Abantu bahlangana, abantu bathandana, bashada ... Futhi bathola ukuthi bakhule emndenini ehluke ngokuphelele, yingakho bekhuluma ngokungafani nezinkinga zansuku zonke futhi basebenze, futhi abahambisani ngisho nombono jikelele wezwe. Yini okufanele uyenze uma unina evumela (ngokubona kwakho) amaphutha ekukhuliseni? Ingabe lokhu kungalungiswa ngandlela-thile? Futhi ngokujwayelekile - yini okufanele ibe yindoda ekahle? ..
Ngakho-ke, ingabe umyeni wakho ucabanga ukuthi ukuhlanza, ukupheka nokugeza kuwukuphela kwesifazane? Akalokothi ahlanze izitsha, evame ukushiya amapuleti angenalutho esiqandisini, uma egeza, ehlela umkhukula endlini yokugezela, futhi engacabangi ukuthi izingubo zomgwaqo nezindlu zingahluka? Isizathu asikho esimweni sakhe esibi. Ngikholelwa, umyeni wakho akazami ukwenza konke ukukukhathaza. Yilokho nje umama akhulela ... Yebo, ungayamukela, kodwa kufanelekile ukuhlupheka, uma ungazama, uma ungaphinde uphinde ufundise umgibeli, okungenani uxoxisane naye?
IZINDLELA ZOKUPHILA
"Lapho sishada futhi sathuthela kwelinye ifulethi, ngangisezulwini lesikhombisa ngenjabulo," kusho u-Alena, oneminyaka engu-27. "Kodwa-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho kutholakala inhlanhla futhi sathola impilo, ngabona ukuthi sikhuliswe emindenini ehluke kakhulu. Umama uyintombazane enhle futhi wangifundisa ukuba ngihlale ngihlanzekile kukho konke, futhi umyeni wami akajwayele ukuthatha izicathulo zakhe lapho engena endlini. Njengoba i-hysteria ayizange ibasize (ngazihlela izikhathi eziningi), nganquma ukuya kwenye indlela. Ngabeka ama-slippers nesambatho sendlu kumyeni wami ngqo emgodini (ukuze babe yinto yokuqala ayibona lapho engena endlini), wabeka udoti eduze kwedeski lakhe, futhi eceleni kombhede wafaka isikhwama esincane ... Futhi lokhu wasebenza. Umyeni wayeka ukuphonsa izinto namaphepha futhi waqala ukushintsha izingubo lapho efika ekhaya. "
"U-Alena wenze kahle kakhulu," kusho umqondo wezengqondo u-Eduard Lieberman. - Kungenakwenzeka ukushintsha imikhuba yomunye umuntu. Futhi ngubani othi uqinisile? Kungani uhlala njengalokho uthi, kulungile? Lo mbuzo ngokuqinisekile uzofika engqondweni yakho. Yingakho umsebenzi wakho ungawulungiseli, kodwa uzame ukuwenza ukuze yena ngokwakhe afune ukuguqula, abe ngumyeni omuhle kuwe. Kuhle kakhulu ukuqala ngenkhulumomphendvulwano. Khuluma ngalokho ongathandani kokubili kokuziphatha komunye nomunye. Khuluma uphinde ulalele. Umsebenzi wakho akufanele ukuphikisana, kodwa ukuchaza ubudlelwane obangela imbangela (amadoda ayawazisa kakhulu). Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokubeka ichashazi ekupheleni kombuthano othi "Angithandi ukuthi ulele phansi e-jeans embhedeni wethu," uqhubeke ngamazwi "ngoba yilokho esithwala ama-microbes kusuka ezokuthutha umphakathi kanye nehhovisi ngqo embhedeni wethu." Amadoda ayesaba izifo, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuphikisa umbono wabodokotela. Noma kunjalo, ingxoxo eyodwa ayanele. Ngisho noma umlingani wakho ephikisana nemibono yakho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi walungisa ngokushesha (uma nje wayejwayele ukwenza okuningi kumshini). Futhi ngakho umsebenzi wakho olandelayo ukwenza impilo yakhe ibe lula futhi, njengo-Alain akwenzile, empeleni akushiyi ithuba lokuba enze ngokuhlukile. "
Ungacabangi amaKhala
Le nkulumo ivame ukubhalwa abashade nabo ngaphambili kwikholomu "isizathu sokuhlukanisa." Kuyadabukisa, kodwa ngokuvamile lawo mazwi afihla isimo sengqondo esibhekene nezwe, esimiswe ekuqaleni komama nobaba. Bheka ubuhlobo emndenini womlingani wakho, unqume ukuthi umama wakhe wamkhuphula kanjani, bese uthola iziphetho ezifanele.
Indodana kaMamenkin
Lokhu kuvame ukubizwa ngamadoda asekhulile ngaphansi kwejoka lobudlova besifazane. Ekuqaleni kokuthandana nomuntu onjalo uyathandwa kakhulu nabesifazane. Umama wamfundisa ukuba enesizotha futhi enesizotha, ngaso sonke isikhathi ukunikeza ingubo, ubambe umnyango bese uvumela lona wesifazane ukuba aqhubeke. Kodwa ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho akakwazi ukwenza izinqumo.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Okokuqala kufanele ubeke umama wakho esikhundleni somama, kungenjalo uzozizwa edidekile futhi abuyele kuye.
✓ Yenza yonke imisebenzi yasendlini ndawonye ukuze azizwe engelutho.
✓ Mkhuthaze futhi nimdumise ngokubonisa isinyathelo.
Umgxeka ongunaphakade
Wayehlolwe njalo futhi eqondiswa njengengane. Wayejwayele ukwenza konke ezintweni ezinhlanu eziphezulu futhi udinga kwabanye. Uzoqaphela zonke iziphambeko zakho futhi ahlale egxeka isibalo sakho, izingubo kanye nokuziphatha. Uzoqala ukuqaphela ukuthi wenze okuthile okungalungile, futhi ngokuqinisekile uzokwenzela ukunakwa kwakho "okumbi". INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Zama ukungaqapheli ukugxeka kwakhe. Mane uthi: "Awu, othandekayo", "Yebo, othandekayo wami," "Uqinisile, bathandekayo," futhi uqhubeke uphila ngendlela yakho.
✓ Ukunikezela imisebenzi ethile yasendlini kuye: "Ngizogeza izitsha, futhi uvale, sicela, ifulethini. Kuzokwenza ngcono. Uhle kakhulu! Wena ungumyeni ophelele! "
Nytik
Ukuphila kwakhe konke kuqukethe ukwehluleka kokuhluleka, ukulahlekelwa nokudumazeka. Lapho ebhekene nobunzima, akazami ukuzixazulula, kodwa ngokushesha uyathinteka emhlabeni wonke futhi ufuna umuntu onecala. Into ewukuthi umfana, owayejwayele ukuthola i-troika, wazinikela ekuhlulekeni kwakhe futhi wakhulela kumuntu ongaqiniseki, ongeyena umgomo. Wayejwayele ukucabanga ukuthi kufanele abe ukwehluleka.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Ukwamukela noma yikuphi ukuphumelela kwakhe nezenzo zakhe.
✓ Beka amathuluzi ezandleni zakhe ngamazwi: "Ngikholelwa ukuthi uzophumelela!"
✓ Kumdumise futhi ngaphandle.
I-Narcissus
Wakhula wakhashwa ngumhlengikazi-mamas, ngakho wajwayela ukuthola konke ayekufuna ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ukhuluma ngaye ngokwakhe, impumelelo yakhe, amapulani nezinkinga.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Ama-egoist ahlonipha uqobo lwabo, ngakho-ke uzikhokhele ngokwengeziwe, uphendule zonke izifiso zakhe ngamazwi: "Futhi ngifuna ... Ngiyathanda ..." Ungakhohlwa wena nezifiso zakho.
✓ Hlukanisa konke okuyingxenye, ungayikhethe ngendlela ekhethekile.
OKUBALULEKILE Kakhulu KUKHULU
* Ungamangaleli ngokusobala unina ngazo zonke izono. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubudlelwane babo bukhula kanjani, uzobe esehlala naye. "Umama wakho ungowesifazane omuhle, kodwa asihambanga izicathulo zomgwaqo endlini yethu: akusiyo ingqondo, futhi angikwazi ukugeza phansi nsuku zonke!" Khumbula: ikhadi lakho lempondo alikho icala, kodwa isisusa esinamandla!
* Ungazikhumbuzi njalo umyeni wakho ngokuthi ungumuntu onjani. Futhi ukusho ukuthi wenza konke okungalungile. Sebenzisa ubuqili: yenza uhlu lwezivumelwano olungele ukuya kuzo, kanye nohlu lwamacala avuma ukukwenza. Hlanganisa le "idokhumenti" endaweni evelele futhi, uma lokho, ukhomba.
* Ungaphenduli induku. Yebo, akasusi ama-plates ngemuva kwakhe, ufihla njalo amasokisi akhe ngaphansi kombhede bese ephuza ekhaleni lakhe kakhulu. Ngakho-ke? Ingabe lowo okhethiweyo akanalo izimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu ezingaphezu kwazo zonke lezo zimkhuba eziwubuwula? Ngokuvamile khumbula ukufaneleka komyeni wakhe.
Futhi KUNYE KUNYE?
Ngokwe-poll, kwenzeka ukuthi lokho thina - omakoti abathandekayo nabathembekile - okudabukisa kakhulu kubalingani bethu. Nansi okwenzekile ...
Ubuvila - 14%
Ukukhathazeka - 13.8%
Umholo omncane - 7,6%
Uthando utshwala - 7.5%
Ukuthambekela kokushintsha - 7%
Ubulili obanele - 6.7%
Izifiso ezinkulu - 5.7%
Ukungalungi - 5%
Inqwaba yabangane ingu-3.5%
Ukuthobeka ngokweqile kungu-2.7%
Akanayo amaphutha, uyindoda enhle! - 26%