Ingabe kufanelekile ukuphetha isivumelwano somshado?

Ukuntuleka kwezindlu, ukukhathala okuvela enkantolo, hhayi ipeni emphefumulweni - abaningi bazi ngalezi zinkinga hhayi ngezwi lokuzwa. Lokhu ngezinye izikhathi imiphumela yesehlukaniso. Futhi kwezinye izimo, izimo ezinjalo zingagwenywa, kodwa uthando lwalukhulu futhi luhlanzekile futhi abasanda kushada bengacabangi ngisho nombuzo wokuthi ngabe baphethe isivumelwano somshado.

Emazweni ase-post-Soviet, inkontileka yomshado isabangela ukuphikisana okuningi. Kwakukhona umbono wokuthi ufakazela ukungabi nokuzethemba esikhathini esizayo somngane wokuphila. Kodwa kunjalo? Ake sizame ukuqonda ukugqugquzelwa kwalabo abathathe isinqumo sokuthatha lesi sinyathelo nalabo abahlelekile ngokumelene nesiphetho saleso sivumelwano.

Ucwaningo lwezenhlalo lubonisa ukuthi iphesenti labaxhasi bezinkontileka zomshado landa ngokulingana nesikhathi sabaphenduli. Futhi lokhu kufakazela ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane abaye babhekana nokuhlukaniswa nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla emva kwalo, babheka ngobuqotho ubuhlobo babo futhi baqonde ukuthi uthando namuhla lungaba yintondo eminyakeni eyishumi.

Izigwebo zesigaba zabantu abakholelwa ukuthi ukuphothula inkontileka yomshado - isibonakaliso sokungathembeki, kusekelwe ezinkolelweni zabo, kodwa bacabanga ukuthi akuphuli ngaso sonke isikhathi amalungelo alabo abacelwa ukuba basayine. Isibonelo, iqembu elinokunciphisa kancane lingathola isiphakamiso esinjalo njengesisindo somshado ngesisekelo sokubala, kodwa ngisho nomlingani ocebile angase angaqondi ukulahla.

Inkontileka yomshado ayinakwenzeka ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni wakho, izobe ixazulule ubudlelwane bakho bomhlaba. Yiqiniso, eMelika efanayo enkonzweni yomshado, ungakwazi ukubeka cishe noma yikuphi into, ukuqala ukuthi ubani ophethe ukugeza izitsha, nokuphela kaningi ngonyaka okufanele uhambe eholidini noma uvakashele izihlobo. Kodwa, ezweni lakithi linomlingiswa ohlukile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, eNtshonalanga Yurophu naseCanada, izinkontileka zomshado zaqala ukuphothulwa kakhulu kunabethu. Futhi abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuyisabelo sabantu abacebile okuzodingeka babelane ngezigidi, futhi isakhamuzi esivelele ezweni, akukho lutho lokukhathazeka ngenxa yekamelo elincane lezindlu. Kodwa namuhla, imibhangqwana enenzuzo ejwayelekile icabange ngalolu daba.

Ngendlela, uma ukholelwa ukuthi kwakuseNtshonalanga ukuthi kuvele izinkontileka zomshado wokuqala, khona-ke uzomangala lapho ufunda ukuthi ngisho naseGrisi naseRoma, abantu abasanda kushada basayina uhlobo oluthile lwenkontileka. Lesi sivumelwano sibonise ukuthi yiyiphi into yomunye walababili, nokuthi impahla izokwabelana kanjani uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso.

Uma sibheka ikhodi yomndeni, sizobona ukuthi ngokwemithetho, yonke impahla ehlanganisiwe emshadweni, uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, iyohlukaniswa ngokulinganayo, phakathi komyeni nomfazi wangaphambili. Kodwa lesi simo sezintambo ezikude nomuntu wonke, ikakhulu uma omunye wabashade efaka imali kuyo abazali bazo, futhi emva kwalokho, bavame ukwenza njengabaqashi bokusayina lesi sivumelwano. Kulesi simo, ungaxoxa ngesivumelwano saso sonke isakhiwo, kuhlanganise nalowo owawukhona empilweni yakho yokuphila.

