Izimbangela zokuntula amandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka

Ama-sexopathologists athi akekho umuntu obona ukungabi namandla njengengqondo elula. Ukungabi nasesikhathini esifanele sokulungela ukulala ngokobulili kuphenduka ubulili obunamandla nomzwelo wengozi yendawo yonke. Baqala ukuzizwa sengathi inhlabathi iphuma ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho futhi ukuphila kume lapho. Uma kungenjalo kuze kube phakade, okungenani, isikhathi eside. Yilapho udinga ukubamba iqhaza okuthandayo kwabathandekayo bakho. Kulowo mzwelo ukuthi lo mzwelo awuthathi ngokuphelele lo muntu othandekayo. Ngakho-ke wayekwazi ukukholelwa kuleso siqephu futhi aphinde azizwe eqiniseka. Kodwa ukusiza, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi iziphi izimbangela ukungasebenzi noma ukuphazamiseka okubuthakathaka okuphazamisa injabulo yakho.

Amantombazane amahle anenzuzo enkulu phezu kwamadoda. Phela, akukho lutho olubavimbela ekwenzeni uthando ngendlela abayifunayo. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, owesifazane ngeke azizwe i-orgasm. Uma kunesidingo, ungakha udumo futhi ulingise. Kodwa lo muntu ngeke akwazi ukukhombisa ukulungela ukulala ngokocansi uma enezibonakaliso zokuntula amandla noma ukukhishwa okubuthakathaka. Futhi owesifazane makangabhekwa ukuba azizwe konke okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu. Kodwa kumele azame ukuqonda isimo somzwelo womuntu omthandayo futhi amsekele esimeni esinzima.

Igama elithi "ukungabi namandla" lisho ukuthi akukho erection. Kodwa-ke, inkinga ye-fiasco yindoda ebhedeni ayikho indlela yokuphela kwenkambu yezokwelapha kuphela. Ngeke sichaze izifo ezingokwenyama ezingokwenyama eziholela ekutheni amandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka. Sizocabangela kuphela lezo zimo lapho izinkinga zibangelwa izimo ezithile ezingokwengqondo. Phela, ukuphulukiswa ngokuyinhloko kuxhomeke kumlingani wakho. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, owesifazane kufanele azi ukuthi yini engabangelwa ukwehluleka okulodwa komuntu othandekayo nokuthi kufanele aziphatha kanjani esimweni ngasinye.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukutadisha izizathu, udinga ukukhumbula kanye nakuzo zonke ezilandelayo: iphutha lakho alikho lapho! Ungathathi lokhu njengobungqina bokungazitholi ucansi lwakho. Ngakho esikhundleni sokuqhaqhazela nokuqagela ngesilinganiso sobuphansi bakho, ngcono ukuhlaziya isimo bese uqhathanisa nalokhu okulandelayo: ingabe kukhona okufanayo? Bese ulandela iseluleko sethu - ukuthi uziphathe kanjani nokuthi ungakufanele kanjani.

Isikhathi sokuqala

Awunalo ithemba eliphezulu, evele embhedeni owodwa nomfana omncane. Ikakhulukazi uma ungowesifazane onolwazi ezindabeni zobulili, futhi umngane wakho useyintombi. Ngoba, libandakanya ukwesaba okungcwele kokuzikhandla kwakho ekuthandeni imidlalo. Futhi lokhu nakho kungamvimbela ekubeni "phezulu". Isizathu sokuntula amandla ukuthi insizwa ihlala iminyaka eminingi ilindele leli thuba elikhulu, licabanga ngaye njalo, lixoxisana nezinketho ezingenzeka nabangani bakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, lapho isimo esikufisayo siphelile ekufakeni umzimba, isimiso sayo sezinzwa nesifo senhliziyo sisindiswa kakhulu. Kulokhu, lover ozithandayo uqobo ukholelwa ukuthi uyazilawula ngokuphelele. Kodwa umzimba awukwazi ukukhohliswa, ngakho-ke amacala okungafaneleki okwesikhashana noma ukuvuswa okubuthakathaka akuyona into engavamile. Ngokuzumayo uqala ukuzizwa ekhululekile futhi ehlelekile.

