqondwe, asekelwe futhi asize ngesikhathi esithile esinzima. Ngisho nezinhlamvu eziyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke zingaqondwa. Kumele ulalele futhi ufunde phakathi kwemigqa, okungukuthi, ukuzwa phakathi kwamagama. Amadoda ethu avame ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zabo, kodwa asikwazi ukuzwa nokuliqonda. Kodwa uma owesifazane efunde ukuzwa ukuthi othandekayo wakhe uthanda intuitively, ngokuzithandela noma cha, uyomthanda ngakho, ukuhlonipha nothando nakakhulu.
Amadoda afana nobuntu obuqinile. Ngakho-ke, ungazami ukuzivumelanisa nesoka lakho kukho konke. Veza imicabango yakho, xoxani. Kodwa ungazimeleli ngenkani, ungathathi umbono wakhe futhi uphazamise amazwi alabo othandekayo. Amadoda akhathaza kakhulu isithunzi sabo futhi izenzo ezinzima ziba nzima ukuba bathethelele. Yiba njalo futhi ungakhohlwa ukuhlakanipha kwabesifazane, ngakho uthando lwakhe ngawe ngeke luphele.