Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuhlambalaza kungase kuzwakale kanjani amadoda, abesifazane empeleni banokuzithokozisa futhi banolwazi oluthe xaxa ekushayela imoto. Lokhu kubonisa olunye lwezifundo ezinkulu kakhulu eziqhathanisa amakhono okushayela wesifazane nowesilisa.
Ochwepheshe baye bahlola izinto zokwelashwa ngamashumi ezinkulungwane zezenzakalo zomgwaqo nezokuthutha eYurophu, futhi "abesifazane bahola kangcono kunamadoda." Kuzo zonke izimo, ngisho namaphesenti angu-35 ezingozi zabangelwa amaphutha abesifazane.
Abantu abaqhuba lolu cwaningo, bakholelwa ukuthi umehluko uhlukile kakhulu esibonelweni sabamele abangekho iminyaka ekhulile kakhulu. Futhi konke ngoba abashayeli besifazane abancane kunabo bonke abaziphatha ngokucophelela emgwaqeni kunokuba bebaneminyaka yabo, abanye abashayeli. Amaphesenti angu-25 kuphela ezingozi zomgwaqo ezenziwa ngamantombazane.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi lezo zingozi lapho abahlukumezi besifazane ababengazange babe khona, futhi ukulimala kwakulula kakhulu. Abesifazane abavami ukugibela ngesivinini esikhulu futhi bahlale beboshwe ngamabhande esihlalo.
Akukho lutho olungakusho, amaqiniso. Lapha ezitaladini zaseKazakhstan, futhi, ungathola i-hack ngesimo sentombazane - kuyiqiniso. Iphole elihle lapho lihlezi ngemuva kwesondo lemoto, libhekisela emotweni futhi lihamba ngokushayela ngokucophelela kanye nokuqapha okufanayo nekhaya lakho. Uma imoto ithengiswa owesifazane, khona-ke bayayithenga ngokushesha nangokuningi ngokuzithandela. Ngakho-ke, thina, kubantu besifazane, amadoda asadingeka afunde.
Kodwa amadoda avame ukutshela ukuthi umshini nabesifazane kukhona imiqondo emibili engavumelani ngokuphelele, futhi bayakuqonda. Kungani kufihla ukwesaba komncintiswano, u-chauvinism wesilisa ...
Kodwa uma izinto ezinjalo zizwakala izindebe zabesifazane - kuba okungaqondakali ngokuphelele! Kungani abesifazane bengakwazi ukuqonda ukuhamba? Yini ebavimba? Izinganekwane!
Inkolelo yenombolo 1. Imoto inzima kakhulu!
Othandekayo besifazane, imoto iyinqubekela phambili efanayo kanye nokuphumelela kwempucuko, njenge-oven microwave, umshini wokuwasha, umakhalekhukhwini noma ikhompyutha. Ngakho kungani ungasebenzisa noma iyiphi indlela, futhi uyayinqabela imoto?
Futhi kuyiqiniso, ngoba akekho owenzela wena futhi angagcini ukugeza izingubo emgodini, sebenzisa i-pigeon mail kanye nezikweletu zokhuni. Awufuni ukuya ehlezi emotweni efudumele futhi eyomile, ngenkathi ushisayo, ebanda, nasebusweni obubandayo emaqenjini futhi ugoqa emabhasi aqhutshiwe nama-trolleybuses? Kwenzeka kuphela ngoba isikhathi esithile, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kwakuyindoda yakho, yakuholela ekhanda ukuthi imoto ingumlingiswa womuntu kuphela.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesi-2. Uma owesifazane eqhuba imoto, ulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakhe.
Le myth akudingi ngisho nokuphikisana, ngoba ngokushesha kucacile ukuthi lokhu kuyisihluku kakhulu! Eqinisweni, ngisho nalapho owesifazane eqhuba imoto iminyaka eyishumi, usalokhu ehlala owesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ushayela imoto ngendlela ehlukile, njengowesifazane. Futhi kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi, njengokungathi lawo madoda angakusho, kuhle kakhulu ukuthi owesifazane unemoto ngendlela yakhe.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesithathu. Owesifazane ekuqaleni uhleleke kangangokuthi akakwazi ukuqonda indlela yokushayela imoto.
Eqinisweni, leli qiniso laqalwa ngamadoda asaba kakhulu ukuthi lo wesifazane, ikakhulukazi umkakhe noma intombazane, uzokwenza ukuthi imoto ibe ngcono kunalokho abakwenzayo.Empeleni, ukwesaba kwabo kulungile. Ubulili obuhle kunethuba lonke futhi ukuthambekela kokuba ngcono kakhulu ebhizinisini kunalokho, isibonelo, abafana babo, amadoda noma abangane. Phonsa ama-stereotypes ekhanda lakho, ngoba kukhona okungezona inkathazo kumuntu wesifazane, okuyosivimbela ukushayela! Kodwa-ke, kunezinto eziningi ezenza kube ngcono ukuba ngcono kunamadoda!
Inkolelo yenombolo 4. Ukuze ufunde ukuphuza, udinga ukuchitha iminyaka eminingi.
Mhlawumbe, leli qiniso laqalwa kakade ngabesifazane abavele bafuna kancane noma belibale isikhathi sokuhamba esikoleni sokushayela. Ngokwemvelo, owesifazane ngamunye uqobo ngabanye, yingakho ukuqeqesha kuthatha isikhathi esithile. Kodwa-ke, ngokwesilinganiso, uma ufundiswa umfundisi omuhle, khona-ke ezinyangeni ezimbalwa uzoba umshayeli omuhle futhi uzizwe uqiniseka ngesondo, kodwa hhayi isikhathi eside.
