Ukuhamba kweMendelssohn kwashona phansi, inhlanhla yaphela, abathandi ababili abasha baba umndeni owodwa. Sekuyisikhathi eside bephupha ngalokhu, kodwa iqiniso ngenxa yesizathu esithile akulona iqiniso ngalokho abakulindele. Ngokushesha ngemva kokubhaliswa komshado, ukuziphatha kokubili komshado kuqala ukushintsha, kungajwayelekile ngaphambi kwengxenye yesibili yomkhuba nokuthambekela. Uma i-metamorphoses eyenzeka nabesifazane emva komshado, bathi okuningi futhi nge-grin, khona-ke izinguquko emadodeni zikhethwa ukuba zikhishwe. Futhi lo muntu, naye, uyashintsha. Futhi hhayi njalo kangcono.
Ungesabi ngokushesha noma uzisole ngazo zonke izono ezifayo. Inkinga efanayo ivela kubesifazane abaningi. Ngenxa yalokho, ungazama ukuthola amaphethini avamile, wenze iziphetho ezifanele futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma kule nkinga. Ake sihlaziye ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko ngokuvamile ezenzeka namadoda emva komshado.
Ukulindela kanye Nemicabango Engalungile
Ukuba ngumfazi wezomthetho, owesifazane ulindele ukuthi umyeni wakhe uzohambisana nemibono yakhe mayelana nokuhleleka, ukugwema imikhuba emibi ngokuphuthumayo, ayeke ukudla ukudla okulimazayo futhi ayeke ukuhlangana nabangane bese ehamba nokudoba noma i-hockey nabo, uzoqala ukwenza imali enhle ukuqinisekisa impilo ekhululekile futhi azalise zonke izicelo i-whims yomkakhe. Indoda, ngesizathu esithile, ingasheshi ukumisa ephelele. Ngcono kakhulu, akalahlekelwa ikhono lokumboza umbhede nokugeza izitsha, ngezikhathi ezithile uzilungiselela ukudla okubili, ngezikhathi ezithile wenza izipho ezincane futhi uhlele izinkumbulo ezimnandi engxenyeni yakhe yesibili. Ukuqaphela ukuthi othandekayo wakhe ube ngumfazi wezomthetho, ungaphazamisi uthando lwakhe nokunakekelwa kwakhe. Kodwa ngokuvamile uvame ukungena ekugodini okungenalutho kwe-intanethi, noma "abaqaphi sofa", ngokusola nokukhipha amanothi nangaphandle kwesizathu. Indoda ilinde izidlo ezinomsoco nezihlukahlukene, ukuhlanzeka nokuhleleka endlini, uthando, uthando, ukwethembeka nokunakekelwa. Ukusabela okusebenzayo ohlelweni lwakhe siqu akuveli. Ezimweni ezinjalo, owesifazane uqala ukusola umyeni wakhe wokungathembeki, ukubheka ukungaphumeleli okungekhona. I-Apritchina ikhona kwenye.
Unyaka wokuqala wokuphila okuhlangene kubonisa ukuthi amadoda aqala ukukhokha kancane umkayo. Uthando luyabhidlika ebuhlotsheni, owesifazane akatholi ukunakekelwa okuningi kuye ngaphambi komshado. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, kumadoda lokhu kungokwemvelo. Wayesekhathele, wachitha wonke amandla enkambweni yokuthandana nokunqoba othandekayo. Manje ufuna ukujabulela injabulo ngesimo sezinkathazo ezimnandi nezihlukahlukene, ukuhleleka endlini, izingubo ezihlanzekile nezinsimbi, uthando nokunakekelwa komlingani ovumelekile. Futhi wena ekuthandaneni nabantu abakhethiweyo noma izipho zakhe kanye nezincomo kuphela?
Ukuqondiswa kokukhipha
Kukhona izindlela ezimbili kuphela ezivela kulokhu: Okokuqala: owesifazane uthatha izinguquko nomyeni wakhe futhi ufunda ukuhlala nabo. Ungamboni, ukhethe amasokisi angcolile azungeze kuyo yonke indlu, ujabulele kwimenyu ehlukahlukene. Indlela yesibili: uma umfazi engathandi ubuhlobo obunjalo obusha, angakwazi ukugcina umyeni wakhe enhle (ngomqondo omuhle waleli gama). Owesifazane unamandla kakhulu okwenza indoda ihlukane kaningi. Ngenxa yalokhu, asikho isidingo sokwenza noma yini engaphezu kwemvelo. Qaphela, hamba ku-cinema, kuya ku-cafe, kumakhonsathi wabenzi bakho abathandayo, uhlangane nabangani futhi uwahambise ekhaya. Amadoda ngokwemvelo abazingeli nabanikazi. Uma ebona ukuthi owesifazane uyamhlupha, uthola umsebenzi ngaphandle komndeni, ngokuqinisekile uzodinga ukunqoba futhi. Kodwa kulokhu, lona wesifazane ngeke abe nesikhathi sokuphumula. Kuzodingeka ngikhohlwe ngokubonakala kombhangqwana we-forensic ku-curlers nama-masks, egqoke izingubo zokugqoka ezingapheli. Qinisekisa ukuthi une-manicure, make-up, yekhanda, ukubukeka kahle. Kubalulekile ukuvumela lowo muntu ukuba aqonde ukuthi uzoqhubeka ubheka okuhle. Umzingeli womuntu uzoqonda ukuthi amanye amalunga ocansini aqinile angabheka futhi owesifazane wakhe. Uyokwenza konke ukugcina kuye eduze kwakhe. Ngokuqinisekile indoda izobonisa izibonakaliso zokunaka owesifazane wayo.
