Kusho ukuthini ukulungele esikoleni?
Abazali kufanele baqonde ukuthi ukulungela esikoleni akuyona inkomba yokuthuthukiswa kwengane yabo, kodwa, okokuqala, izinga elithile lokuvuthwa kwengqondo. Yebo, usakwazi kakade ukufunda, ukubhala nokuxazulula izinkinga, kodwa ungakulungeli esikoleni. Ukuze uthole ukuqonda okungcono, ake silungise inkulumo ethi "ukulungela isikole" "ukulungela ukufunda." Ngakho, ukulungela ukufunda kuqukethe izingxenye eziningana, futhi akunakwenzeka ukusho ukuthi yiyiphi ebaluleke kunazo zonke - kuyinkimbinkimbi ukuthi bazimisele ukulungela ngokwayo. Ochwepheshe bachaza lezi zakhi kanje:
• Ingane ifuna ukufunda (ukugqugquzela).
• Ingane ingafunda (ukuvuthwa komkhakha wemizwelo, ngokwanele yentuthuko).
Abazali abaningi bayabuza: "Ingane ingafuna ukufunda?" Esigabeni esithile sokuthuthukiswa, njengombuso, eneminyaka engu-7 ubudala, ingane inesisusa sokuqonda noma semfundo, isifiso sokuthatha isikhundla esisha emphakathini, ukuze ikhule ngokwedlulele. Uma ngalesi sikhathi engazange abe nomfanekiso omubi wesikole (ngenxa yabazali "abanakekelayo" abaphindaphinda iphutha lezinyane ngalinye kuze kube sekupheleni: "Uzofunda kanjani esikoleni?"), Bese efuna ukuya esikoleni. "Yebo, ufuna ngempela ukuya esikoleni," cishe bonke abazali bathi kule ngxoxo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi imibono yengane mayelana nesikole ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani efuna ukuya khona.
Iningi lezingane liphendula kanje:
• "Ngizodlala ekushintsheni" (isisusa siphezulu);
• "Ngizokuphatha abangane abaningi abasha" (kakade "sekufudumala", kepha kude kakhulu nokugqugquzelwa kwezemfundo);
• "Ngizofunda" (cishe "ngokusheshisa").
Uma ingane "ifuna ukufunda," isikole sidonsela ithuba lokufunda okuthile okusha, ukufunda ukwenza lokho angazi okwamanje. Ochwepheshe bahlangana ngokubonisana nezingane ezinjalo ngokuvamile abazi ukuthi bazokwenzani esikoleni. Lesi yisisusa esiyinhloko sokuba abazali bacabange ukuthi ngabe ingane isilungele esikoleni .
Kuyini ukuvuthwa komkhakha wemizwelo
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bangaqondi kuphela, kodwa baqonde ngokucacile ukuthi ukufunda akufanele kudlale, kodwa ukusebenza. Uthisha ochwepheshe kuphela ongakha imvelo yemidlalo lapho umntwana eyokhululeka futhi abe nesifiso sokufunda. Ezimweni eziningi, kuyisidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisa "ukufunwa" kwakho futhi wenze okulungile. Ukukhula kwesimo sokwemvelo-ngokomqondo kubonisa ukuba khona kwaleli khono, kanye nokukwazi kwengane ukugxila isikhathi eside.
Kulokhu kufanele wengezwe futhi ukulungela kwengane ukufunda imithetho ethile, wenze ngokuvumelana nemithetho futhi ulalele njengoba kudingeka. Umbuso wonke wesikole, ngokuyinhloko, imithetho eqhubekayo evame ukuhambisani nezifiso, futhi ngezinye izikhathi amathuba omntwana, kodwa ukugcwaliseka kwawo kuyisihluthulelo sokulungisa isimo.
