Abantu abaningi bafuna ukuhlukahluka embhedeni kanye nobusuku obuhle obucela umlingani wakho ukuba akubethe ngobumnene, futhi ngosuku olulandelayo uhambe, "vuthela izindebe zakho", ecasukele ukuthi othandekayo wakho wayexosha izandla zakhe. Ukuze yonke into ihambe ngokushelela kusukela okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yikuphi ubulili obunzima obukhethekile kakhulu, udinga ukutadisha okuhlangenwe nakho kwezizukulwane zangaphambilini, bese ubheka!
Ngenze ngibuhlungu ...
AmaMasochism, sadism .... Abaningi bethu banesimo sengqondo esibi ngala mazwi, ngaphezu kwalokho, babangela izinhlangano ezingathandeki. I-sadist ngumuntu onokubonakala okubonakalayo, ohleka usana ezinganeni, futhi i-masochist yinto ebuthakathaka efuna ukubuthaka.
Kodwa-ke, empeleni, i-masochist into ebanzi kunaleyo wonke umuntu asetshenziselwa ukucabanga. Khumbula ukuthi uhlela kanjani ukuthi ulayishe izinsuku. Kwenzeke yini ukuthi izisebenzi zikubiza ngokuthi i-eyeschist uma ubona ukuthi ukudla kwasemini nokudla udla umuntu oyedwa kuphela? Abazali baphinde bathuthukisa amakhanda abo futhi bakubiza ngokuthi i-sadist. Ngokuqinisekile une-boss eqinile, ngaphandle kokuthi, awukho umsebenzi wamahhala, kodwa ekhaya wena ngokwakho ujezisa indodakazi ngendlela engathandeki. Zonke izimpilo zethu sidlala okuthile okuncane, ngakho-ke, akumangalisi ukuthi ubudlelwane obanjengoba "nkosikazi" bufikile ezindlini zethu zokulala.
Iyini i-BDSM?
I-BDSM ubuhlobo obungathiwa ngumdlalo odlala indima ehambisana nendawo yamandla. Abantu bangasho okulungile, kodwa empeleni akusona umdlalo wobulili ngendlela ehlanzekile. Imibhangqwana eminingi ithi lokhu kuyindlela yokuphila. Uma ubheka i-BDSM kusukela ekubukeni komphakathi, khona-ke singasho ukuthi lokhu kuyisiko noma i-subculture.
Uyini umehluko emkhatsini wamageyimu okudlala indima yamandla kanye ne-BDSM ezifweni eziyingozi zokuziphatha, ngoba bobabili abalingani bakhululekile ukwenza lokhu, futhi ubuhlobo obunjalo busekelwe kumthandi wokudlulisela amandla ngokwakho? Into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyona ukuphoqelela umuntu ukuba enze lokho angafuni noma lokho angaqiniseki ngakho. Abantu abaningi abacabanga ngodlame besaba ukukhombisa imizwelo yabo. Emva kwakho konke, uma uqaphela ukuthi awufani nabo bonke abanye, ungathola isifo sengqondo, ukucindezeleka nokuningi okuningi.
Ngenxa yocwaningo, kwavela ukuthi abantu abathanda ubuhlobo obunjalo ebuntwaneni babhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo nangokwenyama. Yiqiniso, uma uhamba ngezikhathi ezimbalwa kumculi wezengqondo, ungakwazi ukuqeda amafantasti anganiki ukukhathazeka. Kuze kube yamuva, kwaziwa ukuthi i-BDSM ibhekwa njengokuphambuka kwezingalo futhi yanconywa ukuba ilashwe, kokubili ngokwezempilo nasemasimweni akhethekile akhethekile.
Lokhu kwakungenxa yokuthi umphakathi uqinisekile - konke ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili kufanele kulungiswe ngokushesha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imibhangqwana ethanda i-BDSM ihle kakhulu kwezinye iziphambeko, ngakho-ke umphakathi we "izigqila namakhosi" ugcwaliswe ngabanye abantu abanemibono engapheli - ama-transvestites, amantombazane nokunye okunye.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungesabi ukubonakaliswa kobulili bakho, ungesabi ukwenza izivivinyo. Kunomthetho onjalo, obizwa ngokuthi uMthetho we-Angle, uthi-noma yikuphi ukucabanga okuhambileyo, awuwedwa. Kunoma yikuphi, kuzodingeka kube nomuntu oyedwa emhlabeni othanda okufanayo.
Abantu abangaba ngu-30%, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bathandwa yini ngokocansi nobulili, sebenzisa ezinye izakhi ze-BDSM. Futhi abathakathi abaphatha ubudlova bobulili bavakashelwe cishe wonke umuntu!
Isichazamazwi sisho ukuthini?
Isichazamazwi sithi iBDSM imele lokhu: Isibambiso ngumkhawulo wenkululeko, Isiyalo siyimfundo, iSadism iwukubusa futhi iMasochism isinganiselwe. Ngokuvamile, izimiso ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuzithandela, ukuhlakanipha nokuphepha.
Umshini ngumuntu ojabulela injabulo efanayo ekulaleleni nasekuthomeni.
Konke kucatshangwa ngaphandle
Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi ubulili obukhuni akuyona into ehlukumezayo, kubalulekile ukwabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho, isibonelo, ngeke neze uqale ukusebenzisa isifubhe kumlingani wakho, ngenxa yokuthi uyenziwe kabi, njengoba kwenziwa ku-ifilimu noma ufunde encwadini. Umuntu olawulayo kumele abhekane nesipiliyoni esibuhlungu ngaphambi kokuba afake isicelo kulabo abangaphansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bonke abashadile abafuna ukuhlukahluka futhi banquma ukuhlola okunjalo kufanele bacabangele isimo.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Lezi zenzo ezilotshwe ephepheni, lapho bobabili bazovuma khona, futhi kufanele ubhale phansi izenzo kanye nezimfanelo ozodinga. Ngokuvamile, udinga ukuchaza yonke imininingwane emincane kakhulu.
