Into ethakazelisayo kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane baqala ukulalela umbono wabantu, ikakhulukazi labo ababhekana nokudumazeka okujulile kulolu hlobo lobuhlobo ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo siqu. Ukubekezela ezweni lanamuhla kuye kwaba yindawo encane yobuhlobo obuphezulu ngempela, noma akuzange kube khona. Nokho, ngaso sonke isikhathi ubungane besifazane babanikeza ukucabanga, ukuxoxa. Eminyakeni eyizinkulungwane ezimbili edlule, u-Aristotle, wazama ukuchaza izinhlobo ezahlukene zobungane futhi achaza lesi simo njengento yonke. Mayelana nobungane besifazane babhala ezindala, bakha izinkondlo, izingoma. Futhi uma lo mqondo uthola ukunakekelwa okungaka, khona-ke kukhona isibonelo esinikeziwe sobudlelwane.
Njengamanje, abezindaba beminyango babhala ngenkuthalo yokuthi ezweni lanamuhla, ubungane besifazane buyekeke ukuba khona, njengeyunithi yokuzimela ehlukene. Ukuqashwa okuphakade, amazinga aphakeme, ukuntuleka okukhululekile kwesikhathi samahhala kudala ubungane kunokuba ubuhlobo obuseduze. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi lapha imibono ingase iphutha. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kukhona inqwaba yabasekeli yalokho okungaba khona ezweni lanamuhla lobuhlobo besifazane, njengoba kunjalo. Kungaba namandla nakakhulu nakakhulu kunangaphambili, ezimweni zokulayisha okuncane. Kukhona isikhathi esiningi sokukhululeka. Ukuzilibazisa okuhlelekile kwabesifazane, ikakhulukazi abesifazane abangashadile, kungaholela ekukhuleni nasekusabalaleni kwazo zonke izinhlobo zezingxabano.
Ubungane buyingozi. Imigomo eyinhloko yaloluhlobo lobuhlobo ubuqotho, ukuqonda okufanayo, ukuzidela kanye nokukwazi ukwamukela omunye umuntu njengoba kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuguqula nokuguqula "wena ngokwakho." Futhi, yebo, uthemba futhi ukwazi ukugcina izimfihlo. Abantu abaningi abazi ngalokhu. Bangaki abesifazane abaye baba abangane iminyaka eminingi, bavele bahlukane nobuhlobo ngoba omunye wabo akakwazanga ukugcina imfihlo yomunye umuntu. Kukhona ukunxanela kwangasese ebusweni obuthakathaka ukutshela imfihlo emhlabeni wonke noma yiziphi izindaba eziphawulekayo. Uma ngabe lezi zindaba zisezingeni elilinganiselwe, lapho abadlali abaningi behilelekile khona - kunzima kakhulu ukumelana nayo. Mhlawumbe, esinye isizathu esibalulekile sokubaluleka okubaluleke kakhulu, kungani ubuhlobo obuseduze buqhekeka ukukhohlisa. Uma konke kuhlanganiswe ndawonye: abangane, amadoda, abafazi, izingane. Ukuguquka komuntu othandekayo nomngani wakhe omkhulu kungumdwebo oyingqayizivele wohlobo. Abaningi besifazane bathengiswa. Abaningi babo badumala kuze kube phakade futhi baphile, bengavumeli abanye abangane ukuba bafike endlini yabo. Ngokombono wabo, kuyabonakala kakhulu ukukhohliswa futhi kule nqophelo. Abanye, ngokuphindaphindiwe, behamba ngegama elifanayo, baphinda amaphutha abo futhi baqhubeke beba abangane.
Njengoba sibona, impendulo engaphenduliyo yombuzo: ingabe kukhona ubungane besifazane ezweni lanamuhla? Njengamanje, imibono izohlukaniswa ngama-halves amabili. Futhi kokubili la ma-halves, abavikeli besabangani besifazane nabaphikisi, bayoba ngendlela yabo ngendlela efanele. Kunezimpikiswano eziningi futhi ngokumelene nalesi simo.
Ukunamathela emibonweni enhle empilweni, ngisafuna ukukholelwa ekuthuthukiseni ubungane obuhle nokukhuthaza, ukuba nginike ithuba lokuba khona. Kunoma yiliphi izwe: lwanamuhla noma elidlule - ubungane phakathi kwabesifazane bekhona, bukhona futhi buzoba khona. Umuntu othile wayenenhlanhla, futhi othile wakhathazeka kakhulu, ngakho kwahlukaniswa imibono emakamu amabili. Kodwa abesifazane, ngobuningi babo, abantu bayashesha ngokushesha, benomusa. Ngakho-ke banamandla okuthethelela ngobuqotho nokuthanda. Futhi le mizwa yindlela eqhuba ngayo ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kanye naphakathi kwabesifazane ababili, ngokujwayelekile.