Amadoda yizidalwa ezingavamile! Awukwazi ukuthola amasokisi awo amahora, kodwa aqondiswe kahle emgodini wezingxenye ezizenzekelayo, alahliwe egaraji. Bakhohlwa mayelana nosuku lwethu lokuzalwa, kodwa khumbula ukubalwa kwenombolo kuzo zonke iziqephu ze "Star Wars". Imikhuba engavamile yendoda isho ukuthini abesifazane abacasula? Indlela yokubhekana nabo? Futhi kuwufanele yini?
Ukuthukuthela kuyakhula
Uma uqala ukuthandana nomuntu, awuboni imikhuba yakhe, noma uyabathola ehlekisa. Kuthiwani ngeqiniso lokuthi uqoqa izingxenye zokuphumula ezithintekayo emotweni uma kwenzeka ukuphazamiseka, futhi ukubuka indlela ahamba ngayo eshaweni ngokuvamile kumnandi. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isimo sengqondo "sobunye" esifanayo sishintsha kakhulu. Ikakhulukazi uma njalo lapho uqala izibopho ze-suede mayelana nenqwaba yezinto ezisegumbini lomshini. Ngemva kokungena ekugeza, ngemuva kokuba umlingani ehlwitha, ngokungazelelwe angena emgodini futhi ngokumangalisayo uthola ukuthi izindonga, ilingeni, amakhetheni, isibuko, amashalofu kanye nesembatho zokugqoka nazo zihlanjululwa ngamanzi, futhi lapha futhi lapho kutholakala iphunga lokugeza. "Nkulunkulu, yeka ukungena!" - Cabanga noma ubabaze futhi uqale ukubhaka umlingani ngoba yena ... wazigeza. Yileyo ndlela azokuchaza ngayo ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho. Qonda, uhlale egeza, futhi unelisekile ngomphumela - umzimba wakhe ohlanzekile, futhi manje awusayinanga imiphumela efanayo futhi "unamathele" kulolu hlelo. Amadoda afana ne-semantic aphuma eceleni athiwa yilogi elingenakuqondakala, elingenakulandelwa, futhi liziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Esikhathini esilandelayo uma ubuyela emuva kuye ngenxa "yezikhukhula endlini yokugezela", ngokuphindaphindiwe, futhi uyayeka ukugeza. Noma uhamba nabangani ku-bathhouse bese ebuyela ekuseni kuphela. Noma uqoqa izinto zakhe bese ehamba nonina, umngane, omunye wesifazane. Isizathu isizathu sakho sokuxabana okubi kakhulu nokungahambisani okungokwemvelo nokuhlanzeka kwayo.
Isimo sengqondo siyatholakala
Iqiniso liwukuthi imikhuba ecasula abesifazane ayifuni futhi hhayi isenzo esithile esinonya sokungalaleli. Njengoba izazi ze-psychologists zithi, lokhu kuyindlela ebonakalayo yokuziphatha yezindlela zokuziphatha, ukugcwaliseka kwesimo esithile kuzuza amandla. Eqinisweni, umkhuba omdala usuvele uyingxenye yomlingisi, futhi kunzima kakhulu ukuwukhipha ngenhloso yakho noma kusukela eqenjini lakho ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kunzima futhi ukuyeka ukubhema, futhi ufunde ukuthi udinga ukumboza i-cap ku-tube ye-toothpaste, faka isembozo embizeni nge-shampoo ngemva kokuyisebenzisa. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu kufanele abe nokuthanda kanye nesifiso esitshengisiwe sokushintsha.
Kodwa umlingani wakho uyoba nesidingo esinjalo noma cha, ngezindlela eziningi kuxhomeke kuwe. Ake sithi unomkhuba wokuphonsa izinto zakhe. Ngokuphindaphindiwe wamenza ngamazwi acacile, wabuza ukubeka izinto ezindaweni zabo futhi, ngokububula okubalulekile, bona ngokwabo bahlela izinto, kodwa konke akusizi ngalutho.
