Iyini isigamu sami sesibili? Ingabe ikhona inhle ngempela noma ingabe iyinkolelo? Ingabe ubonisa ngokucacile ukuthi ufuna ukuphila nobani? Futhi abantu bacabangani ngabesifazane futhi ngokuphambene nalokho? Ake sizame ukuphendula le mibuzo.
"Imfihlakalo engaxazululwa", noma iphupho lamadoda ngabesifazane.
Ngokuvamile kubamadoda kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nomsebenzi (ibhizinisi kanye nezindlela ezifanayo), futhi owesifazane uphoqelekile ukuba abasize ekuthuthukiseni izinga lezemisebenzi, ekwenzeni ubuhle futhi ebelethe izingane ... Yini lo wesifazane okufanele abe nokuphila? Ingabe kukhona owesifazane omuhle ekumelelweni komuntu? Noma inganekwane? Ake sizame ukuthola.
Umfundi u-Andrei oneminyaka engamashumi amabili waphendula umbuzo mayelana nomfazi ongcono ukuthi ukhona, kodwa wonke umuntu unombono wakhe wokuhle, kuye ngemfundo, imvelo, njll. "Inami, into ebaluleke kakhulu," yilo izwe elingaphakathi, futhi ukubukeka kufanele kube mnandi, ngakho-ke akukho okungahlekisayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinguquko zangaphandle ziphenduka, futhi umhlaba wangaphakathi nomuntu uhlala njalo, futhi uzizwa.
U-Vasily, oneminyaka engu-21, waphupha "ukuthi le ntombazane, futhi kamuva umfazi wayeyindoda enomude obude obunezinwele ezinde, enomusa, enomzimba omuhle, othembekile, ukuze ukwazi ukumethemba, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ngezwe elicebile ngaphakathi." Njengoba uVasily esho, ujwayele ukujwayela amantombazane athandekayo, aqaphele ukubukeka.
U-Andrey, oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala, osevele enolwazi nabesifazane, uyaqiniseka ukuthi "okokuqala, kufanele kube nokuqonda okuphakathi komyeni nomfazi." (Yebo, ukuqonda okubili - kuhambisana nemibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye iminyaka engu-1 kuya kwengu-7). "Owesifazane ofanelekayo," le nsizwa iyakholelwa, "kufanele ipheke ngokumnandi, ukuqagela izifiso zomuntu, ukushayela imoto, nokubukeka - ibe mhle. Futhi ngokujwayelekile, indoda kufanele ihlale imfihlakalo, ihlazo. "
- Futhi enye ingxenye yami, - wahlanganyela no-Andreya, - kufanele abe nomzimba ka-Aphrodite, ukumomotheka - Mona Lisa, amehlo - uCleopatra, nobuntu - uMargaret Thatcher. (Ngokusobala, uhlamvu lwe "Iron Lady" kunalokho luyabesaba amadoda akhe kunokudonsela).
Amadoda asho ngokucacile imibono yabo mayelana nowesifazane ongcono. U-Valery, 53, uthe kafushane futhi ngokucacile: "Angikholelwa ukuthi abesifazane basemqoka. Owesifazane kufanele abe nokulinganisela konke, kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthando nokuhlobana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kufanele kuphumelele, ukuze owesifazane athembeke. "
Yiqiniso, kuwo wonke umuntu owesifazane ongcono uyisiqephu sakhe sesibili. Futhi ngokuhlola okufushane kwabesilisa abaningana bakwazi ukuveza isithombe esivamile somfazi ongcono. Ngakho-ke, ubukeka obuhle, enomhlaba ocebile ngaphakathi, kufanele apheke ngokumnandi, aqagele izifiso zomuntu, abe yiqiniso, akwazi ukushayela imoto, ngenkathi ehlala ocansini onamandla imfihlakalo engaxazululwanga.
Imibono yabesifazane "ngensimu eqinile", noma "abesifazane bayakhetha".
Abesifazane badinga uhlobo luni lwesigamu sesibili? Phakathi neMinyaka Ephakathi, kwakucatshangwa ukuthi indoda kufanele ibe yinto eqondile - ibhande elihlaza okwesibhakabhaka noma i-brown eye-brown ngezinwele ezinde, ezinesibindi, eziqinile, eziqhubekayo nokuthi owesifazane uzizwa esondelene naye ngokuthi "ngemuva kwodonga lwamatshe". Izikhathi zazingashintsha, kodwa okuhle kweqhawe elihle kakhulu lahlala emakhulwini eminyaka, kodwa kwakukhona amaqhawe kanye nokubukeka okungathandekayo ... Ngakho kancane kancane ezingqondweni zabesifazane isimo esihle somuntu wangempela sakha - sinamandla, nesibindi futhi sikhangayo. Kamuva, lo mhle uhanjiswe kwizikrini zethelevishini ... Kukhona ekumelelweni kwabesifazane futhi manje, kuphela ekhulwini lethu kuhlanganiswa ezinye izici: ngaphezu komuntu ofundisiwe, onamandla, onenhloso, onokwanele, owesifazane ufuna ukubona kuye umlingani - ohlakaniphile, ophanayo, umuzwa wokuhlekisa nokunye okufanayo. Futhi izinguquko ekahle ngobudala.