Ngeshwa, isimo sakhe sisakazwa ngokushesha kumlingani, naye uzizwa engakhululekile. Lokhu kunezela ibhakede lamanzi emlilweni wekhanuko. Izwi langaphakathi elikhohlisayo liqala ukumemeza ukuthi owesifazane othandekayo akafuni ukulala naye. Futhi ngokushesha nje kwalokho, ngokuzumayo uyaqaphela ngokukwesaba ukuthi ngisho noma ayesifuna, ngabe kwakungeke kusebenze noma kunjalo - ngoba akakwazi. Futhi-ke kukhona umqondo omusha, ohlazo nakakhulu nakakhulu ukuthi manje uzoqala ukutshela wonke umuntu nomuntu mayelana ne-fiasco yakhe embi ebhedeni. Futhi lapha kumuntu ompofu konke kuvinjelwe ngqo ngokuqinile.

Empeleni, akukho okukhethekile kulokhu, owesifazane akudingeki akwenze. Ungazami ukwenza ngandlela-thile ukulala ngokobulili nalokho okushiwo, bese kuthi ekuqhathaneni kwezobuciko ukuwa phezu komcamelo ngokububula okujulile. Ngeke kusize. Into kuphela ongayeluleka - yiba nesineke, ungacindezeli imicimbi. Vumela ikhono lakho elingenalwazi liqonde ukuthi uqonda isimo sakhe, ukuthi kungokwemvelo. Mphazamise ngomusa isikhathi esithile kusuka emicabangweni enzima, bese uzama ukuqala konke futhi, ukwandisa isikhathi se-caresses yokuqala.

Imizwa yecala

Uma umlingani wakho engumlingisi onolwazi, ngakho akuqinisekisi kuwe ukuthi phakathi kwemidlalo yothando ngokuzumayo ngeke aqale ukubhekana nobunzima obuthile - ukungabi namandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka. Ngokusho kwezocansi, kuyinto enhle kakhulu, ukutholakala kwamanye ama-mistresses kungabangela izinkinga ngokulungiswa. Mhlawumbe uchitha isikhathi nawe, uyazizwa enecala lokuzizwa enecala ngaphambi kokuba athile intombi yakhe noma umkakhe. Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kwenzeka uma kusetshenziselwa ukusondelana komuntu ngokungazelelwe kuvela nomqondo wokukhashelwa komunye owesifazane. Futhi lokhu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ihora elidlule umlingani wakho wayefuna ngenkuthalo ukusondelana nawe. Indoda iqala ukuzibheka njengomuntu ongobugovu nokungabongi. Futhi abamukeli bezinzwa basabela ngokushesha lapho kushintsha isimo, ngokuzibophezela bemshiya noma yiliphi ithuba lokwenza ukuhlukumezeka. Ungamtsheli ngalesi sikhathi: "Ngicabanga ukuthi yikuphi ukuthambekela kwakho okwedlule (umkakho) osetshenziselwe ukukwenza u-erection?" Yithi: "Mhlawumbe, lokhu kungcono kakhulu. Unethuba lokuhlola kabusha okunamathiselwe kwakho. "

Ubulili ngaphandle koLuthando

Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, njengokungathi bonke abantu "bangamadoda", empeleni bayakwazi okuhlangenwe nakho okujulile. Abaningi babo bakhetha ukungena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze nabesifazane abathile kuphela, kodwa kuphela nalabo abathandayo nabakuhloniphayo. Futhi nalabo abathanda futhi babahloniphe. Futhi uma umuntu engabaza ukuzwelana okuqotho komlingani wakhe, khona-ke angase abe nokuqiniseka ukuthi usetshenziswa nje ngokuthi "umshini wobulili" wokwanelisa izidingo zomzimba.

Abacansi be-sexologists bacabanga ukuthi kuyiphutha ukukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane kuphela ongaba nomuzwa wokuthi usetshenziswa. Kuvela ukuthi amadoda ayazi le nzwa. Kuyimpendulo kuye ukuthi bayamelana nokuxhaphazwa okunjalo okungaqondakali. Futhi ngokuvamile lokhu kubhikisha kugxile ngendlela yokungabi namandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka. Awukwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi kaningi kangakanani ekwamukelwa kwamadoda ayingcweti, osolwa ngamakhosikazi abo engenamandla, echaze ukuziphatha kwabo okungenayo imizwa ngokuzipholisa kumfazi! Abazange bathande ukwenza uthando, lapho lolu thando lungasekho. Ngesikhathi umkakhe eqhubeka ephoqelela ubulili kuphela ukuze kuthuthukiswe umzimba.

