Zonke izihlobo zilindele umshado, futhi ngaphambi kokuba umshado ungafiki. Uma imizwa idlulile ngokungenakuqhathaniswa kubalingani, kunjani uhlobo lomshado ... Wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi kwakungeyona uthando, hhayi uthando lweqiniso, kodwa kuphela uthando lwabalingani phakathi komunye nomunye. Futhi mhlawumbe lolu thando alukaze lukhule othandweni? Kungani?
Lapho abantu beqala ukuhlangana, isifiso semvelo sabo bobabili abalingani ukubuka emehlweni omunye umuntu kangcono kunalokho oyikho ngempela. Lona iphutha elikhulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo phakathi kwabathandi. Esikhathini se-candy-bouquet, ukwehluleka ekukhuliseni nasekuziphatheni abalingani abanakho, futhi okungababonisa ekukhanyeni okungalungile emehlweni othandekayo, othandekayo, baqashwe ngokucophelela futhi bangaboniswa kumlingani. Ukulawulwa okunjalo kuyaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho abalingani bechazisana ngothando. Incazelo iye yenzeke, ukuzethemba sekufikile ukuthi isikhathi se-candy-bouquet sesiphelile futhi manje kungenzeka ukuba uphumule. Yilapho ingozi enkulu yabalingani ilala khona.
Ozakwethu baqala ukuziphatha ngendlela abajwayele ngayo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Futhi laba bantu abahluke ngokuphelele. "Kungani ngingaboni lokhu ngaphambi (l)? Ungumuntu onesihluku, ongenamahloni, hhayi nhlobo (okufana nokuthi) yini (oh) engangiyicabanga yona? "Ngesimo sokuthandana, umuntu akawuboni lokhu okushiwo (afihliwe emehlweni ozakwethu), futhi manje abalingani abafuni nabo ukuyibeka futhi bayamukele. Imikhuba yomngane womunye umuntu ayibekezelele futhi iyinengiso. Abathandi abathandi. Yebo, uma kwenzeka ngaphambi komshado, futhi uma ngemva kwalokho, isahlukaniso singenakugwenywa. Kwenzekani othandweni odlule? Uma imizwa idluliselwe ngokungenakuqhathaniswa kubo bobabili abalingani, abakwazi ukuhlangana ndawonye futhi abangafuni, ngakho okukhethwa kukho kokubili kuyisinqumo esivumelana ngokulinganisela - ukuba bahlanganyele kuze kube phakade, lapho begcina okungenani ubuhlobo.
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi phakathi nenkathi yokukhathala okwedlulele, isibonelo, ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwengane noma ngesikhathi sokuvikela lo mqondo, ukucasuka kuqoqa kumlingani. Abazali abasebasha bayesaba ngenxa yemithwalo yemfanelo emisha, wonke umuntu uzama ukususa kubo isisombululo senkinga, nakuba kungenzeka ukuthi baxazulule ndawonye, kungabangela ukucasula nokugcina imizwa. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi abantu abasha ngokuzithandela abafuni ukwamukela ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba ndawonye, ngoba omunye wabo unomsebenzi ophuthumayo noma omunye umcimbi womndeni obaluleke kakhulu. Khona-ke ukucasuka komunye nomunye kukhula, abalingani abakwazi ukubhekana nayo, futhi bobabili banomuzwa wokuthi imizwa ihamba ngokungahambisani nhlobo kubo bobabili. Lokhu kubonakala kwenkinga, ingaxazululwa uma, okwamanje, ukuqonda ubunzima bomuntu othandekayo nokuhlangana naye lapho exazulula izinkinga zakhe. Khona-ke usakwazi ukulondoloza imizwa. Ngeshwa, ngezikhathi ezinjalo, imizwelo igxile emaphethelweni, ngendlela evuthayo abantu bayakwazi ukukhulumisana amagama amaningi amabi, amahlazo, "iphuzu lokubuyisa" lidluliwe, khona-ke umzuzwana ufika lapho ozakwethu becacile ukuthi imizwa yabo idlulile, kungekho uthando, isisa nokuhlonipha komunye nomunye. Khona-ke ungazami ukubambisana, wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuhamba, angazi ukuthi ukuhlukana kobuhlobo njengokuhlambalaza noma ukuhlazeka, vele uqonde ukuthi lesi sinqumo yiyona yodwa yeqiniso kokubili futhi uvumele ukuhamba ndawonye ngokuthula. Ukuphila ngalokhu akuzange kuphele, ube nesipiliyoni esihle ekwakheni ubudlelwane, qala futhi, manje uzophumelela, ukholwe kulo.