Ukukhetha umsebenzi
Ukukhetha umsebenzi kuyisinqumo sokubaluleka okuphawulekayo, ngoba yileyo ndlela umuntu angase ahambe kuyo okungenani iminyaka engamashumi amane ezayo yokuphila. Lapho baneminyaka engu-18, bambalwa abanokuvuthwa ngokwanele ukwenza izinqumo ezinjalo. Ukufunda eyunivesithi kuzonikeza ithuba lokuqonda izithakazelo zabo. Akuyona into engavamile ukuthi le nqubo iqala ngambalwa "okuqala amanga", ngoba le nsizwa idinga isikhathi sokuhlukanisa izithakazelo zakhe ezilindeleke kubazali bayo. Enkambeni yokwakha umsebenzi, umuntu omusha uvame ukuphazamiseka ukungabi nokholo lokuthi uzophumelela. Ngokwezifundo ezithile, abantu abame ngaphansi kwezinga eliphansi kakhulu lomkhakha wezemisebenzi cishe banokuhlupheka okukhulu kunabanamathuba okuphatha. Isibonelo, umthwalo wokucindezeleka okukhulu. Umsebenzi osencane kunazo zonke ehhovisi ehlala ebhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu. Ukuqala enkampanini ngesiyalo esiqinile kanye nesimiso esiqinile sosuku kuwukukhathazeka kwabaningi.
Ukuzimela ngokwezimali
Intsha eningi ngokokuqala ngqa empilweni yabo iba yimali emele. Njengoba ukuthola isitifiketi nezinye izinkokhelo akusekelwe abazali, banquma ukuthi bangayisebenzisa kanjani imali yabo. Ngezinye izikhathi lapho uqala ukuqala kufanele uhambe kwelinye idolobha, lona ngokwalo liqukethe izinto eziningi ezintsha. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kwenzeka ngenxa yobunzima bokusebenza - isibonelo, ukucinga okuzimele kwezindlu ngaphandle kosizo lwabazali. Imfundo ephakeme yenza umkhuba wokukhululeka. Ukukhethwa kwezifundo zesikole ngisho nokuya ezifundweni ngokuvamile kuxhomeke ngokuphelele kumfundi. Ngamanani aphezulu amanje okwakhiwa kwezindlu, ikakhulukazi emadolobheni amakhulu, ukuthenga ikhaya lakho noma indlu yakho ngokuvamile kubonakala sengathi umgomo ongenakufinyeleleka. Kubantu abaningi abasha lokhu kuyenzeka kuphela ngokusekelwa ngokwezimali kwezihlobo. Ukwehlukana kobudlelwane bomuntu siqu, ukwehlisa ubudlelwane obungane kubangela ubunzima obungenakugwemeka.
Abangani abasha
Ubuhlobo obunobungane obuboshwe phakathi nalesi sikhathi ngokuvamile buhlala ekuphileni. Ukungena eyunivesithi, insizwa iphakathi kwabantu abasha abangahlobene nomndeni. Ngokokuqala ngqa kuphakathi kwalabo ababuthana ndawonye ngenxa yezifiso ezifanayo. Iyunivesithi yindawo enhle yokuzijwayeza nabantu beminyaka yakho, exhunywe yizintshisekelo ezivamile. Abangane beminyaka yokufunda bavame ukuhlala bangabangane bokuphila.
Thola ozakwethu
Intsha eningi ikhetha abalingani abasondelene phakathi kwalabo abafundela nabo noma abasebenza ndawonye, kodwa lokhu kusesha kungaqala ngochungechunge lwemizamo engaphumeleli. Abanye abasha banobungane obuseduze, abanye - bambalwa kuphela. Ngemva kokuhlela impilo yangasese, abantu abasha baqala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomlingani wabo noma umlingani wabo kunokuba nabangane bobulili babo. Ngokusho kocwaningo, iningi labantu likhetha umlingani olingana nezinga elifanayo lemfundo kanye nemvelo efanayo. Nokho, leli phethini lingathonywa yizici ezifana nokubukeka nokuvikeleka kwezezimali. Kusukela eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu, abantu bavame ukubuya ubuhlobo babo nabazali babo. Abaningi baqala ukubonga umnikelo wabazali empilweni yabo. Kulabo abangakakulungeli ukwakha ubuhlobo, ukushada komphakathi kuyithuba lokuhlanganisa izinzuzo zokuhlala kanye nenkululeko yomuntu siqu.
