Kunombono ovelele wokuthi amadoda kuphela ashintsha abaphethwe ukuphila okuzingcolisayo futhi bafuna imiphefumulo efudumele, ukuqonda kanye nobulili obuhle emaceleni. Futhi thina, besifazane, kunenjabulo eyanele yokuba nomyeni nxazonke futhi uma ibonakala, siqinisekile ngempela ukuthi ingashintsha indawo yonke. Ngemva kwesikhashana siqala ukuqonda ukuthi, naphezu kokuba khona komyeni othandekayo, umnyango olandelayo, sizizwa isidingo sokunakwa kwamanye amadoda. Sithanda ukubukeka kwesithakazelo somuntu womunye umuntu, lapho inhliziyo yakhe iqhwa khona noma iqala ukulwa kaningi.
Isimo sengqondo somphakathi sokuhlukunyezwa kwamadoda noma besifazane siye sahlukahluka kakhulu. Ukuthengiswa kwesigamu esiphezulu kuhlale behlisa phansi, bacabange njengesigameko nje, babheke ngeminwe yabo, bechaza sonke isithembu samadoda, nokuthi lokhu akubhekwa njengengozi enkulu emshadweni. Isisekelo sezimiso zokuziphatha okuphindwe kabili emangeni amade asedlule, lapho amadoda ekulondolozwa kwegesi efulethini ezama ukuhlakaza imbewu yawo ngokusebenzisa ama-expanses omhlaba, kodwa aqaphele kakhulu ngothando lwabesifazane - esaba ukukhulisa inzalo yabanye emndenini. Ngisho naseFrance ngo-1804, ngokusho kwekhodi kaNapoleon, ngenxa yokungathembeki komfazi, indoda ingase ifune isehlukaniso, nakuba ukukhashelwa kwakhe kungabonakaliswa kuze kube yilapho efika nenkosikazi endlini yakhe.
Abesifazane abafuni njalo ukwamukela izimiso zokuziphatha kabili futhi babheke emlandweni. Ngisho nangaphambi kwesikhathi sokuzalwa komama, ukufundisa kukaTantra kwazalwa, okulandela ukuthi owesifazane wayeyisisekelo esiyinhloko, i-Cosmos, i-clot yamandla eyayidinga ukugcwaliswa njalo futhi ngakho-ke ayikwazanga ukwaneliswa nomlingani oyedwa.
Kodwa-ke, izikhathi zokubeletha sezilokhu zidala esikhathini esidlule, futhi ezweni lanamuhla, amadoda akhathazekile ngokungathembeki kwethu. Izingqondo ezinhle kakhulu zesintu ziye zazama amakhulu eminyaka ukuphendula lo mbuzo, kungani abesifazane beshintsha? Esihlokweni esingapheliko sokungathembeki kwabesifazane, imisebenzi eminingi yesilasi yabhalwa, "Groza", "Madame Bovary", "u-Anna Karenina." Amadoda akholelwa ukuthi abesifazane bayashintsha ngenxa yokuphefumula kwabo, ukungapheli. Sikholelwa ukuthi izizathu zokuthengiswa zisekelwe ngokuphelele komunye. Abesifazane badinga ukuqinisekiswa kokukhangisa kwabo, izifiso zabo, ukukhwabanisa ngokobulili. Indwangu yokugqoka, umuthi omusha omusha, isikhwama semfashini yowesifazane yisihloko sokubonga kulabo abaseduze naye. Owesifazane uyisidalwa sothando. Uhlale efuna uthando, uthando futhi akakaze abe nobuhlobo obuhle. Ngokungafani namadoda, owesifazane akabheki nobuhlobo obusha, kodwa okungcono kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, lapho efunde ngokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe, owesifazane uhamba emoyeni ngenembeza olula, njengokungathi uthole imvume yokwenza kanjalo. Ngakho-ke, madoda, godu, nibheka owesifazane omuhle, khumbula ukuthi nxa umkakho ehlumela u-donzhuany.
Njengoba efunde ngothando lomyeni wangaphansi komhlaba, owesifazane uphathwa ngokufutheka nomhawu, evuma ukuhlangana nomunye umuntu, ngezinye izikhathi ukuqhathaniswa kungenzeka kungamthandi umyeni wakhe. Ngingathanda ukuqhubeka nokuveza abesifazane njengabantu abathandana nabo abangenacala, kodwa kufanele sivume ukuthi izindaba ezivame ukungabikho komshado zixazulula izinkinga ezibonakalayo noma ziqhubekele phambili emkhakheni wezemisebenzi. Futhi kuthiwani ngokuthengwa kwezimpahla ezibizayo? Izambatho zangaphansi zikaLacy, ibhodlela le-perfume nephunga lika patchouli ngakho liphendulela ikhanda lakho, futhi umyeni wakho ucabanga ukuthi ubheka kangcono ngengubo yezikhathi ze-perestroika, ngoba umholo wakhe awuvumeli ukuba akuthinte. Isifiso sokuba nomthandi kowesifazane asivuki masinyane, kodwa uma ehlushwa futhi ecindezelekile lapho engatholi ukunakekelwa okwanele nothando emshadweni.
Owesifazane ovamile, oholele umthandi, angathathwa yibo ukuthi, ngenxa yalokhu, uzombeka emgqeni, umndeni wakhe, futhi abulale impilo yakhe yokuphila emhlabathini. Kunezinguquko eziningi eziningana ekuphingeni kwabesifazane: kuyisisusa sokuzigcina ubumnyama obuhle kakhulu, ukukhanya emehlweni, ithoni ekhuphukile. Futhi konke lokhu kubhekene nowesifazane. Kukhona ithuba lokubuka umyeni wakhe ngendlela entsha. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlubuka kwakhe kuphulukisa umhawu wakhe othukuthele. Ubuqili, yebo, kuyisono esikhulu, kodwa konke akusilo ukufa.
Kumelwe sihlaziye phambi kwethu nakwezinye: imiphumela engathandeki yokukhwabanisa ingaphezu kokwanele, ngamandla omthelela wabo, azokwedlula amahle. Amadoda awazi kahle ukuthi kufanele akwenze kanjani lapho kungabikho ukwethembeka kwabesifazane: ngokushesha ukuhlukanisa, ngenxa yokuthi ukungathembeki komfazi kuyabuhlungu kakhulu kangangokuthi ukuthethelela, bambalwa kuphela abanamandla.
Uma uzoguqula umyeni wakho, kukukhathaza ngokuvuma okujwayelekile, isitifiketi sezemidlalo ngemikhono eswetshiwe, i-cologne eshibhile, ungasheshi. Mhlawumbe abafuni okuhle nokuhle? Khumbula izimbali ezilethwe kuwe ngokungalindelekile, izingoma owazihlabelela ehlobo e-dacha noma esithombeni sakho, ezitholakala ngengozi esikhwameni sakhe.
Ukuhlukumezeka kwabesifazane kuhlale kukukhala ithemba. Awukwazi ukusiza ukukhala, kodwa yenzani ukulimaza kuphela. Yenza omunye umzamo wokukhuluma nokuhleka okuthandayo - futhi wena, ngiyaqiniseka, konke kuzophuma.
Iseluleko oyithandayo!