Smile ngokufunwa
O, woza, ake sihambe! Ngenhla ekhaleni! Kuwe impilo yonke inhle kakhulu noma ihlukile: umsebenzi uwukuthi, indlu, impilo! Yebo, kunemigqa kuze kube ku-Dnieper ukuthatha indawo yakho. Iseluleko esijabulisayo somngani wakhe sasingeyona into engenasisekelo - wanikeza into engalungile, mhlawumbe, umhawu ofihlekile enhlalakahle yami yezezimali, noma ngisho nenjabulo yangasese ngalokho engagcina ngifanele. Konke lokhu kungukusola kwami kuphela, kodwa kusukela ngaleso sikhathi angizange ngimshayele ucingo - njengoba engeyena kuphela umuntu oseduze. Uma iseluleko sokuphalaza nokuphumula sineqiniso, sinomqondo omkhulu njengokufisa isifiso esimnandi somuntu odla i-glucose nge-tube.
Esinye isibonelo esivela ochungechungeni olufanayo mhlawumbe sifinyelela kakhulu ekucindezelekeni empilweni yowesifazane wesimanje.
Esikhathini isiko lesiSlovic kukhona isici esisodwa esiyingozi: ngokudabukisayo nangenjabulo sifuna ukuthi abanye babelane ngemizwa yethu. Futhi izingxabano ezithandekayo mayelana nezombusazwe e-trolley bus, nokudakwa okudakiwe, nesimo sengqondo sokusola kubantu abangaphuzi etafuleni jikelele - konke lokhu ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuhlonipha ubunikazi bomunye umuntu. Kodwa kule minyaka engu-15 edlule, intsha entsha yaseYurophu yaseYurophu - isayensi ye-psychology enhle - ibeke phezu kwalesi simo samasiko. Ingxube yabhekana nokuqhuma ngempela.
Imilandulo emibili yamacala
"Ngingumuntu othakazelisayo futhi okhangayo," kusho i-plump, i-heroine enhle ye-Murav'eva, elandela isimo sengqondo esiseduze somngane wakhe wengqondo. Ukuphindaphinda ngokuzwakalayo "okunjalo okuqinisekisiwe" (izitatimende) kungenye yezindlela eziyinhloko zokusebenza kwengqondo. "Ngizophumelela"; "Ngiyazethemba ngokwengeziwe"; "Ngizizwa ngingcono futhi ngcono" ... Udokotela waseFrance u-Emil Kue wasungula impilo nemicabango ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka ekuphileni komfazi wesimanje neziguli zakhe ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20, kodwa kusukela ngaleso sikhathi imibono yakhe iye yasungulwa futhi yaqinisekiswa kumakhulu ezincwadi ngabalobi abahlukene: uLouise Hay, uLiz Burbo, uMirzakarima Norbekova, uValery Sinelnikov, uNatalia Pravdina, u-Alexander Sviyash. Zonke zihluke kakhulu, ngamazinga ahlukene ezemfundo nokuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila, kodwa ziyavumelana ngento eyodwa: izwe emisebenzini yabo libonakala liyisitolo esikhulu lapho umuntu ngamunye angakwazi ukwanelisa isidingo sakhe sothando, impilo, ingcebo, udumo, efonini elisha, evulekile indlu yokuhlala neholide e-Canaries. Kwanele ukwakha ngokucacile isicelo sakho ku-Universe, futhi sizophendula. "Ucabangani futhi ukholelwa kulo, kuzogcwaliseka kuwe. Imicabango yakho idala impilo yakho. Kulula! "Kusho uLouise Hay. Yena ngokwakhe, ngokusho kwe-biography esemthethweni, waphulukiswa umdlavuza ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, esebenzisa ukudla kuphela, ukukhishwa kwesikhumba, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukusikisela okuqondile, noma ukuqinisekiswa. Kodwa-ke, akekho ozoqinisekisa ukuthi ukuphathwa okunjalo kumdlavuza kuyasebenza. Ama-oncologists awazi amacala amaningi lapho lesi sifo sishiya ukuthuthukisa noma ngisho "ukungena". Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "ukukhululwa okungacacisiwe." Uma bonke abantu abaphulukisiwe besenza ngendlela kaLouise Hay, lokhu bekuyokwaziwa kakade emhlabeni, futhi uzobekwa umklomelo weNobel. Kodwa-ke. Konke kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Akunakwenqatshwa ukuthi umdlavuza unengqondo ngokwemvelo, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ukubekezela kwesiguli kwenza ngempela izimangaliso. Kuphela ukuthi ube ngumuntu othembekile nge-oda akunakwenzeka.
