Amathoyizi ahlakazekile kuyo yonke indawo, imvuthuluka embhedeni, ama-candy wrappers etafuleni, i-plasticine ku-TV ... Isithombe esivamile? Kudingeka ukuthi siphindwe kaningi kangakanani isicelo sokuthi ingane ihlanzeke, ibe nehlanzekile futhi ihlanzeke! Kodwa ngesizathu esithile, lezi zicelo azikwenzi lutho kumntwana: usaphonsa izinto, ugijima egumbini ezikhunjini futhi adle ngezandla ezingcolile.
Ungakanani?
- Umama nobaba bayazibuza, futhi baqhubeke bekulwela usuku nosuku nosana, bemholela ekhala izinyembezi, futhi yena ngokwakhe - ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ngemuva kokuzama zonke izindlela zokwenza ingane iphume, abantu abadala bacela iseluleko kubangane babo, bafune izindlela zokubhekana nokungcola okuncane kuyi-Internet futhi baphinde bahluleke. Kodwa abazali bavame ukusola ukuthi bona ngokwabo yizo ezimbi zokungafuni kwengane ukuba ibe nehlanzekile futhi ihlanzeke.
Ngokuvamile imizamo yabo yokuhlanza ingane ihlanganisa isitatimende sangaphambi kwesikhathi sokuthi ingane ayikwazi ukubhekana nalesi sabelo: "Ingabe usususe amathoyizi?" Noma "Yeka ukuthi kuyisihlamba kanjani ukuba yi-slob enjalo?" Yiqiniso, isitatimende esinjalo sombuzo wombuzo asikwazi ukubangela ingane ngokucophelela idinga ukuhlangabezana nezifiso zabazali. Kunalokho, umuzwa wokuphikisana noma ukuzizwa ungapheleli.
Amathiphu ambalwa abalulekile
1. Ingane ihlala ilingisa abantu abadala. Ngakho-ke, izingane, kusukela ebusana, zibona ukuthi umama ugcina kanjani ukuhleleka, maduzane uzofunda ukugcina uhlanzekile.
2. Kunzima ingane ukuba yenze izenzo zansuku zonke ezidinga umzamo omkhulu futhi zingabuyiseli injabulo. Ngakho-ke, ukuqaliswa okuhlanganyelwe kwezindaba zasekhaya kuphela kuyomsebenzi owenzela ingane.
3. Indumiso ingenye yezingxenye ezidingekayo zokufundisa izingane ukuba zilandele . Gubha njalo impumelelo yengane ngokuzwakalayo, ikakhulukazi imizamo yakhe yokuzimela yokusiza. Ungamgxeka ingane ngokubhebhetheka kabi, ngoba uthuli lushiya emagumbini ekamelo, noma umhlabathi efasiteleni emva kokuphuza izimbali. Ngikholelwa, ingane ibeka umzamo omkhulu wokukujabulisa futhi ufeze imisebenzi yakhe. Uma ungathanda ukuba ingane ifunde ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini ngokugcwele, mbonise ukuthi ungayenza kanjani, noma ilahlekelwe ngenye yezindlela ezichazwe ngenhla.
4. Ungalokothi ujezise ingane ngemisebenzi yasendlini, ngaphandle kwalokho maduzane uzoxhumanisa le mibono ndawonye, futhi noma yimuphi umsebenzi onikezwe wona uzobonwa njengesijeziso esivela kuzo zonke izindlela.
Kusukela ebuntwaneni
Kakade sekuyizinyanga ezingu-8-9 kudingekile ukuba ujwayeze ingane ukuthi into ngayinye inendawo yayo. Kule minyaka yobudala, ingane ifunde ukuphatha izinto futhi ingabonisa indlela yokuphoqa amathoyizi ngemuva komdlalo, ihambisane nezenzo zabo ngencazelo eningiliziwe.
Ngonyaka nengxenye ingane izokujabulela ukukusiza eduze kwendlu: uthanda ukulingisa ukuziphatha kwabazali bakhe. Ngenkathi uhlanza, nikeza ingane ukuthi iqoqe amathoyizi abo, yibambelele ku-vacuum cleaner bese usula itafula labo ngendwangu. Ukudlala nengane eneminyaka eyodwa, isibonelo, ekulungiseleleni isidlo sakusihlwa, faka emdlalweni ukuhlanza izitsha: "ugeze" bese uyibuyisela emuva, ubeke amazwana wokuthi akulungile ukushiya itafula elingcolile ngemva kwakho.