Uma ubeka ndawonye iskripthi, ngezinye izikhathi akucaci ukuthi ngubani oyisikhulu nokuthi ngubani oyisigqila. Ngokuvamile ezimweni ezinjalo, izikhulu ziyizinto zokudlala zamakhoboka ezinamandla. Ngisho nalapho uxoxa ngeskripthi, uzojabula kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi akudingekile ukuba ungene kulo lonke imibono vaspossetili!
Iya esitolo kubantu abadala!
Isigqoko. Kuzo zonke izindlu kukhona le mfanelo, kodwa akuzona zonke izibopho ezifanele ukubetha. Akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa amabhande anamandla namabhande ngenhlabathi yokukhulula - ngakho ungazilimaza wena noma umlingani wakho. Ubuhlungu bungabangelwa nokubopha, nakuba kubonakala kubulula.
Izikhwama. Isimiso esibaluleke kunazo zonke se-BDSM yisivimbelo futhi sibopha inkululeko. Amakhosi angamaqhinga awasebenzise kuphela amakhokhethi anezikhwama eziluhlaza nezilika, kunezintambo ezikhethekile, izindlela ezikhethekile zokuhlanganisa, imishini e-X yokubethelwa. Yebo, akubonwa kuphela kumafilimu, mhlawumbe umsebenzi wakho, obonakala sengathi ungumfana othobekile, kodwa ebusuku uvuka kanje ...
Induku. Kuhle kakhulu ngamathuluzi asebenzayo, ikakhulukazi uma unquma ukukwenza emvelweni. Kodwa-ke, umuntu kufanele aqaphele, induku ngaphansi kwezingxabano eziphakathi zikhukhula isikhumba.
Umshini. Ithuluzi eliqinile nelincane. Ukubhalwa kungase kube ne-slap ekugcineni futhi ngaphandle kwayo.
Uthando nobudlova
Egumbini lakho lokulala kwakungeke kube mnandi futhi kuphuze, futhi ubuhlobo bulahlekelwa uthando lwayo oludlule? Engeza pepper! Ukwenza ubulili buhluke kakhulu, awudingi ukusebenzisa amaqebelengwane. I-BDSM yilokho okudingayo.
Uma uthatha isikhala sesilika, sibopha emehlweni endoda yakho ethandekayo noma isoka, futhi uzenze ngokwakho, khona-ke uzobe enjengomkhawulo onjalo wenkululeko. Umlingani ngeke nje akubone uhamba-ze (okwamanje, isibalo sihle, kodwa angeke silimale ukulahlekelwa ama-kilogram ayizinkulungwane), kodwa ungase uzizwe ukhululekile, ukhohlwa ngokuphelele ukuthi awubukeki futhi uzinikele enkambisweni.
Uma uvala isici somqondo owodwa, khona-ke uba yisikhulu. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukubopha isikebhe eduze kwamehlo akho, kodwa kuncane kakhulu, zama ukuhambisa ihekhi ezithende zakho. Kodwa hhayi ukuba acele isihe, kodwa ukuba aphuphe ngokumanga kwakho.
Uma uxhuma izandla zomlingani, ungabonisa konke ongakwenza. Yebo, uma ubopha, okufanayo kungcono: ulale futhi ujabule.
Ukugcwele - yilokho okudingayo ukwenza uthando. Vala ukuzwa kwakho bese uvule ukuthinta.
Ku-BDSM, ubulili akuyona nje indlela yokuhlazisa nokujezisa, kodwa nokukhuthaza. Dlala nomthandi wakho ngesifiso sokuthanda, khona-ke uzothola ithuba lokuzama i-pose, eyake iphupha isikhathi eside.
Khumbula ukuthi i-aphrodisiac engcono kakhulu ingaphansi kwezingubo zangaphansi ezenziwe nge-latex ebomvu noma emnyama.
Izazi ze-Psychologists zithi:
- Amaphesenti angama-75 emandla e-psychic angamandla ezocansi. Lokhu kuyinzuzo ecebile okufanele isetshenziswe.
- Abantu abazalwa benesifiso se-BDSM bambalwa kakhulu, okungu-2% kuphela abesifazane, namadoda - ama-5%. Manje i-BDSM ithandwa ngabantu abaningi. Futhi ihlelwe phansi ebuntwaneni, lapho ubaba oqhamukayo nomama oqinile emkhayeni noma lapho udlame lusetshenziselwa ingane. Ngakho-ke, umuntu uqala ukubheka enye ingxenye, engamsiza ukuba aqaphele ukucabanga kwakhe kobudlova.
Kunesinye isizathu sokuphutha okunjalo: kuyisifiso sababelethi sokukhulisa ingane ngokuphelela, kepha izingane azikwazi ukuhlala zikhona zonke izinto ezifanele, ngakho-ke amandla ezocansi avela, aqondiswa lapho kufanele khona. Umuntu ngokwakhe akasoze abhekane nalokhu, lapha udinga usizo lomqondo wezengqondo.
I-BDSM-propensity ye-congenital yilapho umuntu engakwazi ukuthola ukwaneliseka ngokocansi kuphela ngosizo lobuhlungu.