Isibonakaliso esibalulekile sokwemvelo nokuvuthwa komuntu ngokucindezeleka empilweni yowesifazane wesimanje ukukwazi ukuzwa imizwa edabukisayo, ngaphandle kokuphelelwa ithemba futhi ngaphandle kokuwela ekucindezelekeni. Kodwa leli khono, ngeshwa, alithuthuki ngosizo lwesiphakamiso sokuzenzakalela. Lena inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunokuba ibonakale kumqondo wokusebenza kwengqondo, futhi amagama abonisa isimo sangaphakathi kunokuba asenze. Yiqiniso, isimo sengqondo esihle sibalulekile. Abadlali bebhola bahlelwa ukunqoba ngaphambi komncintiswano, bezinikele isethaphu esinqobayo. Kodwa sivame ukubona ukuthi lokhu akusebenzi, futhi izithembiso 'zokuqeda isitha ngaphandle' aziqinisekisi impumelelo. Futhi izinkolelo ezinhle zinikeza inkolelo yokuthi konke okusemhlabeni kungalawulwa ngendlela enamandla, futhi lokhu akuchazi ngokucacile isimo sangempela njengoba kubonisa ukwesaba nokukhathazeka okungazi lutho.
Mania of Delight
I-psychology enhle ivame ukuheha abantu abanezinkinga ezinkulu ekuphileni kwabo. Isibonelo, ngezempilo noma ngemali. Ezithembisweni zokuphumelela okusheshayo kwempumelelo yezezimali, uhlelo lokukhangisa lwezinga eliphezulu lwakhiwe. Emihlanganweni ejwayelekile, abadayisi bezokuthengisa batshela ukuthi bafeze kanjani izinhlelo ezibonakala zingekho; ngonyaka abawuthola wona amaphupho abo; njengoba kusukela ekusetshenzisweni kwemikhiqizo yabo baye bahluma izinwele kwi-bald patch yabo, banomzimba wokushisa, njll njalonjalo. Bahlabelela amaculo, bamemeza amagama - iziqinisekiso ezifanayo. Umphumela ukwethulwa kwezinkulungwane zabantu ngendlela efana ne-trance, noma injabulo yokuhlambalaza. "Ekuzileni kwengqondo, ukuxilongwa kuyaziwa - ingqondo ye-manic-depression. Isigaba esicindezelayo sibonakala ngomuzwa wokuthi akukho ikusasa, i-manic - umuzwa wokuthi awukho okwedlulele, konke kusemqoka, konke kungenzeka. Kulo mhlaba, umuntu ungenakunqotshwa, unomdlandla, akakwazi ukulala, angadli ... Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umthombo usuphelile, futhi ukucindezeleka, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, izifo ze-somatic ziqala. Isimo somuntu wezentengiselwano sezentengiselwano sinenzuzo kubaphathi bawo, ngakho-ke kugcinwa njalo - ngosizo lwezincwadi, imithetho yezinkampani, imihlangano, izinkomfa.
Umsebenzi wabaholi ukugxila phansi bese uqoqa inzuzo.
Esinye isibonelo sokuheha ukuphathwa kwengqondo enhle ekufezeni impumelelo yezezimali: "Uhluphekile, ngoba awuvumeli ukukholelwa ukuthi ufanelwe okuningi. Kholelwa ukuthi endaweni ethile kukhona umholo wezinkulungwane eziyizinkulungwane ezingu-10 zamaRandi, okuhloselwe wena - bese uyothola nakanjani. " Isitatimende esifanayo sisezincwadini eziningi ezinesihloko esithi "Ungaba kanjani umgidi, hhayi ikakhulukazi ukucindezela."