Ukuhlanganyela Okuhlangene
Inqubo yokuthola imfundo ngakho "idonsela" intsha, ukuthi impilo ehlanganyelwe ngaphambi komshado iba yinto evamile. Esikhathini sethu, lapho ukungalingani kobuhlobo kungaholela ekwenzeni umphakathi, futhi ithonya lokuvimbela inkolo libuthakathaka, intsha eningi inqume ukungashadi nhlobo. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokwakha isibambiso ukuvikela inzalo ngenxa yokukhathalela kabili kubazali bobabili. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyinkambinkimbi enhle, ukuzinza kwayo kuhlale kusongelwa ukuthi kungenzeka ukukhwabanisa, ukuhlukana kobudlelwane noma isehlukaniso.
Ukuthembela kubazali
Ngemva kweminyaka engama-20, abaningi bathola ukuthi bancike ekuthembekeni ngokomzwelo kubazali babo, ikakhulukazi ezimweni ezinzima zokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, esimweni sokukhuphuka kwezindleko zezindlu, intsha kufanele iphile isikhathi eside nabazali bayo noma ibuyele ekhaya ngemva kokuphothula iziqu eyunivesithi. Ngisho nalabo abahlala ngokwehlukana, ngezinye izikhathi baqhubeka bethembele kubazali babo. Ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu kungabhekwa njengokulandelana kwezigaba ezithile zokuphila, okunye okuhambisana nokuvela kwezinkinga ezithile ezingokwengqondo. Kuze kube neminyaka engama-30, iningi labantu abasha lizethemba kakhulu izahlulelo zabo futhi banamathele ukubaluleka kokuvunyelwa kwabazali. Baqala ukubona umuntu kumama noma ubaba, futhi ukuvakashela ekhaya kuyaba isikhathi esincane kakhulu. Abanye abazali bakunzima kulokhu kuhlukaniswa. Kulesi sikhathi, ubuhlobo phakathi komama nendodakazi bungaba nzima kakhulu. Ngokuvamile umama unombono wakhe wokuthi ungaphila kanjani indodakazi. Indodakazi nayo izama ukuzimisela emsebenzini wowesifazane omdala.
Ukuzalwa kwezingane
Emindenini eminingi, ukwehlukana phakathi kwezingane nabazali kuyesikhashana. Ukuvela kwabazukulu ngokuvamile kuvame ukuholela ekuhlanganiseni kwazo zonke izizukulwane ezintathu, naphezu kokuthambekela kokumisa umyeni emndenini womfazi. Noma kunjalo, unogogo nogogo bakhetha ukungachithi isikhathi sabo besiza emfundweni yabazukulu. Ukuguga okuzayo kwabazali futhi kuholela ekushintsheni ebuhlotsheni - manje imithwalo yabo yemfanelo iya kubantwana. Izinkinga zomkhaya nezomnotho ezihambisana nokunakekela abazali abagulayo zingaba nzima ngokwemvelo, ngokomzimba nangokwezimali. Abantu bavame ukugqamuka phakathi kwezidingo zezingane zabo nabazali babo.
Intuthuko eqhubekayo
Ukuthuthukiswa komuntu akupheli ekupheleni kwengane nokukhula. Indoda eneminyaka engu-17 kuya kwengu-40 ekuthuthukisweni kwayo ihamba ngezigaba ezine. Esikhathini sokuqala (kusukela eminyakeni engu-17 ukuya kweyengu-22), uba ngumuntu ozimele kubazali bakhe futhi uyazi "iphupho" lakhe. Lapho esesimweni somuntu omdala, uqala "ukuphishekela iphupho" - wakhe umsebenzi, uzitholele umbhangqwana, futhi ngezinye izikhathi - athola umndeni. Cishe iminyaka engama-28, isikhathi sokuvuselelwa kwamagugu siqala, ngezinye izikhathi siholela esiphethweni sokuthi imigomo ayitholakali. Isigaba sokugcina (ngokuvamile esondela eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-40) yisikhathi sokuguqula ukuzinza. Ukuphila kowesifazane akungabonakali kangako ngenxa yokubeletha kanye nezinguquko ezihlobene emisebenzini yobuchwepheshe, ngakho kunzima kakhulu izazi ze-psychologists ukuba zihlulele ukutholakala kwezigaba ezinjalo ekuthuthukisweni kwayo. Ukuphila kwabantu abadala kuhlanganisa ubunzima bezezimali ezihambisana nokukhokhwa kwezikweletu namalimboleko. Ukuze ugweme izindleko eziphezulu ezivela ekuzihlaleni, abantu abasha bavame ukuqhubeka behlala nabazali babo.