Ngokusho kwabesifazane ngokwabo, ngokuvamile ephusheni lokhu kusho ukulinganisa isimo esinjalo empeleni. Futhi, akudingekile ukuba ubone ukuthi ukhulelwe. Ngezinye izikhathi abanye abantu abangajwayelekile kakhulu bangakutshela lo mlayezo ngephupho. Uma kunjalo, kungcono ukuhlola ukuqagela kwakho. Uma zingavunyelwanga, kudingeka ufune enye incazelo yokulala.
Sonnik Miller
Intombazane encane ukukhulelwa kwayo kungaphupha ngokukhathazeka noma ukuhlazeka. Ukuze owesifazane olungele ukushada, leli phupho lingaba yisixwayiso: umshado ngeke uphumelele, futhi izingane - zingavumelekile.
Uma owesifazane olele eqinisweni kulesi simo esibucayi, khona-ke leli phupho liwuphawu oluhle kakhulu. Kusho ukuthi isimo sangempela sizoqhubeka ngaphandle kwezinkinga, futhi ukuzalwa kuzophumelela futhi ngeke kuwonakele impilo kamama nengane.
Dream Lofa
Ngokwezimfundiso zalesi sengqondo, kunezinketho eziningi zokuthi ukukhulelwa kubonakala kanjani:
- ukukhula nokufinyelela ezingeni elisha lentuthuko. Okusho ukuthi intombazane ephupha ukukhulelwa esikhathini esizayo esikude, kodwa engenayo inhloso enjalo okwamanje, ingaqala ukuthuthukisa amandla okudala kanye nekhono lokuhlaziya imicimbi.
- kwentombazane encane esanda kukhula, leli phupho libonisa ukuguqulwa kokugcina kube umuntu omdala.
- uma unomlingani ohlala ocansini ohlala njalo, kodwa izinhlelo azikho ingane, iphupho elinjalo lingamane libonise isiteji somjikelezo wakho wokuya esikhathini. Uma ukukhulelwa kwakho sekuphuphile phakathi nezinsuku ezibucayi, leli phupho lingasho izinkinga zesikhathi esizayo.
- Ngezinye izikhathi lesi simo amaphupho amadoda. Kulokhu, ukuqonda kwakhe okusho ukuthi uyangabaza ukuhlonipha kwakhe nokukwazi ukuzala. Ngokwengqondo, lokhu kuchazwa ukuthi indoda ifuna ukufeza okungaphezu kwamandla akhe okwamanje avumelekile.
I-Dream Ukuhumusha kwe-Freud
Ngokusho kwalesi sazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, iphupho lentombazane mayelana nokukhulelwa lithembisa ukufeza okusheshayo kwalesi senzakalo empeleni. Uma umuntu ephupha ngowesifazane elinde ingane, kusho ukuthi usekulungele ngokwengqondo ukuba abe ubaba futhi ufuna ukuba nomntwana nomlingani wakhe.
Ezinye izincwadi zokuphupha zinikeza izincazelo ezimbalwa zokukhethwa okuhlukahlukene:
- Intombazane engakhulelwe empeleni, ibona ukuthi ibeletha umfana ephusheni, okusho ukuthi ukuqedwa ngempumelelo kwebhizinisi kuqalile ukumlinda.
- Ukuzibona ephusheni ngesisu esikhulu, isibonelo, njengezinyanga ezingu-5, sithembisa ukukhushulwa okukhulu kwenhlalakahle nokuchuma. Futhi indoda ingazibonela nesisu esikhulu. Ngaphezu kokuphumelela kwezimali, leli phupho lithembisa ukuthuthukisa isimo senhlalo.
- Ukukhulelwa ephusheni kungasho futhi ukuqala okusha, impumelelo ebhizinisini nasenzuzo engalindelekile.
- Uma uphupha ukuthi ubeletha, futhi aziwa ukuthi ingane iyini ubulili, ungase ubhekane nobunzima lapho uqedela icala eliqalisiwe. Kodwa ukuqala komsebenzi nokusebenza kusho ukuthi uzothola indlela yokuphuma esimweni esinzima esiye saqala.
- Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi ingane ijoyine. Khona-ke kufanele ukhokhele kakhulu umsebenzi wakho futhi ube nemfanelo eningi.
- Ukuzwa iziphazamiso ephusheni kungasho ukusondela ezinkingeni zempilo. Kodwa uma usuvele uhlushwa yisifo, isibonakaliso sokuphupha sokuphuza ukuthi ukwelashwa kuzoveza imiphumela emihle.
Hlaziya amaphupho akho, uzivumelanise nesimo sangempela sokuphila, ngoba ngokuvamile sibonisa izinkinga zethu ezingqondweni ezifihlekile futhi sihumushe lokho okubonayo ephusheni akusikho ngokoqobo.