Ukukhuthaza ukuqiniseka okunjalo cishe akunakwenzeka phakathi nokucindezeleka empilweni yowesifazane wesimanje. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umphumela ohlukile kungenzeka: ukubeka umgomo ongenamabomu ongenamabomu kudlula ukuzethemba. "Uma ngithola kancane izikhathi ezinhlanu kunami, nginephutha, futhi ngeke ngithande mina ngize ngiwuthole. Futhi uma ngingayitholi, ngiyadumala kakhulu. Nansi indaba evela kumkhuba wami. Iklayenti, owesifazane osemusha, ngesikhathi esisodwa wanquma ukuthi ufuna ukuthola ngokushesha imali ethile futhi enze ibhizinisi. Indlela yokuthola imali? Ubufebe. Wabalwa ukuthi eminyakeni emithathu wayezohlanganisa i-capital capital, bese ekhohlwa ngakho konke, atshade futhi aqale impilo entsha. Ukucabanga okuhle okuhle: ikusasa alinamafu, kukhona umshado nezingane, kanti eminyakeni ezayo akuyona mina, akuyona impilo yami, indlela yokufeza lokho okufunayo. Wenza kanjalo, wafaka imali yonke ayitholile - futhi washisa, futhi wayesenokuningi okumelwe akwenze. Futhi ucabanga ukuthi wenzani? Nganquma ukubuyela esikhwameni sami futhi. Khona-ke konke kuyoba kuhle ... Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi izinhlangothi zesithunzi zempilo ziqoqa futhi zidubule ngesikhathi esingaphansi kakhulu. Isibonelo, kunomuntu ohlakaniphile ofuna ukutshela umyeni wakhe konke. Futhi lowo wesifebe wangaphambili akayena umuntu ofanayo ngaphambili. Izinguquko zobuntu ezingaphenduki zenzeka. "
Kusuka kujwayelekile kuya ngqo
Ingxenye ebalulekile ye-psychology enhle ibonakala, "i-oda" yezinto oyifunayo, okuyinto iNdumo kufanele ikunikeze ngokushesha. Ngezinye izikhathi "i-oda" lenziwa, ngaphandle kwalokho abalobi abangenhla bangenalo lutho lokubhala ngalo. Kodwa lezi zincwadi azisho ukuthi zingaki ama-oda akwenziwanga.
Imfihlo yokuphumelela ayikho ngokucacile futhi emincane komsebenzi, kodwa ngokuphambene - ngokuvuleka okukhulu. Uma uzibuza wena: eholidini, ngifuna ukuchitha ubusuku esiqhingini esingaphansi kwesibhakabhaka eseningizimu, eselwandle lolwandle, ngakwesokunene sami kwakukhona izihlahla ezintathu zezandla, futhi ngakwesobunxele imvula ibe ngamamitha amahlanu phezulu, lesi sifiso cishe ngeke sigcwaliseke - indawo emhlabeni ingase ingabi nakancane. Kuyindaba ehlukile uma ubeka umgomo: Ngifuna ukuchitha iholide ezithakazelisayo, njengangingakaze ngiyenze; Ngifuna adventure! Lokhu kwakha kwenza umzimba uhlelwe ngandlela-thile: siqala ukungaboni ngokucophelela amathuba esingawaqapheli ngaphambili.
Umculi odumile waseKievá Natalia Isupova wanquma ngo-1998 ukuthenga indlu yokuhlala futhi wathola lokho ayekuphuphile. Amanani ngaleso sikhathi awela kakhulu, kodwa ama-dollar angu-15 000 ayinani elikhulu. Khona-ke, u-fan of zonke izinhlobo ze-esotericism, waphendukela endaweni yonke ngesicelo "sokuthumela" imali yakhe. "Ngaqala ukuthola imiyalo, ngathola ngokushesha izinkulungwane eziyisihlanu, futhi iningi lalahlekelwa yindodana," kusho umculi, uqiniseke ukuthi lokhu kwaba "impendulo" yendawo yonke. Eqinisweni, lokhu kuwumfanekiso ophelele wendlela yokusesha amathuba okwenzeka ngayo. Kusobala ukuthi ekuqaleni uNataliya wenqaba ukwenza umsebenzi owengeziwe, futhi indodana yakhe yayingafuni ukufaka izicelo. Kodwa isifiso sokuthenga indlu kwakukhulu kakhulu kangangokuthi samphoqa ukuba angenele - futhi ngenxa yalokho wathola lokho ayekufunayo.
Inkolelo yakhe "ekucabangeni okuhle" akulimazanga muntu. U-Isupova ubelokhu enethemba lokuphila, othanda ukuphila nokuzimelela, futhi izincwadi ezivela ochungechungeni ethi "Zisiza wena" zamqinisekisa ukuthi ukufaneleka kwesimo sokuphila kuyamqinisekisa. Kodwa indaba yilezi zithi ukucabanga kwengqondo okuhle kudlalwa yibo abanenkinga nge "I" yabo!
