Indoda - ethandana, okuhle noma embi?

Indoda ethandanayo - lokhu kuye kwaba umqondo ongaqondakali ezweni lanamuhla. Abaningi, bezibuza ukuthi kuhle noma kubi uma umfana ethanda ukuthandana naye, kunomthelela omubi. Kungani abantu bayeka ukucabanga ukuthi ukuthandana kuhle? Kungani sicabanga ukuthi umuntu uyisithandani, okuhle noma kubi?

Manje sizokhuluma ngabantu-i-romantics, kuhle noma kubi. Ubani indoda yangempela? Futhi ubani othandana ngempela? Kungani kufanele ube ngumuntu othanda izinto ezibonakalayo kanye nomsulwa? Kungani uthando lomshado lubi?

Ama-stereotypes ngamadoda othandana naye

Eqinisweni, kubesifazane abaningi banamuhla, indoda ethandana nayo ibonakala ibuthakathaka. Bacabanga ukuthi ukuthandana kunganika kuphela amaqhawe futhi banikeze ipharadesi endlini. Futhi lokhu, yebo, akuyona into enhle. Nakhu abesifazane futhi bacabanga ukuthi uthando lubi.

Lokho nje kuphela okungahambi kahle okungalungile. Eqinisweni, umuntu ongenazimpumputhe futhi ongenathemba angaba umuntu onesihluku, ongenakho ngokuphelele. Khona-ke ubani, uthando lwangempela?

Okokuqala, masingavumelani no-romance nomuntu ojwayelekile we-slut nokungaqondakali. Yilaba bantu abaphanga isithombe se-romance. Ngenxa yokuthi abesifazane abaningi bathokoza ngevesi ne-prose njengothando. Eqinisweni, amadoda anjalo enza konke ukuzwela. Ngisho nabo bayakwenza lokhu. Abalokothi bathole abesifazane ukusebenza. Futhi ngamazwi baveza kuphela ukuthi buhlungu futhi bubi kangakanani, ngoba babengathandwa.

Futhi uma abesifazane bebanika ithuba lokufakazela okuthile okusebenzayo, esikhundleni sokuzikhandla ngokwabo, amadoda anjalo aqala ukukhuluma ngokusho kokuphila kanye nobunzima empilweni. Amazwi angaphezulu awawafaki. Ngenxa yalokho, abesifazane banesizungu ngokusula ama-snot abo futhi baqala ukumemezela ukuthi kungcono ukuhlala ngaphandle kwezinkondlo namaswidi, kodwa kumuntu okwazi ukwenza okungenani into yangempela, hhayi nje ukuphumula emibhedeni yemifula ye-chamomile.

Ungubani, indoda yangempela?

Indoda yangempela yothando ayifani nhlobo. Uyazi ukuthi ubona kanjani ubuhle emafwini ajwayelekile noma ukunikeza intombazane izimbali zasendle. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi unkosikazi wenhliziyo uzohlala emotweni yakhe. Uthando lwangempela ekhoneni lento yonke uthando. Ngakho-ke, abashintshaniswanga ngamatshe amancane, lapho bethola "owesifazane" wabo, ngokushesha bazimisa ebuhlotsheni obunzima. Futhi uma umuntu efuna into ebalulekile, ngokufanele, uyaqonda ukuthi kufanele abe necala hhayi yena kuphela.

Uthando lwangempela lukwenza konke ukuze ukwazi ukujabulisa abathandekayo bakhe ngokumangala okumnandi. Yiqiniso, insizwa ayikwazi ukunikeza amajazi ombukiso namadayimane. Kodwa, uzama ukwenza konke ukuze kuvele ithuba elinjalo esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Nokho, ngeke azame ukuthenga owesifazane ngemali. Abantu abanjalo abakhethi lamantombazane abathanda ukuceba kanye nezinto ezibonakalayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, i-romantics ayiphiki ukuthi ingcebo yezinto ezibonakalayo iyadingeka. Futhi bazozama ukwenza konke ukuze owesifazane wabo othandekayo angadingi lutho. Kodwa, uma kwenzeka bebona ukuthi intombazane imnika uthando futhi uzama ukusekela nokusiza kukho konke.

