Uma abazali bengathí sina futhi banomthwalo wemfanelo ngokukhuliswa kwengane, ukuthuthukiswa kwengane kuyaphumelela kakhulu. Unyaka wesine wokuphila kwengane kubaluleke kakhulu ekuboneni kwengqondo. Uma ingane ivakashela esikoleni sasenkulisa, abazali kufanele balondoloze ukuxhumana okujulile nabafundisi nothisha ukuze bahlanganise ulwazi namakhono abantwana abatholayo lapho. Uma kuhlelwe ukuthi umntwana uzokhulelwa ekhaya, abazali kufanele balungiselele ngokucophelela, kuhlanganise nezincwadi ezidingekayo.
Ukubandakanyeka ekukhulisweni kwengane yonyaka wesine wokuphila, kubalulekile ukukhuthaza zonke izimpumelelo zakhe, hhayi ukugxeka nokugcina noma yikuphi iphutha. Isikhuthazo esihle somntwana siyoba ukumomotheka okujwayelekile, uthando nokuvuma. Uma ukhulisa ukuzethemba kwengane, khona-ke umntwana uzozama kabanzi, kuyadingeka kakhulu ukuba abe nomuzwa wokuthi uphumelele. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukudumisa ngokweqile kukhululeka, futhi ukuqina kunzima futhi kugxeke. Uma ingane ingakwazi ukufeza noma yikuphi isicelo noma ukufunwa, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi abe nomuzwa wokungabi nasizo nokungabi namandla, isimo sengqondo esibucayi kubazali bakhe.
Isilinganiso siyadingeka kukho konke, kuhlanganise nemfundo. Ngeke ukwazi ukulawula ngokuziphatha kwengane, ukuyala njalo nokuyilungisa, ukusikisela ukuthi kusukela ingane ingenakwenzeka ukuthi ifunde ukwenza izinqumo yedwa. Okuyingozi kakhulu emfundweni yokungabi nalutho: kunezikhathi lapho ingane ingekho ngaso sonke isikhathi esikhokhelwayo, futhi lapho ingane izwa khona iphutha elincane lingase lizwe okungenayo i-"tirade" emfundweni. Ukuchofoza noma ukuyala ithoni, ukukhwabanisa kubangela ingane ukuthi ibhikishe. Futhi nakuba esemncane, izingane ngokushesha futhi zikhohlwe kalula izikhalo, ukuhlukumeza le mfanelo akufanelekile. Into yokuqala abazali okufanele bayenze ukubukeza impilo nendlela yokuphila emndenini, imikhuba nobuhlobo phakathi kwamalungu ayo.
Umdlalo wezingane ungumsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu. Abantu abadala kudingeka baqonde ukuthi emidlalweni yezingane kunezici zezinhlelo zokusebenza zesikhathi esizayo, ngakho-ke abazali kufanele bathunyelwe futhi bahlanganyele kuzo.
Kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu, ingane inamathoyizi okwanele nemiphakathi yabantu abadala, kodwa emva kweminyaka emine akwanele. Ingane iqala ukufuna ukuxhumana nezinye izingane. Njengomthetho, izingane zivame ukuxhumana nezingane ezindala kunabo futhi uma zingabamukeli, ziyakhathazeka. Ba nomuzwa wokuthi kakade bayazi okuningi futhi bafuna ukuyikhombisa ngempela. Ngakho-ke, ukuxhumana nabantwana beminyaka yabo kuyadingeka kakhulu. Uma kukhona ingane engaphezu kweyodwa emndenini, ke lesi sifiso sinelisekile ngezinga elithile. Noma kunjalo, ungagcini ukuxhumana kwengane kuphela ngamalungu omndeni. Ukuze uthuthuke ngokujwayelekile, ingane idinga abangane bangabangane - yiyo leyo ingane engakwazi ukuzizwa ngayo ngokulingana okulinganayo. Uma ukhuluma nezinye izingane, ingane izokwazi ukufunda ukuvikela umbono wakhe, kanye nokucabanga ngemibono yabanye. Kule minyaka yobudala obunamathiselweyo buqala ukuvela, okuyizinga elithile eliyinkinga yobungane.
Ezinganeni ezinjalo, ukucabanga kuyinkimbinkimbi. Ingane ifunda kangcono lokho akubona ngokucacile, uzama ukufunda konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, unesithakazelo ezenzweni zabantu abadala abazama ukufihla. Izingane azikhumbuli konke, kodwa yilokho okwakumjabulisa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, zonke izingane zizama ukulingisa abantu abadala, okuyinto kwezinye izimo eziyingozi kakhulu, ngoba izingane azikaze zenze imiqondo ethi "okuhle" futhi "kubi." Izingane zivame ukulingisa lokho abantu abadala abakwenqabela ngenkuthalo izingane ukuba ziyenze, kodwa zona ngokwazo zivuma ukukwenza. Ngakho-ke, phambi kwezingane, umuntu kufanele aziphathe ngokucophelela ngaphandle kokuthatha izenzo nezenzo ezingesilo isibonelo esihle sokulingisa.
Ngokwenza okuthile, ingane engama-3-4 iminyaka ayizami ukwenza okuthile kahle noma yenza okuthile, ngoba kuyadingeka, yenza lokho ngoba inesithakazelo futhi ifuna. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukufundisa izingane mayelana nendlela yokusebenza ezimweni ezithile, ukuthi yini eningayenza nalokho okungeke kwenziwe: hhayi ukuthatha amathoyizi, kodwa ukwabelana nabo, ukuxhumanisa izifiso zabo nezifiso zabanye abantwana, njll.