Nokho, kukhona ingozi eyodwa - indoda ngokwemvelo akuyona umzingeli. Okufanele ukwenze, kukhona okufanayo. Kulokhu, amathuba okuba esikhundleni sokunqoba umlingani osemthethweni, indoda ingakwazi ukuhamba. Futhi akunjalo lokho komunye owesifazane.
Enye inkinga owesifazane obukayo ngemva komshado, yenziwa kanje: "uhlale ethule." Ngaphambi komshado, abathandekayo babelane nakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, phakathi nemihlangano baxoxisana ngokuthi usuku ludlula kanjani, okubalulekile noma okuthakazelisayo ngabo. Manje ufika ekhaya evela emsebenzini futhi ucela ukuba ashiywe yedwa. Ulala phansi, ubheke i-TV, futhi imizamo yomkakhe yokuthola ukuthi yini eyithakazelisayo kuye kwenzeka namhlanje, ayikhokali. Uma kuyamcasula, ulaka. Yini okufanele uyenze kulokhu? Izazi zengqondo zithi amadoda ahlupheka kakhulu kakhulu kunabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, iningi lazo, ukuhlala isikhathi esithile ukuthula kuyisidingo esibalulekile, hhayi ukuphazamiseka okwesikhashana. Kubalulekile ukunikeza umyeni ithuba lokuphumula, futhi abaningi ngalesi sikhathi, balahlekelwa ebhizinisini oyintandokazi noma uhlangana nomngani. Ukuchitha isikhathi sokuhlukanisa ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza kubo bobabili abashadile. Kuzosiza ukusabalalisa, ukuphumula komunye nomunye, bese-ke ngamandla amasha ukuqala ukwakha nokuqinisa isidleke somndeni.
Ubuhlobo bomndeni wamasonto onke
Le ndoda iyashintsha, ngoba indima yakhe empilweni yakho ishintshile. Manje ukhathazekile ngezindaba ezifana nenhlalakahle, umsebenzi, ukukhulisa inhlalakahle yomndeni. Futhi uma umndeni uhlela ukuba nomntwana? Khona-ke le ndoda iba yiyona yodwa yokudla kanye neyokudla. Futhi izindleko azincipheli, i-atolko iyanda. Indoda ilindele ukwesekwa kokuziphatha kumkayo, kanti kuphela u-prinej angabonisa ubuthakathaka bakhe kanye nokukhathala, kuphela kuye okungenakulinganiswa nokukhathazeka ...
Ukwakha ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu akupheli emva komshado. Bafinyelela izinga elisha elifanele. Ngaphambi komshado, abantu abasha, uma behlala ndawonye, babe nezithakazelo zabo siqu, umbuthano wabo womphakathi, indawo yabo yokuphila. Ekuqaleni kokuphila okuhlangene, kuyadingeka ukwakha ubudlelwane bomphakathi ukuze ungaphule amalungelo nenkululeko yesigamu sakho sesibili, kodwa ukugcwalisa izithakazelo kanye nokufisa komunye nomunye; Ungacindezeli oshade naye ngezifiso zakho kanye nezifiso zakho, kodwa ukwazi ukuphumula ngezikhathi ezithile ngokwehlukana. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuqonda ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ingxenye yesibili kuwe, ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuba ndawonye nokuthi kuhle kangakanani ngezinye izikhathi ukuthula ndawonye. Uzoqonda kahle kanjani emva komshado, kuxhomeke kuwe kuphela. Kusukela ngalesi sikhathi umsebenti wakho awukubukana, kodvwa ngetinye tindlela. Akunakwenzeka ukubiza zonke izinkathazo nezinkinga kuphela komunye womlingani. Ekuphileni komndeni kukhona indawo yokuhlala yamaholide njalo, kodwa lokho okuzoba khona nokuthi ngabe kuzoba yini kuncike kuzo zonke zombili.