Ekuphakameni kwendabuko indoda iyalala

Kodwa nonke naya kahle kakhulu, futhi ... usanda kunqamuka empilweni yakho. Ubuhlobo bakho buhlelwe ngendlela enhle, wena, mhlawumbe, usuvele uzibonele ngengubo yomshado, uhamba ngengalo yakhe ehhovisi lokubhalisa, kodwa akuzange kwenzeke. Uvele wanyamalala, waqedwa futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, akakushiyanga ngisho nenothi lokuthumela noma umyalezo. Yini okufanele uyenze uma phakathi kwendabuko indoda idlala, futhi yini eyamqondisa ngaleso sikhathi. Ake siyiqonde lesi simo esijabulisayo ndawonye.

Okumangalisayo nje, kodwa ukuhamba ngesiNgisi ngaphandle kokuhlaziya kanye nanoma yiziphi izincazelo lapho okungajwayelekile kubantu besifazane kuphela. Amadoda futhi, ngokuqinisekile, anakho "ukuphunyuka" okunjalo. Emva kwalokho, ushayele, okungenani ukubhala, kodwa akukho okuhle. Le ndoda yanquma - lo muntu wenza. Ngenxa yalokho, owesifazane uzokhipha izinyembezi nsuku zonke futhi ambize ngokuthi amagama okugcina. Kodwa lapha akusizi nhlobo. Kuhlale kudingeke ukhumbule ukuthi uma phakathi kwendabuko umuntu elala, khona-ke unezizathu ezikhethekile zalokhu, esizozama nokuthola.

Okokuqala, abameleli abaningi bezocansi ezinamandla, sebezikhethele ukuthi abasafuni ubuhlobo nowesifazane othile, cabangela ukunyamalala kokuphila kwakhe njengendlela engcono kakhulu. Lapha kubalulekile ukuqaphela iqiniso lokuthi amadoda ayesaba imizwelo yethu kanye namahlaya. Lokhu kunzima kakhulu ukuya kuyo. Bayazi ukuthi noma yikuphi ukucaciswa kobudlelwane futhi ikakhulukazi, ngokushesha, igebe, owesifazane ubona kunzima kakhulu kunomuntu. Ngakho-ke, ngokugwema konke lokhu, le ndoda, ngokumane, ishiya ngokuthula, ikholelwa ukuthi kuyoba ngcono kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.

Futhi, umuntu angakwazi, ngokumane, akhulise u-ego wakhe wesilisa ongaphakathi. Lapha, isibonelo, ujwayele owesifazane, uhlangana naye ubuhlobo obunamandla, bese kuthi lapho ephakeme kakhulu. Kulesi simo, kunamaphuzu amabili okubuka. Okwokuqala ukuthi yilokho akwenzayo nje ukuphakamisa idumela phambi kwakhe. Ungumkhawulo wakhe olandelayo, futhi ukuphunyuka kwakhe kungukushintshwa okubushelelezi, komunye, okufana nawe, okuzokwenza omunye ukunyamalala ngokuzumayo. Iphuzu lesibili lokubuka lithi angakwazi ukuzitholela kuphela kulokho, nokuthi ngabe ungayithola bese uyibuyisela. Uma ungenzi lutho ngalokhu, uzocabangela ukuthi kusho ukuthi lokhu akulona iphutha futhi awuhlosi ukuba ube ndawonye. Kodwa, lapha kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ujikeleze indlu yakhe futhi ubale lapho evela, cabanga ukuthi udinga uhlobo lomuntu ogcwele impilo yakhe eyakhelwe okuthile okuzofakazela okuthile kuye.

