Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuthanda nokuthandwa. Futhi ake abafazi besho izikhathi eziyinkulungwane ukuthi abadingi amadoda, ngenhliziyo, wonke amakhosikazi amaphupho okudingekayo, ayifunayo, okuhle kakhulu futhi okumangalisayo kunayo. Yebo, kuyinto encane kakhulu futhi elula, mhlawumbe, iphelelwe yisikhathi. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, bonke abesifazane babekade beyingane yamantombazane amancane, awakhuliswa ngezinganekwane ngezikhulu. Lezo zindoda ezinhle kakhulu, ezinomusa nezokuqonda ezikwazi ukukuthanda kanye nokuphila konke, ngisho kanye ngaphandle kokukubona. Yiqiniso, ukuphila kuyinto enhle kakhulu. Ngeke kube yinto elula futhi enhle kakhulu, futhi phakathi kwamadoda wanamuhla akunakwenzeka ukuhlangabeza isikhulu. Yiqiniso, endaweni ethile konke-lezi zibonelo eziyingqayizivele zihlala, kodwa zivame kakhulu ezinkathini zethu, njengama-pandas nama-tiger ahlasele. Amadoda anamuhla awacabangi ngothando. Baqala ukukholelwa emangalisweni futhi bebuhlungu. Yingakho, ngokuvamile, amantombazane azibuza: yini okufanele yenze ukuze indoda ithande kakhulu?
Njengoba akusikali ukuvuma, kodwa abafana banamuhla kufanele baqhubeke. Kukhona izilingo eziningi kakhulu emhlabeni wethu, futhi bona, amadoda ethu, athambekele kakhulu kwizingubo eziqhakazile ukuthi awusoze ube nesikhathi sokubheka iso, njengoba kakade kungekho. Yingakho, ukuze ugcine umuntu omthandayo (futhi uyamthanda, ngoba akekho ozokhathazeka ngokungathandeki futhi okungadingekile) kuzo zonke izenzo zakho nezenzo zakho, kufanele ngandlela-thile ulandele ukuziphatha kwawo okuqala.
Wonke umuntu emphefumulweni ungumzingeli. Futhi owesifazane kuye, lena yindoda efanayo, okwakuyixosha kuyo izintaba nezinkulungwane zezinkulungwane nezinkulungwane zeminyaka edlule. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho ebamba naye, ngokushesha nje lapho eyeka, ngesikhathi esifanayo, isithakazelo sanyamalala. Ngakho nabesifazane. Nganginaso isikhathi sokuyivula, ngithembele, yikho konke. Uyakhathazeka, ukhululekile, futhi usevele efuna i-roe deer entsha. Ngakho-ke kufanele ukwenze ukwenzani indoda ithande kakhulu - unesithakazelo kubafundi bethu
Yingakho, umthetho wokuqala ongabhalwanga uthi: ungalokothi uvule ngokuphelele othandekayo wakho ngokuphelele. Awudingi ukumtshela yonke imininingwane yakho, yazisa ngesinyathelo ngasinye, ubuyekeze zonke izingxoxo ngefoni. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele udlale ama-secret agents, ufihle ngocingo olusezingeni lokugezela bese uphendula yonke imibuzo ngokuthula okungavamile. Kukho konke okudingayo ukwazi isilinganiso.
Ngezinye izikhathi akufanelekile ukushiwo noma yimiphi imininingwane, ungaqali kuqala ukukutshela ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe ngosuku. Yebo, futhi ithubhu, ngendlela, awukwazi futhi ukuyithatha. Ngezinye izikhathi. Ukuphazamiseka okukhanyayo komhawu akuphazamisi. Othandekayo wakho kufanele akuthembele. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungabi ngokuphelele futhi uqiniseke ngokuphelele ukuthi uzohlala kuze kube phakade nokuthi ngeke ushintshe noma yini.
Lona inomboro yesigaba ezimbili: ungayinikezi ngokuphelele. Awudingi ukuphinda nsuku zonke ukuthi impilo yakho, umoya, ukudla kanye namanzi. Akudingeki ukuthi uqinisekise othandekayo ukuthi uzogcwalisa noma yisiphi isicelo. Ngisho nokulimaza yena ngokwakhe. Uma ukwenze kwacaca ukuthi ngaphandle kwakho awunjalo, uma ushilelekile kuwo, ngaleyo ndlela ulahlekelwa ubunikazi bakho, khona-ke usanda kuba into yayo. Futhi ngisho nezinto zakho ozithandayo zisalimaza. Futhi uma edlala nawe, sekwephuzile kakhulu ukukhala futhi ucele: yini okufanele uyenze ukuze wenze indoda ithande ngaphezulu. Ngoba uthando seluphele.