Umngane wami wabhekana nesahlukaniso esibuhlungu. Wayebuhlungu ngokuphindaphindiwe ngoba abazali bakhe baphumelela kakhulu abantu abahlala emshadweni ojabulisayo, futhi indodakazi iye yazama njalo ukuhlangabezana nokulindela kwabo, futhi, ukuba "iqhawe" kukho konke. Ngemva kwesahlukaniso, waba ngummeleli wezentengiselwano wezinye zezinkampani zokuzithokozisa. Kulo mkhakha kwakukhona isazi sezengqondo esisebenza ngabasebenzi abafundisa abesifazane ukuthi babe nombono omuhle wezwe futhi bachaza ukuthi uma kunjalo ukucubungula i-cilia futhi ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ukhilimu, impilo izoba ngcono. Umngane wami wenza konke lokhu, waqala ukuzizwa engcono futhi ebukeka, wayekholelwa yena futhi washada okwesibili. Kodwa ngokushesha umshado omusha ube nezinkinga ezifanayo njengangaphambili. Kuyinto engokwemvelo - emva kwakho konke, ukuzethemba ngokuzimela nokukholelwa ukuthi konke kungenzeka - nje ukwakheka okufihla ukuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo. Uma unesibindi esigulayo, isisekelo, ngokuqinisekile, sizofihla ibala elibi, kodwa ngaphakathi kwalo lizohamba inqubo yokubola!
Yehla emhlabeni
Ngakho-ke, ingqondo engokwenyama - i-pshik, inkohliso, inhlamba? Cha nakancane. Yindlela nje yokuyisebenzisa. Kusukela emphakathini wethu emakhulwini eminyaka kunqunyiwe ukushiya umthwalo kuNkulunkulu, uhulumeni, umbuso, labo abakuzungezile, ngakho abalandeli be-psychology enhle balwela ukunikeza imiphefumulo yabo imithwalo yemfanelo ye-egregors, izingelosi, i-Universe. Emphakathini waseMelika, lapho lokhu kuqondiswa khona kwengqondo kuzalwa khona, abantu basebenzisa ukuzibophezela ngokwabo, ngakho isimo sabo sengqondo esihle siba imizamo yangempela yokufeza umgomo. Zama ukuphendula umbuzo olula: yini ezokwenzeka uma ukwandiswa kwamaholo akho? Yiziphi izifiso zakho namaphupho akho aba yiqiniso? Imiphi imizamo oyenzayo ukuze uzuze yona? Kubonakala - i-nuance. Kodwa ukulala ngombono wemali engenayo yinto eyodwa, kodwa ngomcabango wokuthi namhlanje wenze konke ongakwenza, ngenxa yephupho lakho - okunye okunye. Futhi okuhle okwesibini kungaphezulu kakhulu.
Ngikumema ukuba wehle ezulwini ufike emhlabeni futhi ubheke nxazonke. Uzobona amathemba aphihliwe, amaphupho ashiyiwe, izifiso ezishiywe eceleni futhi, yiqiniso, izimo ezibulalayo nezithiyo ezingenakunqotshwa abantu ababhekana nazo endleleni eya emgomweni. Maye, impilo ayikho ngaphansi kokulawula kwethu okuphelele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sifuna kangakanani lokhu. Uma ufuna ukuhlekisa uNkulunkulu, mtshele ngamasu akho. Ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukubeka imigomo, uma kungenjalo konke ezandleni zethu, uma konke kungaphumelela? Yebo! Ngiyakumema ukuba ube nesibindi futhi uthathe ngokungathí sina izifiso zakho, bese ubabekela imigomo yokusebenzisa impilo yakho ekusebenziseni nasekuphumeleleni kwawo. Ubuciko bokuphila yikhono lokuhlala emgqeni omuhle, lapho izifiso zomuntu nokuzimisela ukwamukela konke okuthumela ukuphila kwethu kuhlanganisiwe. Ukuthola leli bhalansi, hhayi isifiso esiyingozi sokukwenza konke okuphelele ekuphileni, yimfihlo yokukhanya kanye nobuhlobo obuhambelana nezwe.