Asizicabangi manje isimo lapho imizwa efudumele ihambile. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, owesifazane ucabanga kangaki ukuthi lapho elala nomuntu, lokho kakade lokho kumenza aqonde ngokuthanda kwakhe. Ngakho-ke akuboni ukuthi kuyadingeka ngandlela-thile ukubonakalisa uthando lwakhe ngaphandle. Akazi ukuthi indoda engakaze ithole isikhathi eside kumlingani wayo, ingenakuphika ukuthi ingabaza imizwa yakhe. Futhi amazwi amancane athandekayo awakuthola kuye, kunamandla okuthembela kuye akhula ukuthi usetshenziswa nje. Ungatsheli umuntu: "Woza, qhafaza. Ngiyazi ukuthi ufuna lokhu! "Yisho kangcono:" Angizange ngikutshele isikhathi eside ukuthi ngikuthanda kakhulu! "

Utshwala

Lesi sizathu sokungabi namuntu "ongashadile" noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka mhlawumbe kuvame kakhulu phakathi kobulili obunamandla. Kucatshangwa ukuthi yiyona "inhlonipho" kakhulu okumele iqondise i-fiasco yesilisa. Inkinga yomlingani ukuthi akaze azi ukuthi kusengaphambili ukuthi utshwala ludlala ihlaya elibi nanamuhla noma cha. Ngeke ukwazi ukubona ukuthi izenzakalo zizokhula kanjani, ngoba umzimba womuntu awunakulinganiswa. Umlingani kufanele akhumbule ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukusola umuntu odakiwe ngokuqondile ukungaziphathi kahle. Ngenxa yokuthi, lapho ephuza, ngeke akhumbule ukuxwala kwakhe. Kodwa amazwi omfazi othandekayo ngokungahambisani kwakhe komuntu uyakhumbula. Futhi kuzokuhlukumeza lokhu konke ukuphila kwakhe konke. Ngakho-ke uma ungajabuli nobufebe bobulili bomlingani obangelwa utshwala, kungcono ukufunda inkulumo ethi "Mayelana Nengozi Yotshwala" ngosuku olulandelayo. Mkhumbuze usongo lwe-cirrhosis yesibindi kanye nezilonda zesisu. Kodwa kungenjalo akukho ukucindezeleka ngokungabikho kwe-erection, ungayisusi ohlwini lwama-giant ocansini! Ngendlela, kungenzeka ukuthi ekuseni uzophumelela - uma nje lokhu kungavimbela isimo se-hangover. Ungasho ukuthi: "Uyi-rag! Uzocabanga ukuthi angiphuze lutho, kodwa ngangikhathele! "Yithi:" Thula phansi. Sizozama futhi uma uqonde. Kuhle ukuthi ukwazi ukufika embhedeni wakho uphephile futhi uzwakala! "

Okuhle kakhulu yisitha sezinto ezinhle

Ngokuvamile lesi simo sibonakala emibhangqwaneni enokuhlangana okude kothando lwe-platonic. Kungaba futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi nabalingani bokuqala bezocansi. Ngenxa yezimo ezinomgomo, ubuhlobo babo ekuqaleni behlelwe kangangokuthi isikhathi esingakapheli abazange bahambe ngaphesheya kokubamba ngobumnene ezindaweni ezisemapaki bese benga ngaphansi kwenyanga ogwini lolwandle. Kodwa uma abantu bathandana, bayobe besembhede owodwa. Futhi bayokujabula ukuthi maduzane bazofeza lokho abaphuphayo. Kulokhu, ngokokuqala ngqa, owesifazane angase abe nokwanele ngokobuhlobo obuseduze. Ngesikhathi le ndoda isemhlanganweni wokuqala osondelene nayo ifuna ukuzibonakalisa eyinkosikazi enkulu. Akacabangi ngenye indlela, ehlela isimo salesi senzakalo esilinde isikhathi eside. Ufuna ukuhlanganisa lonke ulwazi lwakhe emkhakheni wenjabulo, ukuze ahlasele owesifazane wakhe othandekayo khona futhi azwe amazwi akhe ayathandekayo: "Angikaze ngibone lokhu nanoma ubani ..."

