Ukuphenduka kwenkinga kungabalwa kusukela kuminyaka engu-30 ubudala wesifazane. Kunezindlela ezimbalwa ukuthi umuntu angaziphatha kanjani esikhathini esifanayo: noma ukwesaba noma ukuhlanganisa izinto ezithile empilweni yakho. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ezinkingeni ukucabanga ukuthi ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi, nangaphambili - hhayi ukunikeza ukuphumula, amaphupho angagcwaliseki. Kuzoba nzima ukubhekana nalokhu.
Ungalahli. Endabeni yowesifazane osebenzela impilo yakhe yonke ekukhulisweni kwezingane zakhe, kuvame ukuthi ukuthi uma eneminyaka engama-30-40 uthola ukuthi ulahlekelwe okuningi ekuphileni kwakhe. Ingane ikhulile, futhi ayikwenzelisi ukunakekelwa komama. Indoda, kuyilapho lo wesifazane ehlala ekhaya, wasebenza ekuthuthukiseni umsebenzi wakhe. Khona-ke kukhona ukuhlambalaza. Owokuqala kubo ngokuvamile ekheli labo, ngenxa yobuwula obulula, futhi ngokushesha-kumuntu, ngenxa yobugovu obukhona manje. Angazi ukuthi ungenzani manje, yini ongayilwela? Yilokho indlela inhlekelele yabesifazane ibonakala ngayo. Ukulwa nenkinga engokomoya, into yokuqala oyodinga ukuyikhohlwa yisihlamba. Hack kusuka ehlombe, ebhekisela ebhizinisini, noma isehlukaniso, noma ukuxoshwa emsebenzini, akudingekile. Intombazane eneminyaka ephakathi ubudala ingabonakala ukuthi iqalisa ukulinganisa konke ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokwenza okuthile.
Ungaqhathanisi. Inkinga yobudala obuphakathi, nowesifazane, nayo iyoba yisici kumfazi webhizinisi. Emantombazaneni afana nalawo angaphumelela emisebenzini yawo, inhlekelele ngokwayo iyabuka. Isizathu singaba kulezi zinto ezilandelayo: hhayi izinga eliphansi lokuphila, futhi futhi hhayi ukuziphatha okuphansi, abazange babe yintsha yakhe. Abakwa-Careerists abakwazi ukuhluleka, cishe njalo badinga ukunqoba. Ukuzama ukuqhathanisa namashumi amabili, le nkosikazi iqala ukuqonda ukuthi yini eqhubekayo ekuhlanzeni kwayo. Ukucasula empilweni, ukuhlambalaza ngenxa yokuthi ungakanikeli ingcebo ekuqaleni akufanelekile. Futhi uqhathanise izithombe zakho ezedlule nokucabangela okukhona esibukweni, nje kuphela. Yithandane nawe ngokwazi ukungayeki ngisho nezimo ezingakhululekile kakhulu. Vele ubonge isiphetho ngokunikeza ukusekela ubuhle bakho nobusha bakho, abakwazi ukususwa kuwe.
Shintsha isitayela. Ukushintsha okuncane ngesitayela kungasiza ekunciphiseni inkinga enjalo. Lesi seluleko sizokwenzela abomabhizinisi nabesifazane besifazane. Ingxenye enkulu yesigqoko sakho sezingubo ayihlali ngezitshalo ezilula? Zama ukufaka nje i-jeans yakho. Asikho isidingo, ukwesaba ukuzama ngisho nemibala ekhanyayo. Ingabe kukhona ukwesaba kokubuka okungenangqondo? Zama ukubonisana nezitayela ezinhle. Zama ukuqondisa yonke imicabango ngendlela ehle. Eminyakeni engu-30-40 ayifaki iphuzu ezifisweni. Ukushintsha isitayela kungathinta, kanye nokushintsha izingubo, nezindandatho noma izimonyo. Le ndlela ingase ihilele ushintsho endleleni yokuphila. Mhlawumbe kufanele uthole ukuzilibazisa okuthakazelisayo, noma uzithathele engavamile.
Ukudala. Kwakukhona ithuba elihle lokungaqhubeki kusasa lokho okwakudingeka njalo kwenziwe. Mhlawumbe, ukuze ufunde ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngaphambilini, kwakungekho nje amathuba okubonakala, noma akukho isikhathi. Ungesabi ukuza emakilasini okudweba noma okudansa. Ungaba nesithakazelo kumculo, ukudalwa kwezinkondlo. Imingcele yokuthuthuka ayitholakali. Khathazeka ngokuthi ubudala akudingekile. Njengoba enqume ukufakazela ukuthi akuyona nje ukuphelelwa yisikhathi, kodwa njengeqiniso elivamile, umuntu angaba nokuthula okukhulu. I-vein ye-Creative kulokhu izosiza. Imisebenzi ejwayelekile yansuku zonke noma imicimbi, noma abantu abasha, ngeke bashiye isikhathi semicabango emibi.
