Lapho siseyingane, sithonywa kakhulu ngabazali, esikoleni sithonywa yizingane esikoleni kanye nabo othisha. Futhi kukhona ukukhangisa, uhulumeni. Uhlu luqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Emva kwakho konke, ukuphila kuyinkimbinkimbi eqondile yazo zonke izinhlobo zamathonya. Ithonya lendoda engowesifazane likhulu kakhulu empilweni yethu futhi ngokuphambene - ithonya lowesifazane kumuntu. Umbuzo onamandla awo angalungile, ngoba njalo uholela ekupheleni kokufa. Futhi indoda ithinta kanjani owesifazane?
Kuye kwaphawulwa isikhathi eside ukuthi imibhangqwana eseye yahlala ndawonye ngenjabulo isikhathi eside ifana kakhulu. Oshadile abanalo nje imikhuba efanayo, izintandokazi, zize zifane nakwezinye izindlela ngezindlela ezithile. Njengomfowethu nodadewethu. Ubani owashukumisa ukuthi ubani ohlala ndawonye isikhathi eside? Owesifazane? Indoda? Kukhona ukuhlakazeka okujulile komuntu oyedwa komunye. Abantu bathi lokhu: "thola umlingani womphefumulo." Kodwa-ke, imibhangqwana yokugubha imishado yabo yegolide ingaphansi kakhulu kwamadoda nabesifazane abaye bahlala ndawonye okwesikhashana futhi bahlukanisa ngokushesha, babaleka. Futhi isizathu sezindiza ezinjalo sihlale sifana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sigqoka kanjani lesi sizathu sisetshenziselwa) - hhayi izingxenye ezihlukene zethonya.
Umlobi ophawulekayo uDavid Samoilov unemizila ehlakaniphile: "Wonke umuntu ukhetha owesifazane, inkolo, inkululeko ..." Indoda njalo, ezingeni eliphansi, lifuna owesifazane ofana nomama wakhe. Kuye wajwayele futhi uyaqaphela ukuthi uyazama "ukufundisa" owesifazane wakhe, ukuba "amlingane" nesithombe somama wakhe. Lokhu akuphathelene nemingcele yangaphandle, kodwa mayelana nomthelela kumlingisi, imikhuba, ukubuka umhlaba.
Owesifazane uhlale ehlala njalo, futhi ezingeni elingaqondakali, efuna indoda efana noyise. Futhi ifuna ukuthonya lo muntu, ukuyibuyisela ngaphansi kwesithombe sakhe. Lapha ngezinye izikhathi sifunda lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "kutholakala i-scythe etsheni." Owesifazane, evikela ukuzimela kwakhe, esaba ukwesaba okunjalo, esaba ukuhlakazeka futhi, eselahlekelwe ubuso bakhe, abe yipopi ezandleni zomuntu onamandla. Le ndoda, evikela "uqobo" wayo, iyesaba ukuba ihlotshwe. Uma ababili bengenalo ukuhlakanipha kwezwe ukuqonda lokho abafunayo komunye nomunye ngokuqondile ezingeni elingenakuqonda, okungukuthi, akukho isifiso "sokungena esikhunjeni somunye", impi yezocansi iqala. Kule mpi yezocansi ngezinhlobo zethonya, azikho abawinile.
Esinye isazi sezengqondo sichaza umbono wokuthi "uthando" lufihla ukuphishekela impumelelo nokuqashelwa. Kulokhu, usengenzela ukuxosha induduzo engokomoya. Indoda ithinta kanjani owesifazane ukuze afinyelele lokho akufunayo? Ithonya lamadoda owesifazane livulekile kakhulu, lingcwelisiwe futhi lihlakaniphile kunomfazi. Ngendlela, hamba ngokusebenzisa amabhuku okubhuka. Lapho uzobona izincwadi eziningi zibuza imibuzo ehlakaniphile "Indlela yokukhohlisa umuntu? 2, kanjani ukunqoba umphikisi?", "Ungashada kanjani?" kanye ne-apotheosis yemibuzo yonke "Ungaba kanjani i-bitch?". Kukhona okungazange kuhlangane nencwadi yamadoda "Ungaba kanjani u-scoundrel?". Zonke lezi zinsiza zifundisa owesifazane ukuthonya umuntu: ngobuqili, ukucindezela, ukubekezela, ukuzithoba, ukudlala ngothando, izinyembezi, amahloni, ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu - ukuphelelwa amandla nokusongela ukuhamba kuze kube phakade. Ngamagama, konke ngesikhathi esisodwa awukwazi ukukhumbula.
Ithonya lamadoda kubantu besifazane liqondakala ngokucacile: izimbali, izipho, ukuncoma, izifiso ezinzima, imiyalo, ukushiya ekhaya. Futhi empeleni, kungani kuqondakala okunjalo? Ukuqamba, ukuzithoba, ukuthambekela kubumbene kuphela kwabesifazane. Cha! Iphuzu eliphelele ukuthi kusukela ekuqaleni umuntu ulawulwa futhi uholwa owesifazane. Kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe, umfana omncane uphoqeleka ukuba aziphathe ngendlela okuthandwa ngayo umama wakhe, umfana. Phela, ukusinda kwakhe kuxhomeke ngokuphelele kubesifazane. Kodwa iminyaka iyahamba, futhi umfana uyazi ukuthi uhlukile, ukuthi akayona intombazane, kodwa indoda. Futhi kusukela lapha - umbhikisho ovulekile ngokumelene "nemicibisholo nemicu" ebuhlotsheni. Zonke izimfanelo zabantu zomuntu azizona izihambi, kodwa ukuzisebenzisa ngokuphathelene nabesifazane? Siyabonga! Akufani nendoda. Kanjalo kwazalwa inkolelo yokuziphatha kwabafazi nabesilisa. Futhi ithonya lendoda owesifazane ovele khona.
Konke lokhu "izikhali ezilula nezinamandla" empini yezocansi zethonya, ngoba indawo yalo ngaphansi kwelanga isetshenziswe ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi izinga lokubaluleka kwalo lizokwehla.