Kodwa ngisho nangemva kokuba uthole amalungelo futhi uwedwa nemoto, ungase ukhathazeke kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusona isikhathi eside futhi wonke umuntu uyadlula. Uma uzokwenza nsuku zonke, isibonelo, uye emsebenzini, bese ngenyanga uzobe usuqinisekile emgwaqeni, futhi uma sekuyingxenye yonyaka uzokhohlwa ngokuphelele ukuthi la magolo ayathuthumela kanjani futhi uqale ukuzizwa ujabule lapho ushayela imoto.
Inkolelo yenkolelo engu-5. Indoda ingumfundisi ohamba phambili.
Uma ufuna ukufunda empeleni ukushayela imoto, ungalokothi uyivumele! Abesifazane abaningi banikela futhi benze iphutha elinjalo. Kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi umyeni wakho akasoze akwazi ukukufundisa indlela yokushayela imoto. Kodwa-ke, uzohlala ekhanda kuze kube nini nanini ukuthi awudingi ukushayela imoto, ukuthi awukwazi lutho ngakho, futhi awunayo izandla ngaphandle kwalokho ... Kungani? Konke ngoba yilokho akufunayo! Ngisho nalapho umyeni engazivumeli ngokwakhe! UNadele umuntu ufuna ukukukhombisa futhi akubonise ukuthi imoto nokushayela kwakhe kungukuthi umuntu uqobo. Kodwa nokho: ungahlali ngemuva kwesondo lesondo, lapho eduze komyeni wakhe ehlezi, kuphela emva kokuba uzizwe uqiniseka ngomgwaqo, ungahamba naye.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesithupha. Ukufundisa imoto engcono kakhulu kumfazi.
Lena inkolelo! Ngokuqinisekile uzothola lesi seluleko singavamile: ngisho noma ungaqondi lutho ekushayela, funda ukushayela kuphela emotweni yakho. Indoda ayikwazi ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi ushayela imoto, futhi uzohlala ebala imoto yakhe, ngisho noma ekugcineni futhi engakunikezi kahle!
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ekuziqhenyeleni kwamadoda kanye ne-chauvinism kuzophinde kwengezwe umnikazi. Ngemuva kokuhamba kwakho konke, umyeni uzothatha ngokucophelela futhi akhethe emotweni, cishe ngeglasi elikhazimulayo lizohlola zonke iziqephu (okokuqala zizovela). Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda, njengoba umthetho, enza isimemezelo sokunganeliseki nokuhlale bekhononda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda aqondi ukuthi kungani imoto ithathwa ngokunakekelwa okungaphezu kwalowo wesifazane, uma, ngempela, sikhuluma ngemoto yakhe. Vumela ngisho nokuqala!
Inkolelo yenombolo engu-7. Angikwazi ukulungisa noma ukulungisa imoto.
Abesifazane abaningi ngokuqinisekile bayavuma ukuthi into ebaluleke kunazo zonke futhi ebaluleke kunazo zonke eziyinkimbinkimbi zabo: "Futhi uma ihluleka?". Yilokho, ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, uma kukhona okungahambi kahle kulesi sakhiwo esiyingozi futhi uqala ukusebenza ngokungalungile? Empeleni, izinkinga ezinjalo zixazulula kalula futhi ngokushesha.
Ukuze uhlale uzolile ngaso sonke isikhathi, akudingekile ukuthi ufunde ukuthi umshini ungaphansi kwe-hood. Ngokuqinisekile ezinye izinkinga ezilula neziyisisekelo oyozikhumbula ngaphandle komsebenzi wamandla, ngeke udinga ukuhlakanipha okungaphezu kwamandla. Eminyakeni embalwa awukwazi ukuzulazula kude nemoto, kuphela kuyo futhi uzohamba, ngaphezu kwalokho, uzoqonda ngokugcwele futhi wazi ukuthi kuphi nokuthi kungani ubalekile, uhlehlile, uyeka ukusebenza nokunye. Noma kunjalo, into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyona into. Into eyinhloko ukuthola inkosi engumsebenzi ozoba njalo enkonzweni yakho - uzoyilungisa imoto ngokungabizi futhi ngokushesha.
Inkolelo yenkolelo engu-8. Umuntu wesabeka kakhulu umhloli wendlela yomgwaqo!
Kulesi simo, kuseduze nje ukuthi ungowesifazane, okusho ukuthi ubulili obuhlukile kunomaphoyisa wesitimela. Ngakho-ke, umshayeli wesifazane unamathemba amaningi futhi amathuba ukuthi ngeke akhokhelwa kunomuntu. Banciphisa amehlo abo, behlekisayo kancane - konke kuphelile ngobuso obuseduze bomhloli ngombhalo othi: "Ungabe usaphula!".
Inkolelo yenkolelo 9. Uzoqhutshwa ngumshayeli womuntu siqu.
Awukwazi ukuqhathanisa nanoma yikuphi inkululeko umshini enikezayo, lapho ezandleni zakho isondo lokuqondisa nangaphansi kwezinyawo zokugwedla kwe-monster ye-iron. Yiqiniso, kuzoba khona ukuqhuma kwezimoto, kuzoba nezimoto ezihlale zingenangqondo futhi zingaphephile emaphoyiseni emgwaqweni phambi kwakho, kodwa ngaleyo ndlela yokuzethemba okungenakuqhathaniswa nenkululeko ethatha uma uhamba ngezinyathelo zobusuku, awukwazi ukuqhathanisa nanoma yini! Ungazitsheli lokhu. Uzoyithanda!