Kodwa izinsuku, amasonto, izinyanga zidlulile, kodwa azikho. Futhi ukusho ukuthi "akusilo ikusasa" kubonakala, uyaqaphela ukuthi akakaze aphuthelwe ithuba lokuphumula empilweni yansuku zonke bese ephonsa ezinsukwini ezigcwele imizwelo. Yini eyamyeka? Ukwesaba ukushiswa? Ukwesaba ukungalungi? Kodwa kuphela labo abangenzi lutho abawenzi amaphutha! Futhi konke ukwesaba abesifazane kukhona nje ama-echoes ezinkimbinkimbi zakhe. Izinkimbinkimbi eziningi zivela ebuntwaneni, lapho amantombazane akhulela ngomoya wokuthobeka nokulalela. Okulandela ukuthi, intombazane kumele ilinde ngokucophelela, lapho umfana ngokwakhe ebonisa ukuthi uyamnaka. Imikhuba ngesikhathi sabo, futhi, yayitshela ukungabi namandla kwabesifazane endabeni yokukhetha owakhethiweyo. Lokhu kuye kwaba nezihlobo, noma yena ngokwakhe, futhi kwakudingeka avumele ukuthi bakhethe. Kodwa egcekeni lesikhulu leminyaka lesithathu, abesifazane bangakhetha amadoda abo. Futhi uma kutholakala kubo, kufanele balwe namadoda!
Kukhona amadoda anethemba ukuthi lesi sinyathelo njalo futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi sihlala singabantu. Bashukukuthelelwa abesifazane abanesibindi abangesabi ukuthatha isinyathelo. Uma, isibonelo, owesifazane uvame ukuvela emkhakheni wokubukeka komuntu, konke ukuhlangana okungajwayelekile kubhekwa njengenhloso, noma yiziphi izicelo ezifakiwe. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abafana, kukhona labo abamukela isinyathelo sabesifazane. Bangase bakhululeke ngisho noma besaba ukulahlwa. Amanye amadoda ayesaba ukubonisa ukungacabangi futhi athi bayakuthanda uma owesifazane ethatha isinyathelo sokuqala.
Abanye bathatha indawo yokungathathi hlangothi, bakholelwa ukuthi konke kuncike esimweni, futhi akunandaba ukuthi ubani othathe isinyathelo sokuqala ukuhlangana.
Owesifazane angathatha isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakhe, kodwa ngendlela yokuthi le ndoda ikholelwa ukuthi ingumnikazi wayo. Njengoba amadoda amaningi esaba abesifazane besifazane abakhuthele, besaba ukulahlekelwa ubuso babo besilisa, kubalulekile ukuthi benze ngokucophelela, bangakhohlwa isithombe sobulili obuqinile.
Kubonakala ukuthi okubili kokuthathu kwabangane baqala ngabesifazane, nakuba umuntu engazi ngisho nalokho. Isibonelo, emcimbini, owesifazane wenza indoda ikhuphuke futhi ikhulume nayo isebenzisa "izimpawu zokukhohlisa ezingekho amazwi." Angakwazi ukumamatheka ngokubanzi, amphonsa ukubukeka okusheshayo kodwa okunembile, ukudansa kumculo wedwa, embheke ukuba ayenze izinwele zakhe noma azibeke ngokunye nokunye okuningi.
Indlela yokuthola amadoda ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala sokuphola isivele iqondakala kangako. Owesifazane ubonisa indoda ngesithakazelo sakhe kuye, futhi naye uqala ukuthatha isinyathelo. Futhi ungamcindezela yini umuntu ukuba enze isinqumo ngomshado? Emva kwakho konke, ukuhlala ndawonye njengabantu abangahlali emphakathini, amadoda amaningi azibheka njengama-bachelors, kuyilapho abesifazane bebheka njengabashadile. Ziziphatha ngendlela efanele. Kuvele nje ukuthi amadoda angafuni ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, futhi abavumeli ukwenza izinqumo ngokwabo noma. Kulokhu, umsebenzi wesifazane ohlakaniphile - ukuholela umuntu esinqumweni somshado, futhi wacabanga ukuthi isinqumo sokushada naye.
Ungamcindezeli njengeqabunga lokugeza, kodwa kunalokho umnike inkululeko eyanele. Ukuthi wayenethuba lokuchitha isikhathi nabangani, azibandakanye ezithakazelweni zakhe. Akufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi ngemisindo yokuhamba kukaMendelssohn inkululeko yakhe izophela, futhi uzowela ebugqilini obungunaphakade. Akudingekile ukugijimela izenzakalo futhi ikakhulukazi ukumtshela - "ungashadi, ngizoya kwesinye." Indoda eqhutshwa ekhoneni ingakushiya ngokuphelele. Uma uhlale ucwebezela "Ngifuna umshado, ngifuna umgubuzelo kanye ne-limousine", kulula ukuthola idumela le-bore. Kodwa amadoda athande amaphaphu ekukhuphukeni, abathokozisayo nabangenakuqhathaniswa nabesifazane.
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa futhi ukuyibopha lapho ingane ingeke ibe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Izingane azibophe indoda enqume ukushiya, ngisho nokuba emshadweni womthetho, ungakhulumi ngomphakathi. Ungazami ukuthenga indoda. Uma uthi abazali bakho bathembisa ukukunika indlu noma imoto yomshado, ngeke uzuze noma yini. Lokhu okuphambene nakho kungahlukanisa indoda enomuzwa wesithunzi. Kodwa u-Alfonso, ngokuphambene kuyoba mnandi, kodwa uyayidinga?
Zama okungenani kwezinye izici ezingenakulungiswa kuye. Ukuthi wayazi ukuthi kulokhu ungathembela kukho, ukuthi uzokwenza konke kahle futhi ujabule. Mcabange ukuthi uyamqonda njengelinye. Yilokho kuphela obona ukuthi unethalente, uthembise, uhlakaniphile. Umsebenzi wakho akumelwe umdumise, ukuziqhenya, kodwa ukugxila kuwe - okuwukuphela kwakho.
Ungamtshelisi ukuthi abantu abashadile abaphansi, kodwa kaningi, bayajabula kakhulu. Yisho ukuthi izibalo zibonisa ukuthi amadoda ashadile ahlala isikhathi eside. Mhlawumbe ukunakekela impilo yakhe kuyomenza acabange.
Ngokuvame ukubona amabhayisikobho mayelana namanani omndeni. Ukuze uqiniseke ngombhangqwana ojabulayo, iqembu lezingane, inja nendlu enhle. Ungakhononda ukuthi lokhu kupholile, futhi uphuphile ngakho kusukela ebuntwaneni. Akudingeki ukuthi ukhulume ngakho ngaphezu kweyodwa kwe-movie.
Ngaphambi kokuphoqa umuntu ukuba acabange ngomshado, cabanga ukuthi kungani yena ngokwakhe engakaze avuthwe ngaphambili. Mhlawumbe akaboni kuwe owesifazane afuna ukuchitha konke ukuphila kwakhe. Uma lokhu kuyiqiniso, ingabe udinga umshado nomuntu onjalo? Uma usubhale ngesinye isinqumo ngesinye isinqumo, akudingeki yini uqhubeke nokukwenza lokhu ezindabeni ezithintekayo? Ingabe umakhethi wakho uyakwazi ukuthatha noma yimuphi umthwalo kwabanye? Mhlawumbe kuyoba lula ukulahla lobu buhlobo bese uzama ukwakha okusha? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungani wazibuza ukuthi ungamthola kanjani umuntu ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, into eyinhloko ukuthi lokhu akuphenduli ngokwayo, kodwa kuholela ebuhlotsheni obuvumelana phakathi kwabantu ababili abanothando.