Omunye wesifazane, futhi yini hhayi isizathu. Wahlangana naye, emhlanganweni ofanayo nawe, wanquma ukuthi yilokho ayekudingayo. Ukuze akuchazele ukuthi uya komunye owesifazane, ngokombono wakhe - lokhu kungukuchitha isikhathi. Futhi ngokuvamile, awuyena umyeni nomfazi. Isahlukaniso eside nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla kuwe, ngiyabonga uNkulunkulu, akusongeli. Ngakho-ke, ukuze uphinde ungakhulumi futhi ungalimazi i-psyche yakho, futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuzihlonipha, kungcono ukwenza lokho nje. Njengoba bethi, ngaphandle komsindo okungadingekile nokukhamuluka. Lapha, singakhuluma futhi ukuthi kungadingeki ukubalekele komunye wesifazane, angakwazi ukugijima nje kuwe. Izizathu lapha, banal futhi ezibalulekile, zavela othandweni, ngabona ukuthi ungabantu abahluke ngokuphelele futhi ngenxa yalokhu kudumala kuwe. Indlela yakho yokuphila, umsebenzi, umsebenzi awuhambisani nesimo sakhe njalonjalo. Futhi, ukuze achaze okuthile, akavele esetshenziselwa ukucabanga noma engacabangi. Ngakho, cabanga ngalokhu, ngokuqondile, ukuziphatha kwakho futhi wembule ukwehluleka kwakho siqu noma nje uqhathanise isimo sakho nendlela yokuphila - nayo. Futhi, lapha, ngicabanga, okuningi kuzokwehlela.

Ukuhoxiswa kwakhe ngokuphuthumayo kungaba nokwesaba okulula noma ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo. Khumbula ukuthi ukhulume kaningi kangakanani ngekusasa lakho ndawonye kusihlwa, noma ngisho nje echazwe ngakho, ukuthi bathi, awukwazi ukushada. Mhlawumbe akazange ngisho acabange ngakho. Ngendlela, kuzodingeka ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi bonke abantu besilisa bayizidalwa ezinenkululeko futhi inkulumo yethu ngomshado ingase ibonakale ingabonakali kubo kuphela. Ngakho wesaba, wanquma ukunikeza emuva. Noma mhlawumbe yena ngokwakhe waphawula ukuthi bobabili usuhambe kakade ebuhlotsheni babo futhi lapha, umphumela ubonisa. Noma umshado, noma ukuphumula, njengoba bethi, akukho ndawo okunye ongayidonsela khona. Nakhu, insindiso evela emithwalweni - ukunyamalala okubukhali nokungaqondakali.

Futhi, njengenkcazelo yokugcina yalesi senzo, kungashiwo ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi amadoda enza njalo ukuze alondoloze ubudlelwane obuhle, ngokunciphisa zonke izincazelo kanye nokucaciswa kobuhlobo lapho. Futhi bafuna ukusindisa lobudlelwane ngalokho okwakungathi ngelinye ilanga, luzovela futhi empilweni yakho. Futhi, ukubonakala kwakhe kuyoba njengokungalindelekile njengoba ukunyamalala okwedlule. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi umlingo wesilisa nokukhohlisa kwakhe "kubonakala noma kuphele." Ngamane nje, ukhona ngaleso sikhathi, uqobo lwakhe lwangena emzimbeni wakhe, ngakho-ke wanquma ukungacabangi ukuya emthunzini ukuze aziqonde yena futhi enze isinqumo esifanele. Kodwa ukubuyisela umbaleki onjalo noma cha, kungukuthi. Ngendlela, akasoze akutshele ukuthi wakwenza ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwangaphakathi kwakhe. Ngakho-ke, silungele inganekwane ethakazelisayo, mayelana nezizathu zokuhamba kwakhe kungazelelwe. Noma kunjalo, ekugcineni, ungahlukumezi okuningi futhi ubeka ithemba lokuthi wonke umuntu kumelwe abuyele ngokungalindelekile. Cha, yizimo ezingavamile kakhulu, ngakho linda futhi uthemba, akufanelekile. Qala impilo entsha, bese uyikhohlwa nje. Vumela umuntu onjalo abe yisikhathi sakho esingathandeki.

Ukuqhafaza umugqa, ngaphansi kwayo yonke into engenhla, ngifuna ukusho into eyodwa kuphela, isizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi ekuphakameni kwenveli le ndoda iyanyamalala ukwesaba ukusabela kwethu emzamweni wakhe wokuchaza okuthile. Ngakho-ke, ukundiza kuyindlela elula futhi elula yokubeka iphuzu elimnandi ebuhlotsheni. Laba yibo, amadoda ethu, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi bafanele ukulindela okuthile okungalindelekile futhi okungaqondakali. Ngakho-ke ulungele noma yini. Ungalokothi umxoshe indoda enjalo, makabe nguyakhe, kusho ukuthi akusilo ikusasa lakho.