Kodwa, njengoba wazi, sonke sifuna, ngokusemandleni, kodwa ngokuvamile kuvela, njengenhlawulo. Esikhathini esibucayi, ngezinye izikhathi asisebenzi nhlobo. Ngoba indoda ifuna ukugxuma ngaphezu kwekhanda lakhe futhi emzamweni oweqile ishisa kancane kancane kunalokho okufanele. Ziduduze, madodakazikazi othandekayo - ukwehluleka kwakhe kuqondiswa imizwa ephawulekayo kakhulu kuwe. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi akusikho konke okulahlekile. Ungasho ukuthi: "Futhi kungani lokhu kulala kwakudingeka! Mhlawumbe sizohamba ngezinyawo? Kunoma yikuphi, lapho ungigungqelele nxazonke, ngangizwa imizwa ecacile. " Yithi: "Kungani kugijima, ngoba silinde le mzuzu isikhathi eside kangaka! Ake sizame futhi emva kwesikhathi. "

Ukukhishwa kwezindlu

Abaningi bayazi ukuthi ukuchitha ubusuku nentombazane ejwayelekile lapho ehlala khona nabazali bakhe kusho ukuthi uhlale ezwa "ngaphansi kwe-hood." Ngoba kungavamile ukuthi yini abazali abangakugwema okungenani emidlalweni ephuthumayo kanye nokwehla. Yiqiniso, olunye uhlobo lwabazali, okuthiwa abakhululekile, alulona olungcono. Abomama abanjalo, futhi kaningi abapapa, ngokuqinisekile bazozama ukunika insizwa inhlanzi, noma kubi kakhulu - ukuyibopha ehlombe ngaphambi kokuba amajuba amthandane nombhede. Kodwa ngisho noma abazali bengabonisi ngokwabo ngale ndlela, inkulumo ebhekiswe kwisimenywa icacile emehlweni abo: "Siyazi ukuthi uzokwenzani nendodakazi yethu!"

Ngokombono wezokwelapha, ukulinganisa okunjalo okunomthelela kunomthelela wokubambelela kunoma yimuphi umuntu ovamile, okwenza ukungabi namandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka. Omunye umuntu angakwazi ngisho nangaphambi kokunciphisa ukungalingani ngokujwayelekile, wazi, lokho ngeke kube ngendlela. Kodwa abaningi baqhubeka bethemba ukuthi kuzoba nomphumela ophumelelayo wecala, hhayi ukusola ukuthi yisiphi isicupho abalungiselela lokhu. Isimo esifanayo singase senzeke lapho umuntu omusha ngokwakhe ethatha intombazane efulethini labazali. Phela, izinga lakhe lokuhlolisana nabanikazi bendlu lapha alinendima enkulu. Konke mayelana nokuqonda umuntu ukuthi abantu abasemdongeni banesithakazelo sangempela esikhathini sokuchitha isikhathi sakho. Futhi yingakho noma yiliphi umsindo, eliqhekekile emlonyeni wezithandwa zakho noma eshicilelwe yimithombo yombhede, kukhulunywa ngokuphindaphindiwe ebuchosheni bomlingani. Kubonakala sengathi konke lokhu kuzwakala ngabanye abahlali. Futhi uma ecabanga ukuthi ukusabela komkhaya, kubuthakathaka kangakanani isifiso sakhe socansi sibe.

Umsebenzi futhi unakekele

Enye imbangela yokungabi namandla noma ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka ngumthwalo wezinkinga ezingaxazululwa. Omunye ucabanga ukuthi bayombulala. Futhi ngomunye umuntu, isizathu sokungabikho kwempi kungase kube indlela yokukhokhwa kwemali mboleko. Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokungawuthandi okwenziwe ngothando, ngisho noma kubonakala kungekho isizathu esizwakalayo sokukhathazeka kumlingani wakho, zama ukuyibiza ngokukhululekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzokwabelana nawe ngezinkinga zakhe, ngoba kusuka kulokhu kuya kumuntu noma ubani njalo kuba lula. Futhi uma engafuni ukuvuma noma yini, konke okufanayo, bhala i-fiasco yakhe yanamuhla ngesimo esishaqisayo esibangelwa izinkinga ezihlukahlukene. Ngemuva kwalokho, izotholakala kuwo wonke umuntu.

Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, ungagxili ekuthunjweni okungajwayelekile komuntu othandekayo - hhayi ngaleso sikhathi, noma kamuva. Ungenzi ihlaya, ngisho nangemva kokuba i-fiasco yakhe isikhathi esiningi idlulile, futhi unezikhathi eziyikhulu eziqinisekisile ukuba khona kwe-potency yakhe yobuqhawe. Isiqubulo sakho esimweni esinjalo kufanele sibe nethemba eligcwele le nkulumo evela embonini eyaziwa kakhulu: "Sizosinda kulokhu kungathandeki!"