Lapho uvakashela abangani noma, uthi, emsebenzini, uhlangana njalo nendoda ebukeka kahle, futhi engekho empofu ngokwanele, futhi enobungqabavu, futhi izitembu ngisho nokuqoqa, njengokwenza kwakho ebuntwaneni. Ngitshele, kungani engeyena umyeni? Ngeshwa, kunenkinga eyodwa kuphela: isikhulu somlingo asikukhathaleli. Ngakho-ke, kuzodingeka uthathe isinyathelo sonke ezandleni zakho. Nazi izindlela zokunqoba umuntu?
Gxila ngaphandle kokungabaza.
Uyanqikaza, kodwa ingabe udinga ngempela ukuzama ukunqoba inhliziyo yakhe? Yiqiniso, udinga, ngemuva kwakho konke, ngeke ulahlekelwe lutho. Ukuze wenze ubuso obumnandi bomdlalo omubi uzoba nesikhathi njalo, isibonelo, uthi: "Siphikisana nentombi ukuthi awunasithakazelo esimisweni somthetho." Ngicabanga ukuthi nginqobile! " Ungaqiniseka ukuthi kunamadoda ambalwa angakwazi ukulalela ngokuzwakalayo amagama anjalo. Ngokweqile, akukwazi ukuthi umzamo wakho omude, ongenamsebenzi wokubheka, uzobe uphumelele umqhele futhi uzophumelela ukunqoba indoda.
Yiba abangane kuqala.
Lena indlela endala, ehlolwe isikhathi - ukuze ube ngumngane obalulekile futhi engcono kakhulu okhethiweyo wakho. Njalo ugcizelela izinzuzo zalo, ulalele ngokucophelela izikhalazo bese uzama ukunikeza izeluleko ezihlakaniphile, usizo ekuxazululeni izinkinga zansuku zonke - ngezwi, uzijwayeze ukuthi uhlala khona, futhi angethemba kuwe ngezikhathi ezinzima. Ungabelana ngothando lwakhe, khona-ke uzohlale ukhona into okumele uyikhulume ngayo, futhi ngokufanele, ungakwazi ukunqoba ngokushesha umuntu. Yiqiniso, kukho konke okudingayo ukugcina isilinganiso esifanele, ngaphandle kokuwela endimeni yentombazane. Ungakhohlwa, ungumngane, hhayi nhlobo inceku noma umshayeli, ngakho gcina isithunzi sakho.
Uma othandekayo ethi / wenza okungenani isitatimende esisodwa sokunganaki noma isenzo kuwe, sikweluleka ukuthi uqedele ubuhlobo obunjalo - kwesinye isikhathi, "ukuhlushwa kwezigidi" kanye "nokulashala ukuthotshiswa" kunikezwa kuwe. Kodwa-ke, uma ubungane bukhona ngempela, ngakho-ke, konke kuhamba ngokuvumelana necebo, futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuba uqale ukufeza isigaba sokugcina. Ukuze ukunqoba umuntu kuphele, futhi kungenjalo ngandlela-thile kuyimfihlakalo, kuyokwanela nje ukuya eholidini, lapho uzophumula ngokuphelele ngaphambi kwempi yokugcina yenhliziyo yomuntu okhethiwe. Uma ubuyela uzobe uhlangene ngezandla namazwi avulekile: "Ubukeka kahle kangakanani, uyazi, ngikukhumbula," ungacabanga ukuthi amandla asetshenziswe ngokuziwayo.
Indlela yokungafani.
Kungenzeka, ngendlela, ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile, lokhu kuyindlela ehluke ngokuphelele yokunqoba umuntu. Hlela isithandwa sakho esithandekayo sokuphambana, ukushintsha ngobuqotho isifiso esivelele sokungakwazi ukufinyeleleka. Okokuqala ukhona phambi kwakhe evulekile, ngokugcizelela ukuhlonipha isithunzi sezingubo, udlala ngothando naye, uphonsa izinyembezi ezibonakalayo futhi ubonise konke okuziphatha kwakho: "Othandekayo, kuzodingeka nje ufike, futhi lapha - ngingowakho!"
Ngemuva kwesikhashana (kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha umzuzu olungile), ushintsha ukuziphatha kwakho okuphambene nalokho okuphambene nalokho: manje usuqedile kuzo zonke izinzwa zezwi, futhi amagagasi abandayo avela kuwe angabanda ngisho ne-winterer enezinkanyezi. Futhi-ke okhethiweyo wakho, okungenani, uyazibuza ukuthi kungani uhlangabezane nemisamorphosis efanayo.
Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wakuphatha kanjani ekuqaleni, uzolimala ngoba ngokungazelelwe wayeka ukukhonza kwakho. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi wena nazo zonke amakhadi ezandleni zakho: emva kokumisa okwesikhashana, udinga ukuzithoba kumuntu ompofu odidekile, ukumomotheka ngothando, uqale ingxoxo evamile, futhi uma ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu ubudlelwane bungasondeli, ngeshwa, kuzodingeka uvume ukuthi wena futhi ngempela hhayi ngokuvumelana nokuthanda kwakhe, futhi kuyoba cishe akunakwenzeka ukunqoba umuntu. Futhi endleleni, ekuqaleni uqonda lokhu, kungcono kuwe-owesifazane owathi, iminyaka eminingi engaxoshwa indoda, uyabuhlungu ngempela.