Ukuhlukaniswa kuyinkinga ebuhlungu bonke abahlanganyeli, kokubili izingane kanye nabazali. Kule nkathi ematasa, ingane ihlushwa ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo.
Abazali kufanele baqonde ukuthi basabantu ababaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwezingane zabo kanye nehlukaniso akufanele kube nomthelela omkhulu ekukhulumisaneni nengane.
Imizwa yezingane nehlukaniso
Kuzo zonke izingane, izinkinga zomzwelo zanda uma zingalahleki nomunye wabazali.
Uma isehlukaniso singenakugwenywa, abazali kufanele bacabangele izithakazelo zomntwana, ukuze isimo sakhe sizinzile futhi silinganise.
Ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa kwabantu abadala emva kwehlukaniso kuzosiza izingane ukuba zithwale le mpikiswano eyinkimbinkimbi kalula.
Ukusiza ingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso
Ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, abashadile abashadile bavame ukukhulumisana.
Kodwa uma kuziwa kwengane, kumele basebenze ndawonye ukuqinisekisa izithakazelo zomntwana futhi bamnakekele. Abantu abadala akufanele baqambe amanga futhi bafihle ubuhlobo beqiniso babazali bakhe. Ukuthembeka kuyisiqinisekiso sokuhlonipha nokuthembana phakathi kwabantu. Ungatholi ubuhlobo futhi ungafungi ingane.
Lungiselela ingane yakho ngokushintshwa okuzokwenzeka empilweni ngemva kokuhlukana kwabazali. Qinisekisa ingane ukuthi isehlukaniso ayingekho ngenxa yephutha lakhe.
Khuluma nengane. Msize aqonde isizathu sokuhlukanisa. Mkholise ukuthi ubuhlobo nomama nobaba ekuphileni kwabo esikhathini esizayo ngeke kuguquke.
Ukuthola usizo lochwepheshe
Ngenkathi ezinye izingane zibhekana nokucindezeleka ngemva kokuhlukanisa ngosizo lomndeni nabangane, abanye bangathatha usizo lomeluleki oqeqeshiwe onokuhlangenwe nakho esebenza nezingane ezivela emindeni ephukile. Ezinye izikole zinikeza amaqembu asekela izingane ezinjalo, ezisiza ukuxoxa ngesimo esiye savela. Abazali bangathintana nomeluleki ukuthola ukuthi yiluphi usizo olutholakala. Okokuqala, abazali kufanele baqhubeke besebenza ngendlela ehambelana nengane futhi balungiselele ukuthi izimpawu zokucindezeleka ezinganeni zingabangela isahlukaniso.
Ukuxhumana emva kwesahlukaniso
Amama kufanele avumele izingane zabo ukuba zikhulume noyise emva kokuhlukanisa. Uma izingane zifuna ukuxhumana nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, akufanele uphazamise. Phela, abazali bahlala bebazali, naphezu kokuthi banenkinga phakathi kwabo. Isizathu sokuhlukanisa abazali kuphela, kodwa hhayi izingane. Izingane kufanele zibone uyise, zihambe naye, zihlanganyele izinkinga zabo kanye nempumelelo yabo.
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, izingane ezincane ziyakwazi ukubekezelela ukuhlukana kwabazali kunezingane ezisencane, ngakho-ke zama ukuzinikela kakhulu kwengane futhi unikeze isikhathi sakho sonke samahhala. Lokhu kuzosiza ukunqoba isimo esicindezelayo esikhathini esifushane. Amama (kusukela ezimweni eziningi izingane zihlala naye), udinga ukukhuluma okuningi nezingane, uthande isithakazelo empilweni yabo esikoleni nasemva kokufunda esikoleni. Ingane izozizwa iyadingeka futhi ithandwa, ukuthi esikhathini sokuhlukanisa kuyadingeka kuye. Thola amagama afanele ukuze umdumise, ujabule naye kanye nempumelelo yakhe. Ungaphuthelwa isikhathi sokumanga nokukhathazeka indodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho. Ukubasekela kulezi zimo ezinzima zokuphila kuyisabelo sakho esingcwele.
Ukuxhumana nengane emva kokuhlukanisa kufanele kwenzeke bobabili abazali. Naphezu kokuhlambalaza, umuntu akufanele angenqabe ingane, ubone uyise. Ungalokothi umtshele ngokungathembeki komama wakho uma efuna ukubona uyise. Ingane iyakuthanda futhi izohlala ithanda abazali bobabili, naphezu kwesimo samanje.
Imibhangqwana eshadile ehlukanisile iphoqelekile ukuba ivumelane ngendlela enokuthula mayelana nokuthi imihlangano nezingane izokwenzeka kanjani.
Izingane azikwazi ukuhlukaniswa njengendawo yokuhlala. Phela, abantu abancane badinga ukunakwa, uthando nokusekelwa kwabantu abadala. Imibuzo yokukhulumisana nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso ihlale ixazululwe ngamunye. Isixazululo salezi zimo akufanele sihlotshaniswe nezifiso zomuntu siqu kanye nokuzethemba. Cabanga ngezintshisekelo zezingane ezidinga ukuxhumana nezihlobo zabo, ngisho noma ngabe nibazihambi komunye nomunye.
Uma umfazi noma umyeni enganikezeli ithuba lokuxhumana nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, isinqumo esifanele kuphela singathathwa enkantolo.
Funda futhi: ukuthi ungayifaka kanjani isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane