Abanye baqiniseka ukuthi amantombazane kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi abe nesithakazelo kuphela emfashini nasezimonweni, futhi abafana - izimoto kanye nebhola. Eqinisweni, kwenzeka ukuthi lo mfana akafuni ukukhuluma ngezingubo, futhi lona wesifazane uzokhuluma ngentshiseko ngemoto ayithandayo. Eqinisweni, amadoda nabesifazane banezithakazelo eziningi ezivamile. Kalula, udinga ukumba kancane komunye nomunye futhi ufunde ngabo.
Izihloko ezintandokazi zamantombazane okukhuluma nabafana - lokhu kuyinsimu enkulu yemisebenzi. Isibonelo, ungaxoxa ngama-movie. Yiqiniso, kule ndawo, ukuthanda kwamantombazane namakhosikazi akuguquli ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa, kulokhu, ungaxoxa, uqinisekise umbono wakho. Into eyinhloko akuyona ukuguqula yonke into ibe yinto embi. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuthi abantu baqaphele ukuthi omunye umuntu angacabanga ngendlela ehlukile, ikakhulukazi uma engumuntu ohlukile. Yingakho, ekukhulumisaneni nasebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nentombazane, umuntu kufanele azame ukuzigcina ekhokhweni futhi akhumbule ukuthi wonke umuntu angaphutha, futhi mhlawumbe ulungile.
Umculo ngumunye isihloko oyintandokazi kubo bonke abantu bazobulili nobudala. Enye iphuzu lokuxhumana futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukwenqatshwa. Abalandeli bomculo wangempela, ekushiseni komdlandla, bakhohlwe konke. Kulokhu, labesifazane kufanele bahlakaniphe futhi benze izinto eziyekethisa. Yiqiniso, izintandokazi zibalulekile, kodwa ukuthula nokuthula ebuhlotsheni kubaluleke kakhulu.
Eqinisweni, umfana nentombazane bangakhuluma ngakho konke. Mayelana nezincwadi, mayelana nohlelo, mayelana ne-biology, mayelana nokupheka. Ezingxoxweni ezinje, ngokuvamile, othile ufunde kangcono endaweni ethile, futhi othile - ufuna ukuthola ulwazi. Lokhu kukhulumisana kubuthana ndawonye, ngoba abantu bayaqonda ukuthi umngane wakhe noma othandekayo unesithakazelo ekuthandweni kwakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingxoxo ezinjalo zithuthukisa futhi zandise ukukhanya. Uma abanye bakholelwa ukuthi abantu abanentshisekelo ehlukene kunzima ukuxhumana - bayiphutha. Kunzima ukuxhumana nalabo abangazi ukuthi bangathandi kanjani ukuzwa nokuqonda i-interlocutor. Khona-ke izingxoxo zivele zibe izingxabano. Uma bobabili bekulungele ukuzwa, khona-ke lokhu kuxhumana kuba yindlu yokugcina yolwazi olusha, kanye nethuba lokuqonda umuntu oseduze.
Amadoda nabesifazane bayaqonda kangcono kangcono kunokuba babonakale. Kulula, asihlale sikulungele ukuvula, ukwethembeka, ukuveza imicabango yethu nemizwa yethu. Abantu besaba ukubonakala bebuthakathaka futhi bangaqondwa kahle. Uma insizwa nentombazane isondelene kakhulu nabantu, ngokuvamile bayakhuluma ngemizwa yabo, imibono yezwe, ifilosofi yokuphila kanye nezinhlekelele zemiphefumulo yabo. Lezi yizo lezo zingxoxo lapho kungadingeki khona ukucinga izihloko, ukhathazeke ngokuthula futhi ucabange ngalokho ongakusho. Ekukhulumisaneni, ukusondelana kuboniswa izingxoxo ngemindeni, mayelana nabangani. Uma abantu bengenasithakazelo ngempela komunye nomunye, izingxoxo ezinjalo zizoba yisithukuthezi futhi zingabi nalutho kubo. Vumelana, ngoba asinasithakazelo ekulaleleni ugogo, ohlala eduze kwethu tram futhi eqala ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zakhe, sitshele izindaba kusuka empilweni. Futhi kwenzeka ekukhulumisaneni phakathi kwabantu abanobulili obuhlukile. Bakhuluma ngezinto ezifihlekile, kuphela ukuthi basondelene kakhulu. Kulokhu, bangakhuphula futhi bahlakulele noma yiliphi isihloko: kusukela ezindabeni eziphakeme kuze kube yi-intimas. Futhi akukho okubonakala kubonakala kungalungile noma kuhlazola. Izingxoxo ezinjalo, ngokuvamile zihlala amahora, futhi akekho oqaphela ukuthi isikhathi sihamba kanjani, ngoba zombili ziyakhathazeka kakhulu. Abagcini nje ukulalela, bezwa. Uma sikhuluma ngokukhululekile mayelana nomuntu siqu, susa ama-masks bese sibonisa ukuthi siyini ngempela, ukuthi yini esiyayesabayo nalokho esikuphuphayo. Ezingxoxweni ezinjalo ungavula ngokugcwele umuntu, ngisho noma engasho lutho ukhonkolo. Lapho nje abantu beqotho, basivumela ukuba siwafunde phakathi kwemigqa. Ngisho nenkumbulo evamile kusukela ebuntwaneni ingachaza inkinga ethile ekhona kulo muntu manje. Uma sitshela izinto eziqondile, sithemba ukuthi akekho ozokwazi ngabo, kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungaceli ngokuqondile ukuthi uhlale ethule. Izingxoxo ezinjalo nje zibonisa ukuthembela okuphelele, ngakho-ke, uthando, kodwa ngomuntu othandekayo kuwe, akekho owake wachitha amahemuhemu.
Amadoda nabesifazane bathanda ukukhuluma. Ngenxa yobulili obuhlukile, bazizwa futhi baqonde konke ngokuhlukile. Lokhu kusivumela ukuba sihlolisise lo mcimbi ngendlela ehlukumezayo ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba ingabhekwa njengezindiza, kodwa njengesithombe sesithathu. Yingakho, izingxoxo phakathi komfana nentombazane zibaluleke kakhulu kubo bobabili, ngisho noma bengazi. Ngokuvamile, phakathi nezingxoxo ezinjalo, abantu bathola izixazululo ezifanele kuphela.
Sifika kumuntu osondelene wobulili obuhlukile ukuze siqonde, ukubonisana, ukuzwa umbono ophikisana kakhulu nowethu. Ukuxhumana phakathi kwamantombazane namantombazane kungenziwa ezingeni lokukhuluma ngamafilimu, futhi kungangena ekujuleni kwefilosofi. Konke kuhlale kuncike ekutheni bangabathandana kangakanani komunye nomunye, ukuthi bangakanani ukwazi ukuthi bangayethemba kanjani futhi baqonde. Ukwamukela umbono womunye umuntu - yilokho. Ngokuvamile, kunzima kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Futhi akukho lutho oluxhomeke ocansini, kulula kakhulu ngathi ukusho. Ukuthi amadoda ahluke kakhulu kithi. Futhi labo, nabo, bangasho ukuthi abesifazane abaqondi lutho ekuphileni. Eqinisweni, ngamunye wethu angaba okulungile nokungalungile. Iqiniso lizalwa ngempikiswano. Kodwa kuphela empikiswaneni eqhubeka phakathi kwabantu ababili abahlakaniphile.
Ukuthola izihloko zakho eziyizintandokazi zamantombazane okukhuluma nabesilisa kuleso simo ngasinye kuyithuba lokuthola into entsha kuwe nakwabanye. Ngenxa yalokhu kukhulumisana, umuntu ngamunye uthola ulwazi olusha, ashintshe imibono ethile futhi athola ulwazi olwengeziwe. Ezingxoxweni, umuntu akalokothi afune isihloko futhi afike ngezizathu zokuxhumana. Uma kukhona okufanayo phakathi kwabantu, bayohlala bethola into yokukhuluma futhi bavale.