Inkinga yezibonakaliso eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka, ukususwa kwezinkinga zabantu ukususwa okungaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi. Ukucindezeleka bekulokhu kubhekwa njengesitha ngenombolo eyodwa, okukwazi ukuguqula umuntu, ngokulinganisela kwakhe okujwayelekile nokuthula kwengqondo kube yinkinga ebuhlungu kwengqondo. Ngendlela, abaningi be-psychotherapists baqhathanisa ngesibindi isimo sokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka ngokwayo ngesifo "segciwane". Nakuba le "gciwane" lingadluliselwa ngamaconsi emvelo futhi akubonakali nakancane nge-microscope, kodwa akuyona into engozini kumuntu kunokuba, isibonelo, umkhuhlane owodwa noma ubanda. Phela, kunezinhlobo eziningi zama-antibiotic ezivela ekugcineni, kodwa ukucindezeleka kwabo akutholakali.
Ukucindezeleka kuyingozi ngoba njalo kuvela ngokungalindelekile, nangokuhlukumeza umuntu ngaphakathi, ngaleyo ndlela kuphule isimo sakhe sobujwayele. Okuyinhloko okuthiwa izimpawu zokucindezeleka kuyingozi kakhulu, ukucasula okukhulu, ukungalali, ukuphathwa ikhanda njalo. Kuhambisane nakho konke okubalulwe ngenhla ngesimo esingapheli sokukhathala nokunganaki nakho konke okwakusanda kunesithakazelo kakhulu futhi ube nesithakazelo. Into eyingozi kunazo zonke ukuthi unempilo enhle ngokuphelele, kodwa ngengqondo, lokhu kungenye ingxoxo. Ngokuvamile, izimpawu eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka zibonakala kithi, besifazane, njengoba sihlale sithatha izinto kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sinezenzo zokuzikhukhumeza nezomzwelo, okusidonsa kulezi zinkinga zomzwelo nezingcindezi. Noma kunjalo, lo mqondo oqhubekayo wemithwalo yemfanelo hhayi kuphela wena, kodwa wonke umndeni. Yini engaba yimbi? Lapha unezibonakaliso ezicacile ukuthi abesifazane banenkinga yokucindezeleka kakhulu kaningi kunamadoda.
Izimbangela ezivame ukudala ukucindezeleka yizinkinga ezifanayo zansukuzonke, ukuphazamiseka emndenini, emsebenzini, ukukhathala, ukwanda ngokwakho ukugxeka, ukunganaki nempilo yomndeni, ukungabi nothando nokunye. Lolu hlu lungabalwa ngokungapheli, kufaka phakathi kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zendlala ezisizungezile kuzo zonke izinhlangothi. Kodwa asivuki ukubhala isingeniso sesayense ngalesi sihloko, kodwa zama nje ukucabangela izindlela ezothinta ukususwa kokucindezeleka. Lapha kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi uma kufike isikhathi futhi ngesikhathi esifanele ukungayinaki ukucindezeleka futhi ungazami ukulwa nalo, kubhekene nokugqama kwayo ekucindezelekeni noma ukwesaba okukhulu. Ngandlela-thile, ukukhipha lokhu kulukhuni kakhudlwana. Njengoba bethi - ukulwa nanoma isiphi isifo kusesezingeni lokuqala, futhi lokhu kuphazamisa nezinkinga zengqondo.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba ulwa nalesi sifo, udinga ukukhomba izimpawu eziyinhloko zezizathu, ezithinta ukuthuthukiswa kwesimo sakho esicindezelayo. Ngenhla sibheke kakade izibonakaliso ezinkulu kanye nezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokucindezeleka. Kodwa lapha, akuyona into engafanele ukukhumbula ukuthi umuntu ngamunye unesizathu sakhe ngabanye, ngakho-ke, futhi ukubona ukuthi kufanele unikezwe konke okukuzungezile futhi kungabangela ukuqhuma noma imizwa ethile. Uma usuqaphele isizathu, zama ukungabonakali ngokuphelele kulo futhi ubheke umhlaba onamehlo ahluke ngokuphelele.
Ukuze ungaboni ukucindezeleka ezingaphezu kweyodwa ithuba lokuphulukisa isimo sakho sengqondo, ngezibonakaliso zayo zokuqala kufanele wenze lokhu okusebenzayo okulandelayo, okuzosiza ukunqoba isimo sokukhathazeka nokuziphendulela. Ekuseni, ngokushesha nje lapho sebevele, ngaphandle kokuphuma embhedeni, esimweni sokulala esikebheni, yilowo nalowo uzama ukulula izandla, imilenze, intamo. Bese uphinda into efanayo, ulele nje esiswini sakho. Lo msebenzi kufanele uphindwe izikhathi ezimbalwa phakathi nosuku. Lapha ungakwenza, kokubili uhlezi futhi umile, uthatha imizuzu emibili nje. Umsebenzi wokugcina walo msebenzi kufanele ube kusihlwa, noma kunalokho isikhathi ngaphambi kokulala. Themba ngemuva kwakho bese uzama ukuphumula ngokuphelele. Phakathi nalokhu, zama ukucabanga ngento enhle kuwe (izinkumbulo ezihle, izinhlangano, izinto ozithandayo), into eyinhloko ukuthi ingqondo yakho engaphansi kwengqondo inomqondo omuhle futhi omuhle kakhulu. Kuthatha imizuzu engaba mihlanu ukuba ube sezwe elikhululekile kangaka.
Kusuka ekucindezelekeni okungapheli, ukunganaki nokuphelelwa ngokuphelele, kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi ojabulisayo. Lokhu kusebenza kuyisifiso sokwenza ngendlela ejwayelekile. Ngakho-ke, kudingeka ulale emhlane wakho, khona-ke kufanele ufake isandla sakho sobunxele kwi-plexus ye-solar, ngaphezulu kwalesi sandla ufake ilungelo ngakwesokudla sakho. Bese uzama ukucabanga futhi uzizwe amandla obonakala sengathi avela ku-plexus yakho yelanga futhi asakaze wonke umzimba, awugcwalise ngamandla avuselelayo. Kumelwe uzizwe ngomzimba wakho wonke. Phakathi nalesi sivivinyo, gxila ekutheni ungumuntu ozolile, okhuthele futhi oqoqwe.
Futhi, ukususwa kokucindezeleka okuphakanyiswa ukulalela umculo, okuthiwa yi-therapy yomsindo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, akudingeki ukuba uye endaweni ephakeme noma uphume embhedeni. Kusukela kumathrekhi omculo ngaphansi kokucindezeleka, izazi ze-psychotherapists zeluleka ukunikeza okuthandayo emisebenzini yomculo kaChopin, ngokukhathazeka okukhulu nokucasula - u-Beethoven, okungukuthi "i-Moonlight Sonata" nemisebenzi enjalo kaBach. Ngandlela-thile, akuyona into engafanele ukungeza ukuthi umculo usuqhathaniswa njengenye yezindlela eziphumelelayo kakhulu ezithinta ukususwa kokucindezeleka. Ngakho ungaziphili injabulo yokulalela abaqambi abadumile futhi ngaleyo ndlela ulahlwe ukwesaba okukhulu nokucindezeleka. Inhlanhla kuwe!