Kunezinhlobo zezici - ezokwemvelo nezokuziphatha - ezichaza ngokunembile futhi zichaze inyanga yesithathu yokuphila kwengane. Futhi okuqala kulawa yilokho ijika lesisindo.
Akunandaba ukuthi ulinganisa yini ingane yakho: emtholampilo wezingane noma ekhaya. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ijika letafula lesisindo somntwana kufanele lihambe kahle futhi lingabikho ngokuzumayo. Lapho uneminyaka eyizinyanga ezintathu ingane yakho kufanele ibe nesisindo esingamakhilogremu ayisithupha. Uma uqaphela ukuthi ezinsukwini eziyisikhombisa kuya kweyishumi ingane yakho iyeke ukuthola isisindo, ngokushesha xhumana nodokotela. Ngenyanga yesithathu yokuphila, ingane kufanele ihlanganise isilinganiso samakhulu amabili amagremu ngesonto.
Iminyaka enyanga ezintathu iyinhlangano yomsebenzi omusha womzimba wengane. Ngenxa yemisipha yakhe, ukukhala okulodwa akwanele, udinga ukunyakaza okusha. Faka usuku lwayo lwemodi eziningana ezintsha, lokhu kuyoba yikhokhelo lakhe lokuqala lokuqala. Gwema ingane bese uyibeka egqokweni - makabeke phezu kwamapeni nemilenze, qiniseka ukuthi uzoyithanda. Emva kwalokho, umbeke emathunjini akhe - kuleso sikhundla uzoqeqesha imisipha yangemuva nentamo, ngoba njalo njalo ikhanda lakhe lizobamba ukuchitha, lihlole konke okuzungezile.
Kufanelekile ukunaka abazali nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi ezinyangeni ezinyangeni ezintathu ingane isivele ihle kakhulu, futhi ingaqondisa ukuhamba kwezandla zakhe. Ngakho-ke, akusho ukuthi uzowadonsa emlonyeni wakhe aphuze iminwe yakhe. Le nqubo izomnika injabulo engakaze ibe yinto engakaze ibe yinto, kepha zama ukuzithinta kancane isithombe bese uzama ukuphazamisa ingane ekunceleni iminwe, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi iyoba umkhuba omubi futhi ingathinteka kakhulu inqubo yamazinyo okukhula.
Ungaphanga umntwana. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubekezela nokukhathalela kwakho. Kumelwe ahlale ezwa ukunaka kwakho, kodwa kuphela emingcele efanele. Ungambonisi ukuthi uyisikhungo sendawo yonke, noma, ngeshwa, usengozini yokukhula i-egoist. Futhi ningakhohliswa usencane kakhulu! Ngikholelwa, ngisho nangenyanga yesithathu yokuphila bazizwa kahle kakhulu isimo sengqondo esivela kubantu ababazungezile. Kwaphela isikhathi eside kakhulu bakholwa ukuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzalwa, futhi ukukhuliswa kungukulungiswa okungokwenyama. Kodwa ucwaningo lwesayensi luye lwaphikisa lokhu, luye lwafakazelwa ukuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu konke ukukhuliswa okufanayo. Ngakho-ke, inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi yemfundo kufanele isetshenziswe manje - empeleni iba yisisekelo hhayi nje kuphela ekuthuthukiseni izimfanelo ezinhle, kodwa futhi kungabangela ama-phobias amakhulu nezinkimbinkimbi.
Wena ngokwakho ungahlola ukuhambisana kwengqondo yengqondo yengane yakho futhi unqume ukuthi uhamba phambili kangakanani ekuthuthukiseni kwakhe.
Bazali abasha, khumbula ukuthi:
- eneminyaka eyizinyanga ezintathu umntwana usuvele ekwazi ukubamba ikhanda okwesikhashana;
- eneminyaka eyizinyanga ezintathu uvuselela izingalo nemilenze yakhe. Yilungele ukubuka ingane yakho ngokumthinta lapho, ngesikhathi esithile, ibheka isandla sayo - futhi, ukuyithatha into engaphandle, uqala ukuyifunda ngesithakazelo;
- ingane enyangeni yesithathu yokuphila ibona unina, ubaba, ugogo nomkhulu, futhi bangaphendula ngokumomotheka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi behleka ngokuhleka kwabo;
- I-crumb enezinyanga ezintathu izwa kahle, ilalela imisindo engajwayelekile futhi isabela ngokuzithandela kulabo ababajwayele, ngokwesibonelo, kumama omnene nomusa;
- Yiqiniso, ezinyangeni ezintathu izinyanga ingane iqala ukwenza imisindo ehlukene. Izingane "zithinta" futhi zivela kulokhu kujabula okukhulu kanye nolwandle olunemizwa emihle.
Isixazululo esihle kakhulu ukufaka ama-rattles ambalwa embhedeni, ukuze umntwana abe nokuthile okumele abuke ngesikhathi lapho umama ephumula noma into ematasa. Akunconywa ukunikeza ingane amathoyizi amaningi ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngoba uzosheshe alahlekelwe isithakazelo kubo. Kungcono ukunikeza eyodwa, ukuze ifunde kahle futhi igxile kuyo. Umthetho obaluleke kunazo zonke: uvame ukugeza amathoyizi ebantwaneni bese uwagcina endaweni lapho bengeke baxazulule uthuli. Geza ama-rattles kungaba isepha yasendlini, futhi emva kokuwahlanza ngaphansi kwamanzi agijima - ungabi novilapha kakhulu futhi uphuze ngamanzi abilayo (ungakwazi ukupholisa kancane, ukuze ipulasitiki ingaphuli).
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - khathalela kakhulu ingane yakho, ngoba empilweni yomntwana akekho into emnandi kunothando lomzali nokukhathalela!