Derive ifomu lokuphumelela
Kunzima ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona ukupheka okulungiselelwe okwenziwe injabulo. Kodwa ngifuna ngempela. Mhlawumbe, ngangikuthanda ukuqeqeshwa okuhle endaweni yokuqeqesha "City Klass". Isimemezelo sokukhangisa sathembisa: "Umuntu osebenzisa isu elihle angakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo kuphela futhi aphumelele ekuphileni kwabo siqu, kodwa futhi afinyelele phezulu kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi elibandakanya ngokusemthethweni." Labo abafisa ukufika "ekugcineni" ekilasini elivulekile babuthana kanye namantombazane ayishumi kuphela. "Silindele ngempela ukubhalisa," kusho ukushayisana nomqeqeshi oqine ubulili obuqinile, uprofesa omfushane ngokubukeka okungenakuqhathaniswa komgqugquzeli weBarrymore. Amadoda ayeke ngokuphelele ukuzibandakanya. " Futhi, ebubula, uyaphazamisa imibuzo ehlangene: "Iyini impumelelo? Kuyini okugxile kakhulu? "" Angazi ukuthi yimiphi impumelelo, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi umuntu ophumelelayo ubukeka kanjani. Lo ngumphathi wami, "- kuphendula uNatasha, isisebenzi somphathi omkhulu wezomthetho. "Yebo, nami ngeke nginqabe ukuhlala esihlalweni somphathi wami," - isekela u-Irina. Omunye walabo abalaleli, uMarina oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu yokuphatha i-salon ka-salon, uthi ngamahloni ukuthi umsebenzi omuhle awuwona wonke. Ngokombono wakhe, owesifazane akakwazi ukuzizwa ephumelele uma impilo yakhe ishintsha. Umqeqeshi uyavuma, futhi siqhubeka nokuthuthukisa indlela yokuphumelela ezosifundisa umbono omuhle kukho konke, ngisho nasenkathazweni. Konke okudingeka ukwenze kukhumbule futhi ubhale phansi izikhathi lapho inhlanhla isisondeza ngokuhle: ukunqoba i-Olympiad yesikole, ukuzivikela ngokucophelela kwe-diploma noma ukujwayela nje umuntu othakazelisayo futhi odingekile uyokwenza kahle. "Manje ake sihlaziye icala ngalinye," i-guru lethu libonisa. Ngenxa yalokhu, isibonelo sokuphumelela kufanele sihlukaniswe zibe yizingxenye: yiziphi izimo, izenzo nezenzo ezivumelekile ukuba zibambe inhlanhla ngomsila. Futhi-ke, ungakhohlwa ukubhala ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo zomuntu okufanele ziboniswe ngaleso sikhathi. Ngemva kokuhlaziya amacala amahlanu noma ayisithupha okuphumelela, kuyacaca ukuthi lokho esijwayele ukucabanga ukuthi siyizifiso ezinenhlanhla empeleni kuyisithelo semizamo yethu, ngokuvamile engazi lutho.
"Ingabe kukhona ukungena? Bese ubhala ifomula lakho elihle ngokushesha, "kusho uprofesa. Kulokhu kwavela lokhu: positive = ukuvuleka kokuzibandakanya okusha + okukhuthele? "Izingxenye zefomula ziyimikhomo, okuzobe kunqotshwa ukuphumelela esikhathini esizayo," kusho uprofesa. Ngokombono wakhe, ifomula isindisa isikhathi esichithwa ekufezeni umgomo, futhi ikhombisa ukuthuthukiswa kweziphi izici okufanele zihlawulwe. Ukwandisa ukukholisa komqeqeshi kusitshela icala kusukela kumkhuba wakhe: "Nginomthengi owachitha isikhathi esiningi edala isithombe" sokunene ", ekhohlwe ngokuphelele ukuthi i-skate yakhe iwubufakazi obungenasisekelo. Ngokushesha lapho ngimsiza ukuba aqaphele lokhu, futhi waqala ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana, ukwehluleka kwaphela. "
• Ukufingqa. Ukuqeqesha amahora amathathu kwakungelona ize: ukuhambela emiphakathini eyedlule ngokuphawulekayo kwanda ukuzethemba. Abahlanganyeli bayakujabulela amafomula asanda kuthola ukuze baphumelele. Yiqiniso, lezi zifomula zifana kakhulu nomunye futhi ngisho nakakhulu eqinisweni elincane: "Ukubekezela nokusebenza konke ..."
