Ngokwenza njalo, le nkinga iyokwaziwa ukuthi: "umyeni usuke engathandeki" (uma ungumfazi) noma "manje sengimdabukile" (uma ungumyeni). Lokhu kungenzeka kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhululekile kangakanani ngokuphila noma nokuba nomndeni onothando nomsebenzi. Izindlela zokwelapha ziyahlukahluka, imithi iyodwa. Nokho, ake sizame ukwakha uhlelo lokwelapha.
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Abaningi banamadoda. Ngokuhle kakhulu, ngokusebenza kanzima, hhayi othandekayo kakhulu nangokwehluleka kwabo: ngokujwayelekile, njengokuthi "bakuthintela" ebusheni babo futhi bahudula ngaphansi kwe-wreath. Uhlala nabo unyaka noma amabili noma eyishumi futhi ngokungazelelwe uqaphele ukuthi ekufinyeleleni kokugubha iminyaka engu-40, ushintshile kude kakhulu. Ngaphambili, wayenomthwalo wemfanelo kanye nesinyathelo, futhi manje esesimweni sokucindezeleka okungapheli , uwela eseceleni emva kokushiyeka okuncane, uhlale ekhononda ngokuphila kwakhe futhi uzama ukuphikisa isimo esihloniphekile sobulili obuqinile manje. Isizathu sokuphumula kwengqondo kubhekwa njengokukhathala, ngezinye izikhathi uyeluleka ukumshiya yedwa noma ukukhamuluka kubantwana nawe.
Noma kunjalo, lokhu akuhlali njalo. Uma nje usula izinyembezi zakho, swayineza ukubuza umama wakho efonini uma engaqedi ikamelo lakho endlini yasebuntwaneni, ulale, njengoba indoda iqhuma igcwele intshiseko namandla. Ujabule, usebenza futhi ugcwele izinhlelo ezinhle kakhulu: ukuba abe umqondisi webhange, ukwakha i-dacha, ukuvula i-Galaxy entsha nokuya enkundleni yaseshashalazini nezingane. Wena, yebo, ujabule: "Konke, kudlule ukucindezeleka!" Kodwa cha, ngosuku olulandelayo uphinde uthole umlingani ohluphekile ekuqotheni embhedeni nasemicabangweni yokubola. Ngoba ingqondo yakhe ayinakuqondiswa.
Futhi amadoda azinzima ahlale ezwa kabi . Lokhu kungenye yezimpawu ezisemqoka zenkinga yokuphila phakathi kwamadoda. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, i-paws isuke futhi umsila uwela kuphela emcabangweni wakhe. "Gxilisa amalunga - mhlawumbe, i-arthritis; ikhanda lishaya kancane - maduzane uhlangothi; inhliziyo yami ishaya ngamandla - ukufa kwami ​​kuyobangela ukuthi i-infarction ye-myocardial, "umyeni wakho angasho njalo. Futhi uya odokotela, abuyele embukisweni kaMalakhov futhi athenge amavithamini ezimbizeni ezikhanyayo. Ukuqaphela ukuziphatha okufanayo komlingani wakho, ngaphandle kokunyusa, ungasho ukuthi unempilo njengoba inkunzi inqunywe, wesaba ukuguga.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenxa yokuthi abaneminyaka engama-30 amadoda amaningi aphinde abe nomuzwa omncane, aqala ukubheka omncane . Ngakho-ke, uma ngelinye ilanga uqonda ukuthi oshade naye udweba izinwele, wathenga imoto yemidlalo ebomvu, ufaka amacici egolide ezindlebeni zakho, ungasho ngokuphepha ukuthi "siyabonga!" Ekuhluphekeni okuphakathi. Amadoda asebancane nawo avame ukushaya isicoco esinzima. Bathanda ukusho ukuthi babenjani futhi babehlakaniphile lapho bebancane, futhi babonisa ukoma wokuphila, okuyinto engeyona engokwemvelo yobudala babo - isibonelo, umenzi wokuzenzela uzothuthukisa, iziphuzo ze-teetotal nabangani esangweni, futhi indoda enomyeni nomuntu onesizotha inakekela unobhala we-boss.
Ngokuqinisekile, esinye sezibonakaliso ezidabukisayo kakhulu phakathi nenkinga yobudala phakathi kwamadoda yileyo nkinga amadoda ajwayele ukukhashelwa . Njengoba bethi, kunesidingo kunoma yimuphi owesifazane, noma kunjalo, ngeke ukwazi ukudla isidleke esisodwa, yiqiniso, ucabange ngale nkinga umyeni futhi uqale "ukuthatha" omisiwe ngamakhilogremu. Ngempela, ngempela, uma usemncane, khona-ke ngokushesha kuzo zonke izinto: ubuyekeze ikhabethe, indlu, imoto nomfazi. Kodwa-ke, lokho kuyinto enyanyekayo, umfazi uyazi ukuthi "akayona leyo ndawo engakafiki ngaphambili", kanti insizwa encane, enganakwa ngengqondo kanye nezingubo ezengeziwe, izomthola i-macho egcwele. Ngeshwa, imizamo yomyeni yokwenza ngezinqubo zokuvuselela ohlangothini yabhubhisa ngaphezulu komunye umshado.