UJulia oneminyaka engu-15 ubudala, ohlangana naye epaki, waphupha ukuhlangabezana nezingane ezizobonakala zifana nezithombe zentsha ekhona manje emaphethelweni omagazini abaluhlaza. Nakuba izici noma imikhuba yabo ingabonakali imikhuba yentombazane. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi banakekelwa ukubukeka.
U-Elvira, oneminyaka engu-23 ubudala: "Angikholelwa ezimisweni, ngoba ngikholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu unesiphambeko, kodwa siwela othandweni namadoda, (angabonakali kithi) ukuthi sivale amehlo ethu kubo. Okokuqala, umuntu kufanele abe ophanayo, ohlakaniphile futhi ehlekisayo. Intombazane ngayinye inesifiso sayo somuntu wangempela, kodwa konke kuhluke kangangokuthi nemibono iyahlukahluka. "
U-Alena, oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala: "Lapho sisezingeni lethu, umuntu kufanele abe umngane ongakhuluma naye, ngubani ongathanda ukusiza, ngoba ufuna ukuzwa ukusekelwa kwakhe, ukuze afake ihlombe lakhe ngesikhathi esifanele. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ngothando, ngoba isidingo salokhu ngisho neminyaka engama-40 singakaze sinyamalale, ngifuna ukunikeza izimbali. Phakathi neminyaka, izindinganiso zishintsha. Isibonelo, ukubukeka akudali indima ebalulekile, futhi ukunakwa okwengeziwe kudonseleka ebuhlotsheni komunye nomunye. "
Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile Uyi: indoda enomzimba omuhle ovela embukisweni womagazini omangalisayo, okuwukuthi, okhangayo, ophana, ohlakaniphile, onokuzijabulisa, othandana naye, onokwethenjelwa, onganikeza umndeni futhi uyakwazisa umkakhe.
Umbono wezici zengqondo.
Izazi zengqondo zithi ngokuthuthukiswa kwezinguquko zesayensi nobuchwepheshe, isiko lengqondo liye labola, futhi isimo sabantu abalungile sishintshile ukuze sibe ngcono. Ngaphambilini, isithombe sathonywa izimfanelo zokuziphatha zomlingiswa womuntu, futhi kakade namhlanje - imali. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-10 eyedlule yonke into yayingama-50 kuya ku-50. Umqondo wabantu abahle uhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Yiqiniso, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabashadile buhluka ngesikhathi, futhi lokhu kuvamile. Yebo, uma umyeni nomfazi bebheka amehlo ekuphutheni komunye nomunye. Uma kungekho ukuhlukumezeka phakathi kwabo, izingxabano zivela futhi ezingabangela isahlukaniso. "
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uWilliam wafunda iminyaka eminingana yezigidi zemibhangqwana eshadile futhi wafika kulesi siphetho ngokuphathelene nokulindelwe komlingani ngamunye. Ukulindela kwamadoda ngokumelene nabesifazane: ukwaneliseka ngokobulili, umfazi okhangayo, ukugcinwa endlini, ukusekelwa ngokomthetho kumyeni wakhe. Ukulindela kwabesifazane mayelana namadoda: isisa, uthando, ukukhathazeka, ukukhulumisana, ukwethembeka, ukuvuleka, ukusekelwa ngokwezimali, ukwethembeka komndeni, ukuhlanganyela ekukhulisweni kwezingane. Ngokusho kuka-Harley, ngokuvamile ukuhluleka kwamadoda nabesifazane ukwakha umndeni kungenxa yokungazi izidingo zomunye nomunye.
Ngakho-ke, kuvela, ukuthi lo mhle usekelwe, okokuqala, ukwaneliseka kwezidingo zakho? Noma ingabe kufanelekile ukuvumelanisa kwezwe langaphakathi nangaphandle? Futhi uma lokhu kuvumelana kungekho emvelweni, kuthiwani ngomuntu! Imibuzo ihlala ingavamile.