Okokuqala, kubangelwa ukunyuka okukhulu kwemizwa nemizwelo kubazali abasebasha. Ngesimo somama osemncane, ngaphezu kwezifo zomzimba ezisele ngemuva kokubeletha, inani elikhulu lemithetho nemisebenzi emisha lingathinta. Ngokuvamile, enye yezinzima kakhulu, umqondo wemfanelo kumntanakho. Ngokuvamile, abazali bayesaba, beqaphela ukuthi kuphela kulabo kuxhomeke empilweni, isimo kanye nokukhulelwa kwengane engenamsizi. Ukuguqulwa kobuso kanye nokujwayele ukujwayela isimiso esisha sosuku kucindezela isimo. Ukuzalwa kwengane kuguqula ngokuphelele uhlelo olusungulwe, ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kubazali ukuthi abalala izinsuku, baphila ngokudla ukuze bancelise. Ungathukutheli, isikhathi esithile sizozinikela ekunakekeleni ingane, ngoba maduzane umbuso, ofanele abazali kanye nosana, uzosungulwa ngokwawo. Into esemqoka akukona ukunikeza izinkinga ezincane ukuchitha ukuzethemba emakhono akho namakhono akho.
Abazali abaningi babhekene nenkinga yokukhathazeka okuphakade nokudideka, engazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani kulokhu noma leso simo. Eqinisweni, imibhangqwana ayisishiyagalolunye kwabayishumi izwa imizwa efanayo. Emzimbeni wesifazane, lokhu kugxilwe ukudonsa okukhulu kwe-hormone yokukhulelwa, okubangela ukushintsha kwemizwelo kanye nesimo esicindezelekile. Ngokuvamile, kuthatha amasonto ambalwa, kanye nokuthola ulwazi lokunakekelwa kwengane. Uma isimo esicindezelayo, ehambisana nokulala nokukhathazeka, asishiyi owesifazane isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili, kufanele abonane nodokotela, ngoba lokhu kungabangelwa ukucindezeleka okulandelayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umyeni nomndeni wonke babambe iqhaza, ukusekela nokuqonda kwabo kuzosiza umama osemncane ukuba abuyisele ukuqiniswa kwakhe.
Usizo lomuntu ekukhulisweni nasekunakekeleni ludlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu, kokubili ekuqaliseni ukuxhumana nomntwana, nasekuqiniseni ubudlelwane bomndeni. Ngezinye izikhathi, abesifazane abavumelani nomyeni kumntwana, ngokuphelele i-zamyrkas ngokwabo, beqiniseka ukuthi akekho ongakwazi ukubhekana nalo kangcono kunomama. Lena iphutha elikhulu kakhulu! Kubalulekile ukwethemba umlingani wakho, ukwenza ibhizinisi nsuku zonke ndawonye. Ubaba angasiza ekugeza, ukuhlanza nsuku zonke nokudla. Ngoba lokhu kwanele ukuveza ubisi oluncane ebhodleleni. Ukondla kusiza ukuveza ukuqonda phakathi kukababa nomntwana. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kusuka kumzali ngamunye umntwana uzofunda okuthile okusha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukunakekelwa okuqhubekayo komama kuzokwenza ingane ixhomeke futhi ixhomeke kuye.
Ngezinye izikhathi, owesifazane ubonakala enza konke okungalungile futhi amanye amamama anamakhono amaningi namakhono. Ungazilahli amandla, empeleni, noma ubani oqale waphutha futhi wesabe. Konke kuyodlula ... Into eyinhloko, ungakhathazeki futhi uthole ukwesaba wedwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwabelana ngemicabango yakho nemizwa yakho kumuntu othandekayo. Yebo, uma lo muntu eba ngumyeni. Akahlangani ngalutho futhi udinga ukwesekwa kokuziphatha.
Umbhangqwana ngamunye oshadile ubhekene nenkinga enjalo njengeseluleko esicasulayo esivela ezihlotsheni, abangane ngisho nabantu abathandekayo emgwaqweni. Iningi lala macebiso alusizi abazali abasha, kodwa kuphela abadibanisa nabo ngaphezulu. Yiqiniso, laba bantu babonakala benolwazi futhi bekwazi kunoma yiluphi udaba ukuthi ngifuna ukulandela ngokushesha isibonelo sabo. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi zonke izingane zikhethekile futhi azikho indlela eyodwa yokukhulisa. Ngakho-ke, iseluleko singalalelwa, futhi kulabo abanesithakazelo, ukuzakhela iziphetho ezithile. Kodwa, akuyona into engathandeki ukwenza ngentshiseko yonke into abantu abazoyeluleka, abangamazi ngendlela abazali bayo abazi ngayo.
Ukuze ubhekane nokukhathala nokucindezeleka, kubalulekile ukuthi ubeke isikhathi esifanele. Ikhambi elihle ukuhlela uhlelo lwemisebenzi esemqoka yosuku. Ngenkathi ingane ilele, kuhle ukuba ungathathi isikhathi sonke ukusebenza ekhaya, futhi unikeze okungenani amaminithi angu-10-15 futhi uwasebenzise ngenzuzo yakho - ulale phansi, uphumule, wenze into oyithandayo. Isixazululo esihle singaba ukwehlukana kwemisebenzi yasendlini phakathi kwabashade. Indoda ingasiza ekuhlanzeni indlu, ukunakekela indawo kanye nezilwane ezifuywayo. Futhi, ngeke kube nosizo oluningi ekunakekeleni i-diapers yokushintsha ingane, ukugeza noma ukubuka ebusuku. Uma kunzima kakhulu ukuthi abashadile babhekane nezinkinga zansuku zonke, unganqikazi ukucela usizo kubantu abaseduze.
Ngokwemvelo, ekuqaleni abazali bangaba nzima kakhulu. Into eyinhloko akukona ukuphelelwa yithemba ngenxa yamaphutha amancane futhi uzidumise ngokwakho konke okuphumelelayo. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi impilo yomkhaya osemusha yizinkinga nezinkinga nje. Bakhokha ngokugcwele ngokuthokoza kokuxhumana nomntwana, inhleko yokumomotheka kokuqala noma igama lokuqala elitshele abazali bakho abathandekayo! Manje uyazi ukuthi indlela yokucwaninga kwengqondo ichaza kanjani lesi simo, imindeni ngemuva kokuzalwa kwenguquko yengane, futhi, njengomthetho, kube ngcono!