• Ulwazi lomuntu siqu. Ngakusasa, ikhanda langiyala enkingeni enzima kakhulu, futhi ekuqaleni ngathukuthele. Kodwa-ke ngikhumbula indlela yami yokuphumelela, ngangizibukela kahle futhi ngabheka inkinga ngendlela entsha ngokuphelele. Wabuya esitokisini wangena esitsheni samanzi: -
Thola iphuzu elisha lokukhomba
Ngemuva kosuku olumatasa, ingabe uke wafika ekhaya unomuzwa wokuthi nonke niphuze wonke amandla? "Ummeli wabuza lo mqeqeshi umfana omuhle, oneminyaka emifushane ubudala. Izilaleli, eziqukethe abameleli abayisikhombisa besigamu esihle sabantu, ngamahloni agubha ikhanda lakhe. Kuyamahloni, ngoba kusuka kumfundisi okhona kukhona amandla esabekayo okuzithemba nokuzithukuthela omunye umuntu ohlala ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amasu okuphila asebenzayo ahlinzekwa yisikhungo sokuqeqeshwa Ukuphefumula Ukufezeka. "Ingabe ufuna ukuzwa amandla angaphakathi futhi uwaqondise ukufeza imiphumela oyifunayo? Wonke umuntu uyakwazi ukudala izimo azifunayo futhi ezifanelwe, "isazi sezokwelapha siqhubeka sisakaza futhi sikhombisa ukuthi izilaleli zikhetha iphuzu elisha lokuqala lokuphila kwazo. Okokuqala, umeluleki weluleka ukushiya isipiliyoni esedlule, ngisho noma sinezikhathi ezinhle. "Kodwa ngiyakhumbula njalo ukunqoba kwami kwangaphambili, futhi kuyangisiza ukuba ngifinyelele ezindaweni eziphakeme," ushaqa ikhanda lakhe, owesifazane ogama lakhe linguTamara, owesifazane oneminyaka eminingi eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala, uTamara utshela ukuthi usanda kuqaphela iphupho lakhe lokuphila - wavula i-massage , futhi manje ufuna ukwenza isikhungo sokuqeqesha nge-breech. "Isikhathi esingakanani ohlela ukuyisebenzisa ukuze uqaphele umgomo wakho?" Ucela umqeqeshi wakhe. UTamara uhlambalaza amahlombe akhe: "Akungaphansi kweminyaka emibili." Uthisha uyamangala ngokumangazayo: "Sesisanda kuboniswa amandla okubhujiswa okuhlangenwe nakho okudlule. Phela, i-Tamara isikhungo sokuqeqesha singavula ngenyanga. Kodwa yena uqobo wazihlelela isikhathi eside kakhulu. Futhi konke ngoba ukhumbula eziningi zokulibaziseka nezimo ezingalindelekile, okubhekene nazo, ukuvula i-salon. Kodwa ngubani othi bayoba ngempela? "Umqeqeshi uchaza ukuthi zonke izimpilo zethu senza kuphela lokho esikudala ukuziphatha, sigxile kulokho okwakunjalo. L kufanele uqale nsuku zonke nge-slate ehlanzekile. "Ukuqala nanoma yiliphi ibhizinisi, zibuze: ukuqala kwami, ngalesi sikhathi esithile kule ndawo ethile," kusho ummeli. Ngokusho kwakhe, le ndlela iyasebenza kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila. Futhi kumuntu siqu kufaka phakathi. "Injabulo ngezinye izikhathi isinyathelo esisodwa kuphela, hhayi inkulungwane eyodwa," umqeqeshi uyaqhubeka futhi unikeza abalaleli isabelo sokubukeza yonke imigomo yangaphakathi yokukhipha ngaphandle kokuthembela ekuhlangenwe nakho okudlule. Lena yindlela kuphela yokuqeda ukunganaki okuqoqiwe eminyakeni edlule, nokuqonda amandla akho ngendlela enhle.
Funda ukuxhumana
Ngokwemvelo, abantu abangakwazi ukukhulumisana kangcono kunabanye ngokuvamile baphumelela kangcono, abazi ukuthi ukungaqiniseki noma ukuhlukumeza, umqeqeshi uyaqhubeka. Ukuxhumana okuphumelelayo kuyisihluthulelo se-100% esihle kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila. "Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi ngaphansi kwegama elithi" ukukhulumisana "angisho ukuthi" ukukhuluma "ngandlela-thile, uthisha uyaxwayisa. Abanye bakhuluma kahle, kodwa baxoxe ngokudabukisayo. Sethulwa kumanani futhi: empeleni amagama, okuqukethwe kwabo kungu-1/6 kuphela kwevolumu yokuxhumana. Futhi isisindo yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-nonverbal: ukuthinta, ukumomotheka, izwi lezwi, ukuthambekela kwekhanda, - okungenani 5/6. Khona-ke siboniswa amasu avumela lokhu okungabonakali ukuthi kuhlolwe futhi kulawulwe. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu ezincane kunazo zonke zokuziphatha kwe-interlocutor: ukuthambekela kwekhanda, ukunqunywa kwamajwabu amehlo, ukusetshenziswa kwamagama athile. Khona-ke, ngangokunokwenzeka ungene ezweni lomunye umuntu, ufanane naye, ungene esimweni sakhe. Emva kwalokhu, umxhumanisi oqala ukuzwa izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokuthembela kuwe, ukukhulumisana kwakho kuyasondelana kakhulu, - umqeqeshi uthi. Ngakho, ushintsha ngisho nesitha kumngane. Ingabe lesi akusona isizathu sokubheka okuhle empilweni