Kodwa le nsizwa, ngomqondo wangempela wamagama, manje isekela ngokubaluleke kakhulu kubazali. Uma eseyingane, udinga ukunakekelwa nothando, manje sidinga ukuqonda, ukwamukelwa kanye nokuchazwa okungaqondakali ngalokho okwenzeka kuye nasemhlabeni wakhe.
Ngalesi sikhathi emntwaneni wakho akukho lutho oluhlala unomphela, iziphepho ze-hormonal zishintsha umzimba wakhe futhi zishaya ubuchopho, ezikulungele ukupheka ngokuthi izwe elijwayelekile nelinenhlanhla liye layeka ukuba njalo. Esikhathini esiphezulu, umuntu uthola - "I" wakhe, ukwethembeka nobuqotho, ikhono lokuhlola ngokujulile izenzakalo nezinto, futhi hhayi ukuthembela ngokweqile umbono weziphathimandla zenziwe futhi zenziwe.
Isikhathi esiphezulu, yikuphi, yiziphi izakhi ezenziwa?
Okokuqala: ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo.
Ngaphakathi kwentsha konke amathumba avela emizweni ehlukene nemizwelo, abaningi babo kuze kube mzuzu akazange azizwe nhlobo, futhi labo abonakala bejwayele bathola ubukhali obungalindelekile, obubuhlungu kakhulu. Okuyinhloko kuyisimo sokwesaba, ngezinye izikhathi hhayi ngisho nokuqaphela.
Ukwesaba ukungafani nabanye abantu, ukungabi buthakathaka, yingakho intombazane ingakhulumi noontanga ngezinkinga zayo. Uyesaba ukusola abantu ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene, ngakho-ke naye akafuni ukukhuluma nabo. Uzama ukuwaxosha njengesizathu sokwesaba kwabo.
Intombazane iqala ukufuna ngentshisekelo phakathi kwontanga - emva kwakho konke, iyafana futhi isize ukuba ingaphumi esixukwini, ungabheka njalo ukuthi yiyiphi nokuthi ijwayele ukukopisha kanjani ukuziphatha ebuntwaneni. Kodwa izwe elizungezile liqukethe izilingo eziningi, futhi ngaphandle kokuqondiswa komuntu omdala umfana osemvelo uzama ukuzizama.
Umsebenzi wabazali ngalesi sikhathi ukubheka ingane yabo, kodwa hhayi ukuba nokulawula okuphelele kuye, kuyoba kubi nakakhulu. Ungayifundi imininingwane, kepha ukhulume ngokuthula ngendaba eyenzeka kuye, uchaze lokhu futhi ubonise ukusekelwa.
Ukuqaphela iqiniso lokukhula kwabo ngokocansi.
Lena inqubo enzima ngempela. Izingane zangaphambili zivele ngokuzumayo ukukhanga okungavamile kobulili obuhlukile, ngifuna ukuthinta nokubona, ukuthola ukuthi zihluke kuphi. Kodwa lokhu akunakwenzeka, lokhu kulahlwa ngabantu abadala, lokhu kulahlwa yizontanga zihawukela isibindi. Ama-hormone amcindezela kubantu abasha bobulili obuhlukile, ngifuna into entsha futhi engaqondakali. Futhi nxazonke uzama ukufihla ukwesaba kwabo kanye nomona ngaphansi kokuhleka usulu, okulimazayo kakhulu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi intombazane ifunde ukugxeka ukuhlaselwa okunjalo ekhelini lakhe, ukuze ifunde ukubona ukugxekwa hhayi njengesibambiso sokumisa owenze iphutha ekhaleni, kodwa njengesenzakalo sokuzindla.
Ukuvuthwa komphakathi nokukhululwa ekunakekeleni kwabazali.
Phakathi kwentsha efanayo njengoba yena ngokwakhe, ingane yakho ihamba kancane kancane kusukela ekukhumbuleni ukuziphatha komntwana kumuntu omdala, imodeli yokuzimela yokuzimela. Ufunda ukuthi nguye obangela izenzo zakhe futhi wenza izinqumo nemithwalo yemfanelo ngokucophelela. Into ejwayele ukuba ngumdlalo wemfanelo manje iba iqiniso lokuphila. Kancane kancane, uvela kubazali bakhe futhi uqala ukuphila ngokuzimela, ngengqondo yakhe.
Ukuvuthwa kwengqondo nokukhethwa kobuchwepheshe.
Kwesinye isikhathi esingaphansi komzuzu ophelele, ovame kakhulu ubuhlungu insizwa ithola ukuthi iziphathimandla azikwazi neze ukuba zingadingeki ukuba zilandele ngephutha. Ukuthi udinga ukuhlola konke abakushoyo "ebuqiniso", okuvame ukudingeka uzicabange wena.
Kancane kancane lo mfana udala umjikelezo ozinzile wezifiso njalo. Ngaye ukuqaphela umsebenzi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Ekuqaleni, lokhu ukuphonsa phakathi kwezinto ezihlukahlukene ezihlonishwayo futhi ezikhokhelwa kakhulu, kodwa uzothola eyakhe.
Futhi ekuphetheni - iyini inkathi yokuguquka? Lesi yisinye sezigaba ekubunjweni komuntu omusha. Enye yamuva kakhulu, lokhu kuyithola ingane yakho kanye nokuzethemba. Lokhu kungukuguqulwa kwabazali ezivela egunyeni elingenakuphika futhi cishe unkulunkulu abe umngane. Noma isitha. Konke kuxhomeke ekuzweleni kwakho. Inhlanhla.