Impumelelo yengane esikoleni ixhomeke kakhulu ezingeni le "intelligence" yakhe. Lokhu kubhekisela ekghweni lokuhamba ngokufanele ezimweni zomphakathi, ukuxhumana nabantu abadala nabangane bakho. Ngokwale parameter, babizwa ngokuthi "iqembu lezinhlekelele" izingane ezinamahloni, ezamahloni, ezamahloni. Ukuzivumelanisa okungenamkhawulo esikoleni kuxhunyaniswe ngokuqondile nokuzimela kwengane - lapha "eqenjini eliyingozi" cishe ngokuqinisekile liwela ezinganeni ezifundisiwe.
"Uhlakaniphile kakhulu nathi - uzobhekana nakho konke!"
Ngokuvamile abazali abangaphansi kwengqondo baqonda izinga elithile lwazi namakhono, okuye kwathathwa ngendlela eyodwa noma enye ingane. Ingqondo, okokuqala, ikhono lokusebenzisa ulwazi lwakho, amakhono namakhono, futhi ngokunembile nakakhulu - ikhono lokufunda. Ngempela, izingane ezifunda kahle zikholelwa ukuthi ebangeni lokuqala zibukeka ziphumelela kakhulu kunezontanga, kodwa "ukuqonda" okunjalo kungaba yinto engakhohlisi. Lapho "izinqolobane zasenkulisa" seziphelile, ingane engaphumelela ingase ibe yizigqila, ngoba ulwazi olungalindelekile olwenziwe luvimbele ukuba angasebenzi ngamandla futhi athuthukise amakhono akhe okufunda. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane ezingenayo imithwalo enjalo, kodwa ngubani osekulungele futhi angafunda kalula, abambe isithakazelo nentshiseko, futhi ngemva kwalokho afinyelele ontanga.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufundise ingane ukufunda ngokushelelayo, udinga ukunquma ukuthi ngabe ingane iyazi kanjani ukulalela nokutshela. Njengoba imihlangano yezengqondo zezokwelapha ezinokuqala kokuqala kubonisa, abaningi babo abazi ukuthi bangazicabangela kanjani, banolwazi oluthile futhi ngeke bakwazi ukuthola ngisho nombhalo omncane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lezingane zinenkinga emkhakheni wamakhono amakhono emoto, futhi empeleni iklasi lokuqala liyincwadi kanye nomthwalo omkhulu kakhulu ezandleni naseminwe.
Indlela yokusiza ingane yakho
• Yakha umfanekiso omuhle wesikole ("thola izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo lapho," "uzoba njengomuntu omdala," kanti futhi: "sizothenga iphothifoliyo enhle, ifomu" ...).
• Yethula ingane esikoleni. Ngomqondo onzima kakhulu wegama: mlethe lapho, bonisa igumbi, igumbi lokudlela, igym, igumbi lokungena.
• Ukujwayela ingane ngaphambi kobuso besikole (ukwenza umkhuba ehlobo ukuvuka ngesikhathi se-alamu, qiniseka ukuthi angakwazi ukugcwalisa umbhede ngokuzimela, agqoke, ugeze, uqoqe izinto ezidingekayo).
• Dlala naye esikoleni, njalo uguqule izindima. Mye abe umfundi, nawe - uthisha futhi ngokuphambene nalokho).
• Zama ukudlala yonke imidlalo ngokwemithetho. Zama ukufundisa ingane hhayi nje ukuwina (uyazi ukuthi ungayenza kanjani yona), kodwa futhi ukulahlekelwa (ukuphatha ngokwanele amaphutha akhe namaphutha).
• Ungakhohlwa ukufunda izindaba, izindaba, kufaka phakathi nesikole, kwengane, zivumele ukuba zibuyele, zibonisane, zicabange ukuthi ziyoba kanjani naye, yabelane ngezinkumbulo zakho.
• Ukunakekela ukuphumula kwakhe ehlobo kanye nempilo yekusasa kuqala. Ingane enamandla ngokomzimba kulula ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kwengqondo.
Isikole sisisiteji sokuphila, kepha ukuthi ingane yakho izokuma kanjani, kuncike ekutheni uzokwazi kanjani ukunqoba ngempumelelo. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala kubaluleke kakhulu ukunquma ukulungelelwa kwengane esikoleni futhi ukulungisa ukungaphumeleli okwamanje.