Kungenzeka ukufaka isigatshana ngokusho ukuthi ubani ohlala naye angaphila endaweni yokuhlala komunye kuphela phakathi nesikhathi somshado. Ngendlela, izipho zinikwe ngokomthetho ngumnikezeli, okusho ukuthi uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, konke okunikezwe ngesikhathi esijabulisayo kungasuswa. Kungani ungahambisani nesikhumbuzo kusengaphambili, ukuze kungadingeki ubhekane nesigaba se-blender kanye nezimbiza?

Khumbula ukuthi inkontileka yomshado ivame ukusiza ukugcina ubudlelwane obuvamile ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, ngoba kwenza kube lula ukuhlukanisa izimoto, izindlu zokuhlala, amabhizinisi, njll. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imigomo yesivumelwano somshado kufanele ibe yinto yokuthi kungaphuli omunye wezinhlangothi zingenye yezimfuneko zomndeni Ikhodi.

Inkontileka yomshado, njengomthetho, imali ethile ayimisiwe, kepha konke kubalwa njengephesenti. Uma umyeni wakho wesikhathi esizayo noma ungumuntu wesakhamuzi kwelinye izwe, cacisa uma isivumelwano somshado sizosebenza, uma kunjalo.

Inkontileka yomshado ayikwazi ukuphethwa ngaphansi kokucindezeleka, kodwa kuphela ngokuvumelana kwamalungu. Kule ndaba, futhi kukhona izingxabano ngenxa yokwehluleka komunye walaba ababili ukubhalisa.

Inkontileka kumele inqatshelwe. Uma kunesidingo, uzothola ithuba lokushintshana ngokufanayo, okuqinisekiswa ngumbhalisi. Uchwepheshe uzokutshela ukuthi yiziphi izinto okufanele zichazwe kudokhumenti, okuvele kulawulwa umthetho.

Isivumelwano somshado singenziwa ngaphambi kokubhaliswa komshado, kodwa kulokhu kusebenza ngesikhathi sokubhalisa. Ngokuvamile kaningi ezinkontileka ezinjalo, esikhathini esizayo, kwenziwa izinguquko. Kwenzeka ukuthi inkontileka yomshado iphetha imibhangqwana esevele ishadile okwesikhashana. Ngezinye izikhathi, lokhu kuhlinzekwa ngokuthenga indawo entsha yokuphila, ibhizinisi elihlangene noma ukuzalwa kwezingane.

Ngenxa yobulungiswa, kufanele kubone ukuthi abanye abantu bazoqala ukuzihlela ngomshado omfushane nesehlukaniso, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukubikezela impilo futhi zonke izimo kufanele zibhekwe ngokwahlukana.

Uma wesaba ukulahlwa noma ukungaqondi kahle kubangane noma izihlobo - akufanele ukhangise iqiniso lokusayina inkontileka, ngakho uzogwema imibuzo engadingekile.

Kukhona umbono wokuthi umshado othandweni nesivumelwano somshado awuhambisani, kodwa ake ngingcono kangcono nje ukuchaza zonke izindaba zezimali futhi ngihlale ngokuthula. Noma ucabanga ukuthi wonke amathunjwa ayehlala nezingane ezandleni zabo, elahlekelwe amakhaya abo, angacabangela ngisho nezinto ezinjalo ekuqaleni kokuphila komndeni wabo. Impendulo isicacile, okusho ukuthi isiphetho sibonisa ukuthi isiphetho somgunyathi womshado asisho ukuthi kungabikho imizwa yangempela, yangempela.

Ungesabi ukuxoxa ngendaba yokusayina isivumelwano somshado nomuntu othandekayo wakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungabhekana nokungaqondi nokuthukuthela, futhi mhlawumbe ngokuphambene nalokho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanelekile ukungena ezimakontweni zomshado, kungcono kuwe nangomuntu wakho wesikhathi esizayo noma wamanje, ngakho-ke lalela inhliziyo yakho, kodwa kunalokho ube nomqondo ovamile futhi wenze okulungile.