Ngonyaka nengxenye umntwana angalandela imiyalelo yomuntu omdala uma kudingeka ukuthi abeke okuthile endaweni noma ukubeka into emgqeni wetafula. Ngakho-ke awufundisi ingane kuphela amakhono okunemba, kodwa futhi usebenzise izindlela zakhe zokucabanga nenkumbulo. Uma ingane isenze umsebenzi obelwe wona, qiniseka ukuthi uyomdumisa. Kodwa ungamangali uma uzothola izinto ozidingayo ezindaweni ezingalungile kakhulu. Ungamangaleli ngalokhu: cishe, wanquma ukukusiza futhi asuse lokho, ngokubona kwakhe, akusekho. Mane umchazele ukuthi amasokisi kufanele abe esitokisini, nokudla ekhishini. Eminyakeni emibili, ukuphazamisa umntwana, kumnike umkhwenyana ophakeme, ukuze asize ukumbathisa izingubo zakhe. Bonisa indlela okwenza ngayo, cela ukuthi aphule amasokisi akhe noma i-pantyhose eyedwa. Ungakhohlwa ukuphinda ukuthi yonke into inezindlu: izicathulo kanye nejackethi zihlala emgodini, futhi ingubo noma ama-shorts alale kuphela esitokisini. Vumela ingane ukuba ikusize eduze kwendlu, ungamcindezeli uma ezama ukuthatha umshanelo ezandleni zakho noma ufuna ukugeza izitsha nawe. Njengoba ukhubeke izikhathi ezimbalwa ekukhaleni komama, umntwana uzoyeka ukukunikeza usizo. Yiqiniso, akakwazi ukugeza indebe noma ukusula itafula, kodwa khumbula ukuthi ikhono lenziwa kancane kancane - kuzothatha isikhathi esincane, futhi uzobona ukuthi usebenza ngokuhlakanipha kangakanani ngemisebenzi yakhe.
Ingane eneminyaka emithathu ingabhekwa njengomsizi womama. Anganikezwa umsebenzi wokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, njengokudumisa noma ukuphuza izimbali. Uzoziqhenya uma umvumela ukuba ahlele izicathulo emgodini, sula ifasiteleni. Eminyakeni emithathu, ungafundisa ingane ukugeza ama-panties akhe namasokisi. Yilungiselele ukuthi kufanele uwageze kabusha, kodwa yenza lapho ingane ingayiboni: kubalulekile ukuthi azi ukuthi uyamethemba izindaba "zabantu abadala".
Eminyakeni emithathu umntwana uzokujabulela ukubona izenzo zikapapa, ngakho uxhuma kwinqubo yokufundisa.
Amafantasi
Siza izingane zakho ukuba zilandele iphutha lakho: bhala izindabakwane, lapho abalingiswa ababili abakhulu behlela khona ekushintsheni okuhlukahlukene. Futhi enye yazo - ikhophi eqondile yengane yakho, kanti okwesibili kubonisa ukuziphatha okufisayo ofuna ukufezeka kusuka kwengane. Vumela iqhawe lesibili liphume liphumelele, masiqondise ukubhekana nezithiyo ezihlukahlukene endleleni eya emgomweni ohlosiwe, kanti owokuqala, obhekene nezinkinga, uyaqonda isidingo sokushintsha futhi afunde ukuthi unembile kakhulu, ihlanzekile, ihlelekile.
Ukuqinisa impumelelo
Ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu ingane isivele iyayazi ukuthi yini edingekayo kuye. Kodwa ingane ngokwayo ayinakwenzeka ukuthatha umyalelo njalo kusihlwa, ukuhlanza izinto nokugeza izitsha ngemuva kokudla. Ngesinye isikhathi ngoba isandulela ngculaza isalokhu ihluleka ukulawula imizamo yakhe yemibandela, ngenxa yentshiseko yakhe yokukhathala komdlalo nokuhlwa.