Ngendlela, mayelana nothando nokukhuluma kwalo. Lo mbuzo ungabhekwa ukuthi ubusa abathathu. Akudingeki ukuthi uthole imibuzo yomfana: "Uyangithanda?", "Ngitshele ukuthi kungani ungakhulumi kangako ngothando?", "Angikudingi?", Njll. Psychology yamadoda ihluke ngokuphelele kwabesifazane. Abafana baqinisekisa imizwa yabo ngezenzo kunamazwi. Yingakho, abaqondi nje ukuthi kungani besho uma konke kusobala. Futhi ukugodla kwakho kubangele kubathukuthele.
Futhi siphenduka ukuze sibuse ezine: ungafaki. Ungafaki uthando, ungafaki imibono, ungafaki ukugcinwa. Ngokukhethekile ukugcinwa. Ukhathazeka ukuthi ngabe ugqoke ngokufudumele, ngabe udla kahle yini, ulalele itekisi, ukuze aphume ebhodini abebenabangane bakhe. Uyazi ukuthi ungubani? Ungumama. Ingabe udinga ngempela ingane eneminyaka eminengi eyobe ingenangqondo, ihlele izigcawu bese ikuphatha, wazi ukuthi uzomthethelela noma ngabe yikuphi? Yebo akunjalo.
Kumele ube yinkosikazi, ayivikelayo, ukuthi iyini inkathazo nokuthi uyesaba ukulahlekelwa yini. Khumbula: uyakhathazeka ngomuntu othandekayo, futhi ukumhlonipha izinto ezihluke ngokuphelele. Kukho konke kufanele kube nencazelo yegolide. Lokho esikhuluma ngakho ekubuseni kwesihlanu: ukuvimbela. Yonke imizwelo yakho kufanele ibe njengolwandle esimweni esihle sezulu, lapho umoya oshisayo uqhuba amagagasi amancane ogwini. Futhi uma la magagasi aphenduka abe yijubane lesishiyagalolunye - phula i-alamu. Ngoba indoda yakho isivele isishaya kuzo zonke izinsimbi. Amantombazane angabe esukuma futhi esaba ukuveza imizwelo ngokweqile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyithando, injabulo, ukufutheka noma izinyembezi. Yiba nokuhlakanipha. Ufuna ukugoqa ama-hysterics - kungcono ushiye ekamelweni, uhambe, wenze noma yini ukuze wenze imizwelo ihambe. Amadoda akhathazekile kakhulu ngenxa yokuzola okuzolile, okubandayo. Kodwa ukukhala kwakho kuyacasula futhi kusiza ukuguqula konke. Khumbula ukuthi zingaki lezi zihlukumezi ezaqala ngeqiniso lokuthi unecala, futhi ekugcineni, usuvele unecala. Ngakho faka iziphetho.
Futhi nje ube yindodakazi yangempela. Owesifazane ocebisa, kodwa akachazi, uyasiza, kodwa akafaki, uyathanda, kodwa akahambisani nothando lwakhe.
Umzingeli wakho kumele azi ukuthi i-roe deer ingase iphele ngemuva kwesihlahla. Cha, akahlose ukwenza lokhu, futhi akamesabi. Kodwa uyakwazi. Ngoba uyindoda enamandla futhi ekhululekile. Angakwazi ukuvuselela impilo, unamandla kanye namakhono okufinyelela okuningi. Futhi akasoze alahleka uma ephenduka ukuba yedwa. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi udinga ukwesekwa nokuqonda kwakhe, ukulungele ukwenza izinto ezithintekayo nokuxazulula izinkinga. Kodwa awusoze waba yi-puppet engacabangi ezandleni zakhe.
Amadoda angempela abathanda abesifazane besifazane kuphela. Futhi uma ufuna ukuthi lolo thando alucimi, njalo uhlale indlovukazi ehlakaniphile. Ngempela, owesifazane, okokuqala, ukuhlakanipha. Ngakho-ke uhlakaniphe kuzo zonke izimo, bese ungasoze wahlupheka.