Ihla lokugcina
Yiqiniso, ukubekezela kwakho kufanele kube nemingcele. Uma ethanda ukuthatha ucezu lokugcina kusuka epulatifeni esiqandisini, ushiye kungenalutho lapho, chofoza ku-console ye-TV amahora amabili, ugijimela kusuka esiteshini uye esiteshini, bese usakaza ukuthi "kukhona i-mura eyodwa ku-TV," futhi ulala phansi, ehlwitha kuphela amakhaza, Lokhu kungahlanganiswa futhi kuhambisane nezinye izichibiyelo. Futhi okunye okunye, uma imikhuba yomthandi isondelene nokungabi namthetho: uyagubha umlotha esivumelwaneni sakho ozithandayo, uphonsa, ubulili, ulele ezicathulweni zakhe embhedeni futhi ugijima njalo inja yakho. Ezimweni ezinjalo, awudingi ukuthembela kwisipho sakho esingavamile sokufundisa - akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukufundisa kabusha le dork. Futhi ungalindeli ukuthi uzozilungisa ngokwakhe, ngoba okungenani akanayo, isikhuthazo esikhulu - uthando nokuhlonipha ngawe.
Ngitshele ngemikhuba yakhe, futhi ngizokutshela ukuthi ungubani
Empeleni, ngemikhuba nezenzo zomlingani wakho, akumelwe nje ulwa noma ubekezelele. Kudingeka ziqaphele, mhlawumbe ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi zithole iziphetho. Phela, imikhuba ijwayele ukubonisa ukuthi umlingani wakho uhle kakhulu kunamagama akhe ngisho nezenzo. Yebo, isibonelo ...
• Kudla, njengokungathi okokuqala empilweni yakhe. Ngokushesha usondeza noma yikuphi ukudla okuhlongozwayo, kudla ukudla, cishe ngaphandle kokuhlafuna.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Umuntu onjalo uyakwazi ukucabanga ngezigaba ezijwayelekile, hhayi ukushintshanisa imininingwane futhi angahlukanisi ama-nuances. Ubulili bakho buzohlala bujwayelekile, kodwa hhayi ubulili; izinto zihle, kodwa hhayi imfashini; ukudla kunomsoco, kodwa kungabi kuhle; Ubuhlobo buzinzile, kodwa abuhle. Ngelinye igama, uhlobo olunokwethenjelwa, kodwa oluthandekayo, olunikezelwe emndenini nawe. Noma kunjalo, mhlawumbe unenkinga ye-ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
• Ungalokothi ubophe izigubhu kuze kube sekupheleni, ungavali iminyango noma izikhumba ezimbizeni nge-shampoo noma ukhilimu.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Kukholelwa ukuthi abantu abahlala bephuma emanzini empompini, amandla awahambanga ndawo. Amadoda anjalo axabana kakhulu, kodwa angenzi lutho; ukukhulelwa amaphrojekthi amaningi wezimali futhi uhlale ushisa. Bavame ukuthembisa okuthile njalo, kodwa ungenzi. Bahlala behlela okuthile, kodwa izinhlelo zabo ngeke zigcwaliseke. La madoda afana namabhola ensipho. Imibono ivela njengokungathi ivela ndawo futhi iqhume ngokushesha, ingashiyi lutho.
• Ngaphandle kokucabanga, kuthatha futhi idle ikhekhe lokugcina, i-candy ebhokisini, i-cutlet esuka epanini lokuthosa ...
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Uziqhenya, uncane, futhi ungalokothi uzame ukuzenza sengathi uyakukhathalela. Into kuphela ekhathalela ngaye yinduduzo yakhe futhi elula. Futhi ungakuhloniphi izinkolelo zokuthi uzomfundisa ngomusa nangokulunga. Ujwayele ukusebenzisa ukuzithoba kwabanye futhi uzothatha kuwe noma iziphi izibusiso nemihlatshelo, unganikeli lutho. Musa ukuchitha isikhathi sakho nemizwa kuye - ngeke akujabule.
• Akulahli lutho. Yonke into ifakwa emaphoyiseni namabhokisi, iqhuma emakhoneni - ngokuzumayo ifika kahle! Ngisho nokushisa isibani sokukhanyisa - kuzodingeka uma kufanele ulungise le sock. Nakho konke lokhu, masinyane ukhohlwa masinyane ngomcebo wakhe futhi kamuva ugxeke yonke intaba yotshwala.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? I-Zhmot, njalo ifuna indawo yokuthenga okungenani ama-ruble angabizi, noma ulinde umkhiqizo ukuba wehle ngentengo. "Ukuchitha" ngokomzwelo futhi akuthandi ukuqashelwa kothando nokunconywa kwamaningi amaningi awukwazi ukuzwa kuye. Akazizwa sengathi unomusa wesikhathi samanje, ukuhlehliswa kwempilo okwesikhashana: "kusasa kuyothathwa", "ekuseni kuhlakaniphile kunokuba kusihlwa", "ngaphambi kokuba lo muntu aqhubeke ephila."
