Uma 'ucasula' kakhulu, khona-ke umngane onomhawu wokuphila akuyona into oyikhethayo. Esikhathini esizayo, umhawu wakhe uzothatha amafomu amahle kunazo zonke, futhi wena, njengoba ulahlekelwe into eyigugu kunazo zonke owesifazane wanamuhla onayo - isikhathi sakhe, uzobona ukuthi kwakungenakwenzeka ukwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu onomhawu, naphezu kwakho konke okusemandleni akho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, noma yimuphi ummeleli wesigamu esiphezulu somuntu unomhawu, futhi akusikho icala lokumangalela, ngoba imbangela yomhawu ikhona emlandweni we-homo sapiens. Eminyakeni eyizinkulungwane, le ndoda, njengoba eyinhloko eyinhloko, kwakudingeka iqiniseke ukuthi lona wesifazane uthembekile kuye nokuthi wanikezela ekuziphatheni kwakhe kwezakhi zofuzo, futhi uyondla ngempela izingane zakhe. Lokhu kwakubalulekile hhayi kuphela ezikhathini zasendulo, kodwa ngisho nanamuhla, njengasesikhathini samanje, ukwethembeka, bobabili besilisa nabesifazane baziswa kakhulu emphakathini.
Esikhathini sethu esikhanyisiwe, ukulingana phakathi kobulili akulona igama elingenalutho, owesifazane uhlale ekwazi ukuzondla yena nabantwana bakhe, ngokwezezimali uyeke ukuthembela kumuntu futhi angakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu onomhawu ngokuvumelana nemithetho yakhe. Uma kwenzeka umuntu ethandeka ngempela kuwe, uboshelwe izibopho zokuziphatha noma izinto ezibonakalayo, kepha ngezinye izikhathi ulahlekelwa yimpucuko futhi uphenduke ube yi-Othello, udinga ukunamathela emithethweni embalwa yokuziphatha elula.
Isigaba esisodwa: uthando nokuhlonipha okhethile? Unganqikazi ukumbonisa imizwa yakho.
Imithetho emibili: Indoda enomhawu (umngane) ngokungazizwa izwa amanga, uma uqamba amanga kuye ngisho nangezizathu ezingenacala, ungamcasuli!
Isimiso sesithathu: indoda kufanele iqiniseke kuwe, ngakho ungazitholi ngothando phambi kwayo, kungenjalo ungakhulumi kuye owesilisa wokuqala, ozogubha futhi egazini emehlweni akhe ayobe esheshayo kumuntu ongeke abe ngumphikisi noma lowo "umlandu" wezingxabano.
Umthetho wesine : indoda, nakuba ihlakaniphile futhi iphumelele, iyakwazi ukuzithoba! Mdumise, kodwa yenze ngokungaqondisi futhi ungamqhathanisi nakwamanye amadoda. Kungaba iphutha ukusho ukuthi ungcono kunomakhelwane wami (umyeni womngane wami, isoka lami langaphambili). Vele ugcizelele izici ezinhle ezitholakala kuye: amaqanda othosile kuphela; uhambisana kahle nomama.
Ukubusa kungowesihlanu futhi kude nokugcina: idumela lakho. Ukuhlakanipha kwabantu bakithi sekuyisikhathi eside sesifinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ingubo ihlonishwa kusukela okusha, futhi idumo kusukela ebusheni. Futhi isitatimende sokuthi ekuqaleni usebenzela idumela, bese sisebenza kuwe, liyiqiniso ngempela. Wena ngokwakho ungavela nemithetho eminingi yokwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu onomhawu, ngokusekelwe ebuhlotsheni bakho kanye nomlingiswa wakhe, kodwa ungakhohlwa isimiso esilula esilungele cishe kuzo zonke izindawo zokuphila kwethu: uma wesaba ukuthi umngane wakho uzoba nomhawu nge-pathology man , cishe, kuzokwenzeka. Yiba nesimo esihle, futhi uzothola injabulo uma usukhululekile, noma ungakha ubuhlobo nomuntu onomhawu osekude nawe.