Iqiniso nezinganekwane mayelana nobuhlobo bokuqala

Lapho sinezingane eziyishumi nane ubudala, saphupha ukuthi uthando lokuqala, isipiliyoni sokuqala ngokocansi, owokuqala (yena kuphela ongenakulinganiswa!) Umshado uhambisana nathi. Lokhu akusebenzanga kunoma ubani. Kodwa lapho sixoxisana nezindleko zethu maduzane, saqaphela ukuthi ukuphila kuhamba ngendlela efanele. Ngakho-ke, ukubaluleka kokuqala obuseduze kubaluleke kangakanani? Ingabe umuntu wokuqala ungumlinganiso owesifazane oqhathanisa nakho konke okulandelayo? Kungcono ukuthi uqale nini ukuqala? Ake siqinisekise noma singavumelani ukuhlaziywa okuvamile mayelana nokuqala kothando. 1. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala kuthonya impilo eqhubekayo yobulili.
Kuyiqiniso, uma ngabe kunjalo, ngakho-ke abesifazane banesimo esibucayi: ubulili buhle, buletha injabulo. Owesifazane onenhlanhla uzizwa lula futhi ekhanyayo i-orgasm, uthola injabulo eyengeziwe ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi, isibonelo, isimo esinzima, lapho intombazane ithathwe ngokubamba iqhaza, iholela emkhakheni ohlukile. Owesifazane ushiywe ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo. Ngokuvamile uyesaba futhi aqaphele abantu, uzibeka icala ngalokho okwenzekile. Isilonda esiqotho siholela ezinkingeni zokuphila ngokocansi. Owesifazane onjalo uvame ukuba ne-vaginismus, lokho kungukuphikisana okungahambi kahle kwemisipha ye-pelvis kanye nesiswini. Udinga umsebenzi nomqondo wezokwelapha, udokotela wezocansi nabanye ochwepheshe - ekuqaleni, kungcono.

2. Ukunambitheka kwesithelo esinqatshelwe kungcono ukwazi ngeminyaka eyi-18-20.
Lezi datha sekuyisikhathi eside seziphelelwe yisikhathi - manje ezimweni eziningi konke kwenzeka kakhulu kakhulu. Izibalo zithi ngokucacile: ezweni lethu, izingane ezingu-10% nezintsha ezisukela eminyakeni engu-9 kuya kwengu-14 sezivele zinezocansi! Le mibhangqwana "eluhlaza" - uphawu lokugula emphakathini.

Imindeni engasebenzi, i-propaganda yokudakwa ngokweqile, ubudlova ku-TV, kuma-movie - konke lokho kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi izingane zizama ukuqala impilo yazo yabantu abadala ngendlela esheshayo. Omunye u-40% wezingane ezisencane baqala ukusondelana ngokocansi kusukela eminyakeni engu-14 kuya kwengu-18, abafana namantombazane angu-40% - kusukela eminyakeni engu-18 kuya ku-22, kanye no-10% - emva kweminyaka engu-22. Ngokusho kwezocansi, umuntu kufanele ahlanganyele ebuhlotsheni bobulili lapho esilungele ngokwengqondo. Abalingani abalinganayo nezibalo azifanelekile. Ngokusho odokotela, "lokhu" kufanele kwenzeke ngokulungela kwengqondo futhi mhlawumbe ngothando. Ukuvumelana kwemibono kubalulekile. Akuyona into enhle kakhulu, lapho intombazane iphikisana ngobuqotho, futhi umfana uyamxosha isikhathi eside. Futhi le ntombazane inikwa kuphela "ngoba iyesaba ukumlahlekelwa" noma "hhayi ukuhlekwa abangane bayo." Futhi Yena noYe kufanele ukuba balungele lesi sinyathelo. Uma umuntu ethandana, ama-hormone enjabulo ajame - ama-endorphin kanye ne-hormone yokucindezeleka - i-adrenaline. Ukubambisana okunjalo kwama-hormone kuveza isimo sengqondo esihle. Ukuhlala kuwo, intombazane ithola injabulo eyengeziwe ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Ngakho-ke, nge-endorphins ukuhlukana nentombi kulula futhi kuyabuhlungu kakhulu - ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.

3. Amantombazane emva kweminyaka engu-25 angaba nezinhloko.
Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela. Kunalokho, izinkinga zengqondo. Uma uhlala ungenacala kuze kube yilapho uneminyaka engu-30 ubudala, ubunzima bomsikazi omdala bungakhula. Abakwa-Sexologists bayeluleka ngesimo esinjalo ukunciphisa izidingo zamadoda. Ukuthola i-pair kuzoba lula kakhulu. Ekugcineni, nawe awuphelelanga. Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abaphuzile ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi uma kuqhathaniswa nabanye. Abesifazane nabesilisa abanjalo badinga usizo lwezokwelapha.