Abajwayele abasha. Abangane abadala nabajwayele kubalulekile kakhulu kunoma yimuphi owesifazane, ngokungangabazeki. Abamele abesimame bayaphumelela emphakathini, lapho kokubili imibono eqinile yabesilisa nabesifazane iqondiswa kuso. Ukuqaphela ukudala kuyimzamo yokwazisa abantu abasha, kanye nabangani. Ingxoxo ikuvumela ukuba ushiye imizwelo eqoqiwe. Abangane abasha bakhanya ngokuzethemba? Khuluma nabo ngombuzo. Okwaziyo omusha kungaba ngumeluleki noma ungaba umeluleki wakho. Labo abaye bathola isipiliyoni empilweni bafuna ukuveza omunye umuntu, ngoba uma bekhula, isidingo sokufisa sifinyelele.
I-Pedagogy. Esikhathini isigamu samakhosi omphakathi, hhayi amandla amancane okufundisa afihlekile. Kungani kungenalutho ukusindisa, ukuyiqoqa, uma ungakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle kwesizukulwane esidala? Phela, ungabeka umgomo wokuba uthisha. Ukuqaphela umsebenzi wethisha akudingeki ukuba usheshe. Imisebenzi enjalo ingase ihluke. Zama ukuvula izifundo ezithile esixazululweni ngenkinga yobudala obuphakathi. Noma uzame emfundisweni yomdanso. Ukwakha isikole esincane, noma ukushicilela izincwadi ezihlukahlukene ngosizo lwabesifazane abaye bathola isikhundla esifanayo. Mhlawumbe kudingeke ukuba kutholakale kwenye indawo. Nakuba ukufundisa akuyona indlela enhle yokuxazulula le nkinga. Mhlawumbe, ingaba yinye yezenzo ezinyathelo.
Usizo. Vumela ukubonakala okukhangayo, noma impumelelo emsebenzini, ngisho nobuhlobo obubi nomyeni wakhe, kodwa bonke abesifazane abafanayo bangazizwa bengenakuqonda okungaqondakali. Ukubhujiswa okunjalo kungahlotshaniswa nesandulela sokungabi namsebenzi. Mhlawumbe kufanele siqale ukwenza izinto ezifanele! Zama ukusiza izingane ezizulazulayo, noma abantu abadala, noma izilwane ezingenamakhaya. Uthando olunjalo lungashintsha impilo empandeni. Yeka ukuxhuma emhlabeni wonke omhlophe, udinga nje ukuzama ukusiza umakhelwane wakho. Izenzo ezinhle zingaba nemizwa ekhanyayo. Uma usuqalile lokhu, owesifazane ulethe okuhle, injabulo, nenjabulo, khona-ke uhlala ngeze.
Ukholo. Kuthemba ukukholelwa kuNkulunkulu, kanye nasemandleni aphezulu, bese uzama ukunqoba leyo nkinga yobudala. Ngokuyinhloko, le ndlela inendima ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphandle kokholo, ithemba, isiphetho, usizo olukhulu, kuyoba nzima ukuqala impilo ehlukile, ukunyakaza okuhlukile. Ngokuvamile, izidalwa ezinobuthakathaka zifuna ukwabelana, ziveza ngezinkinga ezikhona, hhayi nabantu abahlangothini. Yilapho ikholo elinjalo lisiza. Ngempela, noNkulunkulu, ungaba ukhululekile futhi wabelane nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Ukholo lungathatha indawo yokuthola. Uma ubheka ukholo lwakho, ungabona ukuthi amakholwa anezindlela ezithile kanye nokuphila, nobuhlobo ezihlotsheni, nakwabo.
Ungadangali. Thatha izinqumo ngezandla zakho. Konke kuwe kungavela.
Inkinga yabesifazane yobudala obuphakathi
Izinkinga zezimpikiswano ezihlobene nobudala zingenzeka kunoma iyiphi intombazane. Ngemuva kokuqedwa kwenkinga entsha, ukuzitholela ngokwakho kungase kwenzeke futhi. Masiqokomise ezinye zezinkinga ezinkulu ezixhomeke ekuziphatheni kwemvelo: lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi yentsha, kuyinkinga yokuvuthwa, kanye nokuguga. Inkinga yezinsikazi eziphakathi kwenkathi evame ukuqala ngemva kokuguquka kweminyaka yobudala.