Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ubuhlobo obukhona buvumela upapa ukuba ahambe ngezikhathi ezithile empilweni yakhe, emsebenzini, eshiya indodakazi yakhe ekunakekeleni unina, futhi angazizwa ngesikhathi esifanayo futhi engenacala noma isidingo sokucacisa ubuhlobo. Okusho ukuthi, hlala ... mahhala! Ngitshele, akulona yini leli phupho labo bonke abantu? Kulula ukuthi amadoda athande amadodakazi kunamadodana, ngoba owesifazane nguye kuphela ongakuthola uthando ngaphandle kokwesaba ukulahlwa.
Kuthiwani kumantombazane kababa?
Imisebenzi evamile emndenini isatshalaliswa kanje: umama - uthisha, ubaba - umgqugquzeli. Umama ufunda indodakazi ukuba abe ngowesifazane, iphakamisa indlela yokugqoka, ukupheka, ukuhamba, ukuxabana, udumo, uthando. Futhi uma umama engakwazi ukumfundisa noma yini, le ntombazane izokugcwalisa kalula leli gaba. Ubaba kunzima kakhulu - indima yakhe ayikwazi ukudlalwa omunye umuntu. Nguyise omele anikeze incazelo ekufundiseni umama: kungani intombazane kufanele ibe ngowesifazane, kungani kufanele agqoke, apheke, athande? Ebudlelwaneni noyise wakhe, intombazane ifunda ukuthi iyindoda, futhi nayo iyayizizwa ngokokuqala ngqa. Ukwamukela isithwathwa samantombazane kushicilela ekuhloliseni okulandelayo nabesilisa. Ekuqaleni intombazane ayikwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi ayifani nePapa. Ngesikhathi eqala ukuthandana (okungukuthi, iminyaka emine), usuvele uyazi ukuthi la madoda angobani nokuthi hlobo luni lobuhlobo okufanele bahlakulele. Kufanele, ngoba uma umfana engavumelani nesithombe sikaPapa, intombazane ngeke imqaphele! Ngeke abe ngummeleli wobulili obuhlukile, futhi uma ubuhlobo babo bungamkhumbuzi ubuhlobo bakhe nopapa, uzozibiza ngokuthi zingenangqondo futhi ziyabukeka.
Yini okufanele uyihlo akwenze ukuze indodakazi yakho ikhule ibe owesifazane othembekile futhi ojabule? Akukho okukhethekile. Le ntombazane inele ukuba khona kwakho nothando, futhi akunandaba nhlobo, kulokhu uthando lubonakala khona. Indodakazi yakho iyozizwa intuitively.
Kuqinile lutho
Kufanelekile ukusho ukuthi ukukhathazeka kukababa akuyona into efunwa yimantombazane. Yini eyingozi? Ngokwengxenye, iqiniso lokuthi indodakazi ayiboni ukuthi ubaba uyisibonelo sokulingisa futhi ukuzimisela kwayo akusimkhuthazi ukuba afunde, kepha kuyabuhlungu kuphela futhi kuyabuyisa. Uma unzima kakhulu nendodakazi yakho, uzokwesaba, futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka ukumsiza ekusebenzelaneni nobulili obuhlukile.
Okunye ukuncintisana kanye nokwesaba okwesibambisene nabanamandla abanakho nje kuphela ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantu, kodwa futhi phakathi kwabesifazane. Ngokuvame ukwenze ukuthi uqaphele ngokwengeziwe, funda okuthile futhi wazi kahle amathuba akho nemingcele yakho. Kodwa ebuhlotsheni besilisa nabesifazane, ukwesaba okunjalo kungabangela intombazane ukuba izwe ukuthi ayifanele ukuthandwa nokusekelwa, ukuthi kufanele ikwazi ukusebenza kuye ukuze izuze udumo, ukunakekelwa, ububele. Futhi noma ngabe indodakazi yakho iwina le mpi futhi ifanelekile, uthando lomuntu lungamenzeli lutho oluthathwa kalula, kodwa luhlobo lwe-trophy.
Ukubanda kwamadoda ngokuphathelene namadodakazi abo kuvame ukuchazwa ukuthi abazi ukuthi benzeni nabo. Ngezinye izikhathi indoda ivela kule nkinga, ikhuthaza imikhuba yomfana. Ukuba intombazane, intombazane iyacaca kakhudlwana kuyise, akesabi ukuxhumana naye. Lobudlelwane unelungelo lokuba khona futhi kaningi aluthinti ubuhlobo obuseduze nentombazane nabameleli bobulili obuhlukile.
Izigaba zobudlelwane
Eminyakeni engu-2-4 intombazane iqala ukuqonda ukuthi ingowesifazane, ukuthi indoda nowesifazane abafani nokuthi kukhona ubudlelwano obukhethekile phakathi kwabo. Ngokuvamile, ngemva kokuthola lokhu kutholakala, indodakazi inikeza upapa ukuba amshade naye ... Leli phuzu elibaluleke kakhulu, elidinga ukuba lo muntu aphathe kahle.
Eqinisweni, le ntombazane ikutshela lokhu okulandelayo: "Ngingowesifazane, ungumuntu, sithandana, futhi indoda nowesifazane abanothando ngokuvamile bayashada." Uma ngaleso sikhathi ubaba uchazela indodakazi yakhe ukuthi akayithandi neze into ephathelene nocansi, kodwa kukhona amanye amadoda emhlabeni angasondelana naye (futhi lokhu akuvimbeli uyise ukuba amthande), khona-ke uyomnika "Imvume" yothando nenjabulo lapho esekhulile.
Uma ubaba eshiya izingxoxo ezinjalo noma amahlaya, intombazane ingangena esimweni esinzima: ufunda ukuthi amanye amadoda ayenjalo, kodwa akaqondi uma ubaba evumela ukuba bathande.
Ukusekelwa okuncane okubalulekile okumele kuhlinzekwe kufanele kuhlinzekwe intombazane esemusha, lapho umzuzu wokungajabuli nomzimba wakhe, ubuso, ukubukeka kuza. Ngalesi sikhathi ulindele usizo oluvela kumama wakhe (ukuthi yikuphi nokuthi yiziphi izimo okumele zikhulume mayelana nokugqoka, kungani kumamatheka), kodwa kusuka kumapapa, njengenjwayelo, yothando nothando. Uyesaba yizinguquko ezenzeka emzimbeni, akaqiniseki ukuthi ikhula kahle, ngakho-ke udinga ukuthi utshele izincomo zakhe kaningi.