Ngakho-ke, kunezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuthi "ukhumbuze" ingane yemithwalo yabo yemfanelo. Ingane encane, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umzali abe naye, usize futhi ulawule ngobumnene izenzo zakhe. Ukuhlanza okuhlangene kuzoletha ingane injabulo, umuzwa wokugcwala emndenini, futhi izonikeza ithuba lokugcina izenzo zomuntu omdala.
Ingane ayikwazi ukuhlala ekhanda lakhe isethi yonke yezenzo ezidingekayo, ikakhulukazi hhayi ezithakazelisayo kakhulu futhi ingamniki injabulo. Angakwazi ukunquma ukuthi amathoyizi, ahlelwe ngendlela efana nendawo yonke ekamelweni, abukeka ekhangayo futhi edala uzwela, noma acabange ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu manje ukuqedela ukudlala, ukubukela ifilimu yemifanekiso, njll. Ngakho-ke, qiniseka: ungamphoqeleli ukuthi ingane iphume lapho ihilelekile ekuthile, noma ifuna ukuqothula inqaba, eyakhayo ngenkinga enkulu.
Esikhundleni sokumemeza okudabukisayo, hlala imidwebo ehlekisayo nxazonke zendlu, okuzosiza ingane ukuba ikhumbule isidingo sokufaka izinto zakhe esitokisini, ukubeka izitsha ebhodini, ukuhlanza amazinyo ngaphambi kokulala. Njengesikhumbuzi ungasebenzisa noma yikuphi ukudlala. Mthatha esandleni sakho, ubize igama lomntanakhe bese ucela ukuthi wenza konke, akazange akhohlwe okuthile okubalulekile ngaphambi kokulala.
Woza ngemidlalo ethokozisayo futhi ukhumbule, ingane esemdala, lo mdlalo kufanele ube yinkimbinkimbi. Isibonelo, hlela nomntwana ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho ibell ishaya, sekuyisikhathi sokuqeda umdlalo bese uhlanza amathoyizi, futhi lapho ezwa umgubhu wodubhu, sekuyisikhathi sokuya ekugeza.
Izingane ezineminyaka engu-3-4 zinganikeza ukubeka zonke izinto zokudlala, kodwa khumbula ukuthi lo msebenzi uzothatha isikhathi esiningi. Izingane ezindala zingathanda ukuthatha umhlalaphansi ukusheshisa uma wena, isibonelo, ubale imizuzwana ngokuzwakalayo, bese ubhala imiphumela etafuleni.
Ingane izothanda ukwenza okwesikhashana njengomzali uma udlala ingane engalaleli ngalesi sikhathi. Myeke anikeze izikhombisi-ndlela, kuphi nokuthi yini okufanele uhlanze, ikushaye, uphinde uthukuthele. Mnike isikhathi sokuthola indlela, athathe amagama afanele ukwenza "ingane" ilalele, imqinisekise. Futhi uma yena ngokwakhe ehlanjululwa noma enqaba ukuhlanza noma yini eyedwa, khumbula ukuthi kwakunzima kangakanani ukuba abe ngumzali. Uzobona, ngokuqinisekile uzohlangana nawe.
Izingane ezikhulile zizozinamathela ngenjabulo izinzuzo ze "Ikhadi le-oda", futhi ekupheleni kwesonto zizozilinda ezinye izimpumelelo ngenxa yezimpumelelo zazo. Kufanelekile ukubeka kusengaphambili ukuthi lezi ngeke zibe izipho ezibizayo, futhi kungcono nakakhulu, uma kuzoba noma yikuphi ukuhamba okuhlangene nabazali noma isidlo sakusihlwa nomndeni.
Futhi, izingane ezindala zizofuna ukuhlanza impahla yazo, uma ngelinye ilanga zingena ekamelweni futhi zingatholi ezibiza kakhulu. Ungazifihla, futhi ingane ingashiya incwadi ekhonjiwe ichaza ukuthi ingazitholaphi izinto zayo. Abantwana abaneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-6 bayakwazisa isikhala somuntu siqu, banemfihlo yabo, ngakho-ke akungabazeki ukuthi bathande ukuthi labazali bathathe "amagugu" abo, futhi, cishe, bayothola ithuba lokususa ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukusebenzisa le ndlela futhi .