4. Yeka ukuthi kunzima kangakanani izinyathelo zokuqala!
Lokhu kuyiqiniso. Futhi ukuxhumana kocansi kokuqala kunzima kokubili intombazane nomfana. Umehluko kuphela ekubonweni kwengqondo ngalokho okukwenzekayo: owesifazane ufuna ukuthi indoda ayiphelile, nendoda-ukuthi lona wesifazane wayenguye wokuqala. Kubantu, ukuxhumana kocansi bokuqala kungase kubaluleke nakakhulu. Uzwa unomthwalo wemfanelo ojulile. Ngempela, ubusuku bokuqala - ungasho uhlobo oluthi "ukuhlolwa kobuningi." Uma konke kuhamba kahle - ungumuntu. Futhi uma kungenjalo ... Kulesi simo, angase abe nenkinga yokukhipha. Ikakhulukazi uma ukwehluleka kwakhe kuyohleka. Insizwa enjalo, mhlawumbe kufanele ihambe ukuyobona ochwepheshe. Ngakho-ke, ukuziphatha kowesifazane kudlala indima enkulu kakhulu. Kuyadingeka ukuba usebenzise amaqhinga nokuzijabulisa ukuze umuntu azizwe ekhululekile.

5. Ububele buhlala bulahlekile ngesikhathi sokuqala.
Ngokujwayelekile kwenzeka. Ekuthomeni kokuqala kukhona ukuhlanzwa kwe-hymen. Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi akusizi, kodwa nje usulele. Awukwazi ukuphumula ngisho nangemva kokuthandwa kothando ngokuphindaphindiwe. Noma i-spit ayikwazi ukuqedwa ngokuphelele. Isibonelo, lokhu kungenzeka uma ilungu lomuntu lingena emlonyeni wesifazane, futhi futhi uma izitho zangasese zentombazane zonakaliswe ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka, ukushaya indlwabu, noma ngisho nokuhlola ngokungenakuqondisisa isihlalo somzimba. Amanye amantombazane (kanye namantombazane akhathazekayo ngezinye izikhathi nawo) ayenesaba ukuthi ekuhloliseni okuqala kuyoba negazi elikhulu. Kodwa lokhu akuhambisani njalo neqiniso. Ukuphuza ngokweqile ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka uma i-hymen inzima kakhulu. Ngokujwayelekile ukulahleka kwentombi kuhambisana namaconsi amaningana egazi. Ubuhlungu bukhona, kodwa, njengomthetho, akunamandla kakhulu. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi akukwenzeka neze. Kunoma yikuphi, ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, imiphetho ye-hymen iyaphulukisa futhi intombazane ayisayizwa ingakhululekile ngocansi.

6. Umuntu wokuqala nguye owamncenga intombazane engenacala.
Empeleni, lokhu kunjalo. Kodwa intombazane ingazizwa ngenye indlela. Isibonelo, ekwamukelweni kwe-sexologist, isiguli esisodwa satshela ukuthi ulahlekelwe ubuntombi bakhe eneminyaka engu-17 ubudala - edilini elidakwa nomngane ongajwayelekile ongazange abubone. Kodwa indoda yakhe yokuqala, ubheka insizwa, eyaqala ukuhlangana naye eminyakeni embalwa emva kwalesi sigameko. Ama-sexologists achaza lokhu njengedivayisi engokwengqondo abanye abesifazane abasetshenziselwa "ukuzikhohlisa." Bona ngokwabo bakhetha ukuthi yiyiphi indoda okufanele icabange kuqala bese ikholelwa ngokuthembeka kuyo. Phela, imizwa yokuxhumana ngocansi idlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ngezikhathi ezithile kunezinto eziphilayo ezilula.

7. Isimo sokuqala socansi sihlala singenakulibaleka.
Ayikho into enjalo. Owesifazane uzoqhathanisa amadoda akhe, hhayi ukuthi lo mlingani wokuqala uzokuma kuleli khamera ngaphezu kweminye. Umlingani ongasoze akalibaleki angase abe ngowakhe umuntu olahlekelwe yintombi yakhe, kodwa lowo othandekayo hhayi ngomzimba kuphela, kodwa ngomphefumulo. Ngendlela, okufanayo kusebenza kobulili obunamandla. Abanye besifazane babo bakhumbula amadoda yonke impilo yabo, kanti abanye bangakhumbuli lutho - ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho negama labo ...

8. Ekuqaleni kokusondelana noma i-orgasm kuyimpoqo.
Lokhu kwenzeka kuphela kuma-movie noma kumabonakude othandana naye: "kwakuyinto yakhe yokuqala ngokocansi futhi wenyuka esuka enjabulweni waya ezulwini," wazizwa ukuthinta kwalowo muntu "budge" lwakhe okokuqala - nomzimba wakhe wagcwala umusa onjalo izinkulungwane zezimbali ezinhle zaqhakaza futhi izigidi zezimvemvane zaphakamisa amaphiko. " Ngeshwa, okokuqala i-orgasm cishe ngeke ifike, ngakho ungalindeli ize. Intombazane ingahle ithole injabulo kusuka e-caresses yokuqala noma ekubhubheni. I-Orgasm ingafika kamuva, ngokufika kwesipiliyoni socansi. Noma kunjalo, injabulo yocansi - lo mqondo ubuqotho futhi uqobo. Ngakho-ke, uma uke wabhekana ne-orgasm okokuqala, kufanele nje ujabule.