Kuyinto yokuthandana nabantu abasha abakhulelwe kahle abakwazi ukuziphatha kahle nentombazane yabo ethandekayo. Ngisho noma bengabonakali ngaphambili, bahlelwe kuwo futhi babonakaliswe njengephepha le-litmus, lapho okuwukuphela komuntu othandeka kakhulu kuvela eceleni.

I-romantics yangempela izama njalo ukwenza into enhle yowesifazane. Kodwa, lokhu akusho ukuthi bahlale bethenga kakhulu. Cha, kungokunye okunye. Nje-ke lolu hlobo lomuntu lulalelisisa njalo owesifazane wakhe futhi luqaphela konke okuthandayo kanye nezifiso zakhe. Nguye ozomnika usuku lokuzalwa lwama-roses akhe abomvu abathandayo, hhayi ama-chamomiles, njengalabo bonke abanye, ngoba lingekho ehlobo ngaphandle. Nguye ohlala ethenga i-banana juice kuphela, ngoba uyayithanda ubhanana, uzothola uhlobo lwawo oluthandayo lwe-cheese futhi uzoyilungisa ikhekhe lebhanana leholidi.

Amadoda athandekayo ahlonipha izifiso zowesifazane othandekayo. Ubulili kubo akuwona ithuba lokuzondla ngokwabo. Leli thuba lokujabulisa ngempela umuntu wendabuko. Ngakho-ke, akalokothi agqugquzele futhi angaphoqeleli, ebona lokhu, okokuqala, ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa, futhi kuphela - ukukhangwa ngokomzimba. Futhi uma ama-romantics efika ocansini, azama ukufakazela noma yini futhi abonise ukuthi avulekile. Abantu abasha abanjalo bafuna ukuthi abantu babo bomdabu bajabule.

AmaRoma njalo ahlonipha owesifazane wabo. Ukuze kungenzeki, ngeke neze bavumele ukuxoxa nabathandekayo babo nabangani, ukukhuluma ngezinto ezimbi, ukwakha okuthile okuzobonakala kunenkampani yamadoda kangcono futhi ehamba phambili.

Bahlale bevikela othandekayo babo. Lokhu akukhona nje ngowesifazane othandekayo, kodwa ngaye, empeleni, kuqala. Ngomuntu onothando kangaka akasoze esaba ukuhamba emigwaqweni. Ngoba uzokwenza konke ukuvikela othandekayo wakhe. Angase azonde ukulwa, kodwa ngenxa yakhe, angene empini, akafuni ukuhlanganyela kwezobuciko ezehlukene, kodwa ufunde ukuze kungabi yingozi ukuthi ahambe ngezinselele ezimnyama.

Ukubukeka kwangempela kobuhlobo bunjani?

Uthando lungabonakala luhluke kakhulu. Asikho isithombe esisodwa lapho singakwazi khona ukulingana nalesi sigaba samadoda. I-romantics yangempela ayigqoke njalo izinwele ezinde, amahembe amhlophe, ziphathe ngokuthula nangokucabangela. Nakuba kunabantu abancane abanjalo. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubukeka kanjani njengomuntu, isimo sakhe sibonakala ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni komuntu wesifazane. AmaRoma njalo ahlonipha abesifazane futhi azame ukungabathuki, ngisho nakanjani. Futhi ngisho nangaphezulu ungaphakamisi isandla sakho.

Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngokuthandana okubi, kudingeka ufunde ukuhlukanisa i-romantics yangempela kulabo abazama ukubonakala kubo, kodwa empeleni baziphatha njengento engokoqobo, okudingeka uyithande, iphathise, ivikeleke futhi uyivikele. Akuyona uthando. Lawa angamadoda abamba ngokuziqhenya ngokuthi "amadoda", kodwa empeleni abe ama-muslin amantombazane adabukisayo.