• Awubekezeli ukudideka nokusikisela okuncane kakhulu kwezingxabano. Ulungisa njalo amathawula ekhishini ukuze axhomeke ngokulinganisa, agxilise, agqoke izingubo zabo ngokucophelela.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Uyisimo esibi kakhulu futhi sihlanzekile kukho konke. Ngokuqinisekile edayari yakhe konke kubhalwe ukuthi kufanele akwenze unyaka ozayo, kuhlanganise nenani lezenzo zocansi. Ngenkathi konke kuhamba ngokuvumelana necebo lakhe - uyajabula, kodwa uma kwenzeka okuthile okungalindelekile, uyangena ekucindezelekeni. Ukuhlala nomuntu onjalo kungenakubekezelelwa futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuyesabisa.
• Ukuchofoza unomphela izinkinobho ezikude ukusuka ku-TV.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Njengoba besho, futhi baphile ngokushesha, futhi uzizwe ngokushesha. Noma kunjalo, umuntu onjalo ukhululeka kakhulu. Unamandla, asebenzayo, uthatha indawo esebenzayo ekuphileni. Kodwa-ke, akazi ukuthi angagxila kanjani ezintweni ezinde isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke, njengombuso, usebenza emsebenzini wokudala. I-inclined to neuroses and depressions.
• Uthanda ukufunda amanoveli ezinhlobonhlobo zefantasy nokudlala imidlalo yekhompyutha.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Kungenzeka ukuthi uyaphupha futhi uyathandana eshaweni. Mhlawumbe akagculiswanga nendlela yakhe yokuphila kanye nendawo yakhe yokusebenza manje, kodwa uzilahlile futhi ukhetha ukushiya izinkinga, ukuchitha kwezinye izinto. Uhlobo oluhle. Iyenzeka ngokulinganisela kwinkimbinkimbi.
• Uhlala njalo ukubona ikamelo lonke. Uma othile ethatha indawo enjalo, udinga noma umcele ukuthi angene kuye. Ukhathazekile uma kufanele uhlale nomhlane wakho emnyango.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Umlingani wakho unembile ebizwa ngokuthi i-genetic memory. Ngezikhathi ezibucayi, amadoda ahlale ebhekene nokungena emhumeni, alungele nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ukuphinda ahlaselwe isitha futhi avikele ikhaya lawo. Lezi zingaba izimpisi ezafika kumnandi wenyama, noma indoda enamandla eyayithemba ukumbulala futhi ithatha owesifazane wayo nomhume. Umlingani wakhe waqamba ngokuqinile isifo sezakhi zofuzo, ngokuvamile ehola kakhulu, ukusekelwa okuthembekile kubo bonke abathandekayo bakhe, i-knight ngokuphathelene nomkakhe kanye negunya eliphelele emehlweni abantwana. Ngisho nangemva kokuhlukanisana nawe, uzobe esilungele ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi akusize impilo yakho yonke.
• Ukuzibambela njalo, ebuka esibukweni, ezenzeke.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Ngaphambi kwe-narcissus ye-narcissism, uhlala kuphela ngezintshisekelo zayo futhi udinga ukukhulekelwa. Akakugezi ngezincomo, kodwa wenza. Futhi akafiki kuwe, futhi uyamlandela. Futhi ngisho nangosuku aphuzile, hhayi wena. Embhedeni, uphinde ubheke ngaphezulu, kodwa akanandaba nokuthi ungakujabulisa kanjani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzolindela kuwe ukuqinisekiswa okungapheli nokuqinisekiswa ukuthi ungcono kunabo bonke abawake bakhona, futhi kuzo zonke izinzwa.
• Ungaphambuki emithethweni yakhe nge-millimeter.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Unenkinga yokudlula. Akakulungele ukuyekethisa, okungenasimo esingenangqondo kanye nokuguquguquka. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphikisana naye, ngeke ushintshe ingqondo yakho futhi ngeke umkhombise ukuthi aphule umyalelo owawusungulwe ngaphambilini, akufanelekile ukuzama. Uze alandele ngisho nemithetho ngisho nangombhede. Futhi uma unesifiso socansi ngoLwesihlanu futhi uvame ukwanelisa ngoMgqibelo, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi namuhla uzophula noma yini.
Kodwa-ke, ubufakazi obubalulekile bemikhuba yamadoda, ecasula abesifazane - lezi yizici zokufundisa okhethiweyo. Ngakho-ke, angeke ahlulelwe yena kuphela, kodwa futhi ngomndeni wakhe kanye nemvelo lapho akhula khona futhi ehlala ngaphambi kokuhlangana nawe.